Honestly, yes, once or twice I have faked the finish.
There are some times when a guy quite simply can't finish, yet of course he is expected to. It is a no harm, no foul thing, as long as it doesn't happen too often. Do you feel guilty when you fake it?
Do you feel guilty when you fake it?
Interesting question. I never thought of feeling guilty. Do you feel guilty?
i havent faked in a looooong time but when i was with my ex h, definitely. and i never felt guilty about it. when i did it was usually b/c i was just saying yes to avoid the childish tantrum or silent treatment that would ensue if i said no to begin with. i have heard that guys fake it on occasion too, but i think the pressure on them is higher than on us. still, with the exception of the aforementioned example i'd rather he just chat it out with me.
Meh, I've faked it once or twice, usually when I was stressed or just not in the mood. My bf doesn't like orgasming before I do, so it's just a 'let's get it out of the way' thing. Happens very rarely, though. Did I feel guilty? Not so much.
I have never faked an orgasm. Unfortunately, it hasn't really been an issue because I think some of the guys I was with didn't really care too much if I did orgasm (or possibly just didn't know what one looked like). I just never felt any need to... I've never had an orgasm from intercourse, I'm a clitoral stimulation kind of girl. Plus, you can have fun + feel nice without orgasming.
I'm not certain, but I think a guy I was with might have faked one. We were both pretty drunk, so he might have had a harder time. It didn't really feel the same, but I might be imagining it. I'm basing it off of sensation alone, because he acted like he was cumming. It's a silly worry to have, but I admit it bothers me a little if he didn't.
Why?
It is a thank you. Sometimes, a guy simply can't, but why should he be rude about it?
hm good point
Yeah, I realize that it shouldn't bother me, but... I still have that feeling in the back of my mind that it's 'failure' in some way.
There's nothing rude about saying, "sorry luv, I'm spent/ it's not happening for me tonight".
I would much rather a guy let me know what's going on.
It doesn't need to be a big deal, but there's no need to start lying.
Maybe many guys it's an ego thing, but I had always prefer a woman not to fake. I don't know all there is to sexually pleasing a woman, never made the claim I do. For the experience to be mutally pleasing, we both need to communicate what really does it for us, as well as what is a turn off. That's how the sex would get better. Seems obvious to me.
I agree. If either partner is having an off day and just can't orgasm, that should be communicated, not hidden. Ideally the conversation would be something like, "Honey, what you're doing feels really good, but I don't think I'll be able to climax right now. I'm enjoying this and I'll be happy to give you your orgasm now, but if you don't feel right about that we can just stop and try again tomorrow." Faking it is no fun for anyone. Of course, if your partner just isn't doing the job for you period, that requires a conversation about what it takes to get you off. If things used to be great but suddenly one of you is having a lot of off days, that requires a discussion about what emotional and/or physical factors might be playing into it, and possibly a visit to the doctor if you suspect a physical issue.