"Respect that" and "dump her" are, unfortunately, not mutually exclusive. There are going to be guys out there that will absolutely understand and respect your choice but still decide that they'd rather be with someone who doesn't want to wait.
Sex is a very important part of any long-term relationship, and its absence is just as important. It is definitely a big enough deal that it will send some men packing. That said, please don't compromise your morals for sake of a guy. The right guy for you is going to be totally supportive of your choice. So even if there is someone that is 95% perfect for you but is pressuring you to break that promise you made to yourself, he's not perfect after all.
You're going to have a tougher time than ladies that don't put this burden on themselves, but if you think the wait will be worth it, then you're making the right choice for yourself.
Great answer. Don't compromise your morals for a guy. BUT I would suggest reexamining those morals. What exactly is the moral behind waiting until marriage for sex? To me that just implies that a woman is only as good as her untouched vagina. Had sex? You're no good. Haven't had sex? You're good/pure. How lame... whether one has had sex or not does not determine that person's worth or "purity."
So, what you're saying is "don't compromise your morals for any guy". THEN you're going to go on a rant as to why you think women shouldn't stay virgins until their married\? You don't make any sense, and I have a feeling you're not a very nice person. I mean, people with good intentions don't pretend like their decisions and viewpoints are better than others. Y'know? :/.
"That said, please don't compromise your morals for sake of a guy."
Thank you for this. I'm waiting until marriage and I do hate that I am sometimes (it's difficult), but I know that it is the right decision for me. That being said, I'm fed up with people trying to convince me to lose it or just "get over myself already". Since when did it become totally okay to hate on religion institutions for promoting abstinence and sex only within marriage, yet non-religious folks can tear you down and bully you for choosing to stay a virgin? It's not cool to force your beliefs, whatever crazy/normal thing they may be, on anyone.
I'm not going to turn my back on my morals for any guy or ANYONE. =).
I don't agree with the first person. If you want to wait, regardless of whatever your reason is, then you have every right to wait. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to reexamine your morals. That's just another way of saying your reason isn't good enough -- for that person. Remember- it's always a good enough reason for you.
While it's true that you shouldn't compromise your morals or beliefs for any guy, you also should remember not to judge them for not being able to handle that. My boyfriend is choosing to remain a virgin until married, and I as a non-virgin am finding it difficult to adjust my way of thinking. I respect his decision, but that doesn't make it easy. I can see where some people wouldn't want to deal with a long term relationship that didn't have a sexual factor.
at the end of the day or night... wait... its hard but possible... its lovely to have a more open view of learning someone before youre married and sex complicates things sometimes and in some cases thats all it turns out to be. your true friends wont pressure you to go and do it no matter if you want to change you mind. being comitted to something you need someone to hold you accountable; now if your final decision is to break that oath from you, be ready to deal with what you have chosen. a lot of times when ones have kept their virginity or decide to wait get a stereo-typical response as a "you think youre better than me..." its not that at all and you have to let those go because peoples perception will be their reality... stay true to you sweety and press even when those you thought were for you werent... ill help if you need anymore talks