Don't be in such a rush. I'm assuming you care about this dude, right? That he makes your toes wiggle, heart belch, and fists clench with frustration. I'm going to further assume that you'd like to give it another try. That whatever the problems were treatable, not terminal.
Your ex obviously feels the same way. But accept that any reconciliation is going to come in two stages. The first stage happened: in a fit of romantic fury, he asked you to take him back on Valentine's Day. This was a spur of the moment decision. He didn't plan it. He felt it. He's telling you to "take it slow" because he's just as scared as you are.
Also: I believe some people are better at communicating their feelings than other people. Some people have more emotional crayons to draw with.
Stage two is him bringing up the problems of the past on his own. Meanwhile, focus on the future. You know what the problems are, and this time, you'll see them coming. Don't be quiet about them. The moment you see old school drama on the horizon, tap the brakes.
He wants to be with you. Be patient. I'm not saying that talking about the past is off the table, but for now focus on tomorrow, not yesterday.
I wrote this post... he comes to me, tells me that he wants me back and then doesn't call or respond! He's playing games and I'm done!!
And that is why the advice you got was horrible. Your first hint is that he didn't want to talk about past issues. Getting back together means acknowledging what went wrong and if it is fixable. When both people are actively involved in working on issues, then a new start may have an actual chance.
"Taking it slow" simply meant he waned to satisfy his sudden loneliness that always strikes people on holidays. He did not want to think about anything; he just wanted to no longer feel alone. It is not solely up to him, or any person who wants his or her ex back, to decide when the issues that broke the two of you up get discussed. You do NOT timidly wait around for the other person to be "ready" to talk because you want him back and are scared of instigating another fight.
Focusing on tomorrow means addressing and learning from yesterday. Lonlieness is never going to resolve issues. Going along quietly and dreaming of renewed love is not going to solve issues. Sorry, all of you who are scared of talking--what is your other option? I'm truely sorry he played you like that. But I hope you learned that renewing a relationship means communication and not just raw emotion like Reformed Player suggests.
Which is it? He wants to try to reignite your old relationship, with conditions? Or is he walking all over you? The question you submitted and your comment don't sync up.
Do you love him and want to give him another shot? Or are you also lonely, and want to fill the void anyway you can? You can't get played if you're not in the game. If you're done, be done. Shut him down, move on, and don't ask for advice.
Giving someone the benefit of the doubt is not weakness. Expecting the best out of people means that you are sometimes setting yourself up to be let down. But expecting the worst in people means consigning yourself to a life of bitter lonliness.
If he wants to take it slow, take him at his word. Trust me. He will reveal his true intentions soon enough. And you can cut and run.
As for CLP: you can't always force a person to be communicative on command, when you want it, on your terms. It takes some people, men or women, time to find ways to articulate feelings. Now them by their actions, and have patience.
Besides, I've known plenty of hyper-communicative people who do nothing but talk, talk, talk and never saying anything.
That's what I mean, he doesn't sync up. He came over acting like he wanted to get back together but then he doesn't call me or return my calls, he's either bi polar or just an a hole!
sounds like an ass to me. He probably wants a booty call from you or he thinks you'll just take him back if he says I want you. Some guys think girls are swayed simply by those words (and sadly, a lot of airbrained girls ARE, which messes it up for the rest of us). Ignore him. Delete his number from your phone. If he comes over, tell him to leave. If he texts you, delete it. He's trying to get under your skin and obviously, it's working. He's not worth the hassle. RP is right in a way, but if this guy was serious about coming back to you, he'd at least attempt to talk to you back.