Is this a trick question?
What should you do? Nothing. Leave him alone; he has a girlfriend. If you pet someone else's dog in the park and it wags its tail, does that mean you get to take it home?
Leave him alone. He is another girl's boyfriend. Find your own guy or wait until they break up (though you could be waiting a while).
Thanks for the trick question.
I placed myself in the girlfriend's shoes when a similar situation happened to me several years back. I'm glad I did.
"If you pet someone else's dog in the park and it wags its tail, does that mean you get to take it home?"
One word: Awesome.
Love your answer! And I'm glad there are still people like you in the world, Faye, that actually care about other people's feelings and have morals. It makes me feel a little bit better about the world after all the crazy questions here!
You could befriend him if you're able to get rid of all expectations that you'll ever be together. But "waiting for him" is a bad idea. If you are waiting around for him he will sense it and realize that all he has to do to get you to come running is crook his pinky. On the other hand if you decide that you will find someone else since he is not currently available (and you have to truly mean it) and date other men if he really likes you he might take action. If he doesn't you will be out with other men and on the road to finding someone who's single and available and wants to be with you. It's a win-win strategy.
Always consider how you would feel if you were in the other person's shoes. No one likes to be shat on, so obviously there's nothing you can do, unless you're cool with getting a reputation for being a homewrecker.
This is a real question?!?!
Another poorly written ans. People are not property nor are their feelings. This error in writing is the cause of so much misery!
Wow! At last I know what the cause of so much misery is! It's this error in writing! This error in writing is the cause of wars and famine and murder and rape and all other manner of miserable awfulness. And to think it took you to come along and point out the cause of so much misery. Thanks, oh enlightened one!
No people and their feelings are not property but he is being disrespectful to his girlfriend and this girl; this girl is being disrespectful to herself has well as the girlfriend. No it's not about property about respect. Respect for yourself and others. That's what is causing so much misery in the world - lack of respect.
@Rio, the cause of misery is this type of girl coming along, when you're the girlfriend. It's easy enough, as a single girl to want a guy, even one with a girl, and even to create illusions in your mind of him liking you (not saying this is always the case, but it does happen) when you don't know the girlfriend, or anything. But if you are the girlfriend, you've created a bond with this guy, you've got there before the other girl, there aren't really many other fish in the sea for you as far as you're concerned, and so all you see is some greedy little girl ready to snatch your man.
Okay, rant over... :)
Harsh...but it's reality.
If a man is taken you go look elsewhere...do unto others...hands off!
sinsin has got it. If he is taken he is off limits go else where. You can in fact choose who you fall in love with; ones with girlfriends/boyfriends/wives/
husbands what ever the case may be you move on and find one who is available. You wouldn't move into a house/apartment that's already occupied or buy a car someone else owns would you? Some may but it's wrong and illegal in most cases.
And keep in mind if he cheats on her with you, he will cheat on you with the next girl that comes along that he "shows signs that he likes".
Um no brainer here leave him alone! Would you want someone else to come along and over step the lines with your BF? Here think for a minute you love this guy, have gotten to know his quirks, what he's said that you find adorable what upsets him ect ect, you know him and are making something wonderful with him when you find out someone else wants to play house with him and doesn't care you exist in his life!
Wouldn't you feel crushed and upset at the person who wanted to snake your man away? I know I would, so have respect for her and what he has with her and back off. It can be hard I know because I've been there, with the guy I'm dating now in fact. We've been together over a year now ^^ but that's because we respected the other and made the decision to leave things alone and have minimal contact as just friends to see how life was going for eachother.
When I met him he had a GF, shortly after I got a BF. My guy started having issues with his then GF they eventually broke up. I was still with my then BF but that too eventually broke apart. But at one point he and I could have easily done something that would have made us both out to be cheaters, which neither of us wanted to be now or ever.
But I also knew and had sense enough to back off while he was with his GF at the time and he did the same for when I had a BF and things eventually worked out so me and my current guy are able to be together without ever having the need to become cheaters.
being with someone in a cheating situation hoping it'll change and they will be all yours is a fairytale of the worst kins. Sure at first you feel all rosy and happy when you spend time together but eventually you start wondering why he cheated in the first place on the gal and will you measure up to fill in the gaps or will you lack in areas as she did? When he calls later than normal or doesn't answer at all the paranoia of him having found someone else to like and possibly cut ties with you for will set in. It'll lead to worse things. So save yourself and everyone the trouble and back off. If things work like they did for me and my BF then kudos if not then just have fun living life and getting to know what you love and want from life to share with someone just as wonderful or possibly better.
Plus where's the actual proof he's crushing/into you? I work with someone who's a big flirt no matter the gender so it's possible this guy just has a charming personality or is a flirt like my coworker is. Ever think of that at all?
woah. i was asking the same question. and im gonna tell hes a playerrrr most likely. im in the same situation that you are in. but the guy i like even a blind man could see he likes me. butt he also likes his girlfriend. i got over him cause i came to realize, im the second choice and sorry soo are you. me him just flirt non stop now which is fun :p.
But I love him); soo much.
But after reading all these comments, makes me think of his girlfriend, && I don't want her to Feel pain like what I'm going through right now.
-i guess I'll find a better Guy.
i would agree for the most part, but some guys set gals up & my story is beyond complicated & comprehension.
Im in the same situation and its so hard especially after having sex with him..
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Er... Think most of u r missing something here... She likes him, he likes her... It happens and that doesn't make them cheats. Just put your cards on the table. Tell him you really like him and would love to get to know him better if he were single. Then leave the rest to him. He then gets to make his own mind up about whether or not he wants to stay with her or end their relationship to date you. If he stays with her for the wrong reasons, then he's weak and no good for you! Pick someone who is strong, honest and decisive and who is not afraid to go after what he wants in life. Just as long as he does it with kindness! Xx
I'm in the same situation really, I don't know if you really need the advice or not anymore or if this has already blown over but Ill leave a comment anyway... If he shows signs of being interested and you can deal with just being friends with him then do that.. It's what I'm doing (even though he just found out I like him @.@, but he's still being cool and is will my friend, I do wish he'd break up with her, but at the same time I feel bad because of how shed feel) but when it all comes down to it, it's his decision to decide who he wants. The guy has all the power in this case, my suggestion is to tell him u like him and then see where it goes from there... You'll feel better and if he was uncertain and that was the reason he didn't leave his girlfriend, well the. You got yourself a man... Well I gots to go now.. Texting the guy xP
'Itss crazyy :( , all disxx isxx heartbreakingg bt truee
I love how everyone here apparently has such high standards. What if this guy is meant to be with her and not the gf? Plus she mightn't know the gf so look after number 1!
I say let him know you are interested and leave it there. If he liked you he'll finish with her and ask you out. Don't play the other woman though...you are worth better than that.
Hope you get him
TTruth is .... if he is flirting with you, he obviously isn't truly interested in his girlfriend. Or he is a jerk and you shouldnt be going for him because he will probably do the same thing for you.
Tell him that you love him and you know you can't be together then if u were ment to be together then you will be. Hope you get him!xx good luck!!
How crazy!!! I am in a similar situation.. my story starts off from coincidentally meeting at a friends house. I always knew who he was but didn't think much more of it.. So at this little get together and after a few drinks he confesses infront of everyone I am his long lost Crush.. he says he has searched for me but wasn't sure of my name and then out of no-where I just popped back into his life.. Problem being he has a gf who he has been with for a year and half.. we talk all the time (obvious to me when she isn't around) now. I don't want to be a girl who destroys a relationship but if my feelings are true and so are his.. is it wrong for me to wait till the relationship ends to pursue with him.. knowing it ended because of me?? My feelings get stronger and stronger for him.. I don't want to get hurt from all this but I can't stop already too far gone.. he is all I can think of.. and every morning I wake up I find a sweet morning message and always get a night one too.. I'm not dumb I know guys can be players and what have you.. but just what if this could be my love story??? Do I give to avoid all the mess or do I hold on to hope for the sake of my happiness....
i was in this situation not long back, its crazy... mine was so awkward, and it was my bestfriends boyfriend (where not mates anymore though) we started hanging out at a good friends house and my mate got them both together and we all hung out at her house, i was the only single one their which was awkward and my bestmates boyfriend flirted with me infront of his girlfriend, he evan pinned me down infront of her and sucked on my kneck, i felt so embarassed but i could not stop him, we talked about everything together we got on so well we were like bestfriends but my bestfriend did not like how close we got, anyway i had a party at my house for my birthday and my bestmate had to go hoem and her boyfriend stayed till like 1 in morning, we talked for hours about random stuff, and he then asked me for a kiss and i said no and then said he had to go, the thing is afterwards i realised i had feelings for him which were not intended, i felt so stupid for letting this happen, but i guess you cannot help who you like, but i didnt knwo weather to tell my bestmate that he tried to kiss me, anyway a couple of weeks later i thaught it was best to tell her, but she didnt believe me, her boyfriend denied it to her, which i felt like a total pratt, but he said he liked me, anyway because of all this my bestfriend and her mum started puting stuff to me started saying i was trying to steal her man, but this was never true, i never once told him my fealings, i never told anyone i bottled it all up, and i still have never told any one, anyway me and my bestmate fell out other the fact she didnt see me anymore she was more interested in her boyfriend, anyway ye we fell out havnt talked since, the razy thing is my best mate which isnt the one who had teh boyfriend that i had feelings for, well she has a boyfriend whos shes been with for years, well her boyfriend is the (lad who i had feelings for) wel its his brother, and theirs a due coming up, which means i will be seeing him after like months! but i know hes not worth my time, but all i have to say is go for it, if you like him and he likes you then go for it.
What if you guys dated for a while and you both still liked each other but he had a girlfriend? I'm in the same type of situation but we're both best friends and I try to keep my distance but he's the one that comes closer to me?
I don't really think that answer even helps, there's more than one situation and he flirts back so that probably means he's trying to get some or he actually likes the girl...
I really do not think you answered this question well. First of all, theirs a difference between dating and marriage. This guy isnt married, and it really depends on the context. Now, I can see if he has been in a serious relationship for a year or more, then leave him alone. But the point of dating is to see how much you like a person without some big obtuse commitment. So I think she should tell him (or at least hint) that she is interested.
I answered it fine. You just don't happen to agree.
Oka no affiance but i agree with nothing you just said, if the guy likes you he likes you and you should go after him. Who knows maybe he is just using the chick he is with to get to you. You never no but if you really like him dont listen to anyone do what you think you should.
You answered it fine for a dog. Get real, it's far more complex.
Oh for a black and white world that you clearly live in.
You're right, because only a dog would consider stealing someone else's guy. There's nothing complex about it: don't steal other people's boyfriends! Black and white, you say? Absolutely! How would you feel if the woman asking the question was after your guy? If he breaks up with her and wants to date you, fine, but stay out of their business until that happens. It's called not being selfish. Try it and see how it feels.
Alright so I'm in the exact same situation. Me and this guy had a huge thing and we both really liked each other, but the only thing was he's graduating and going to college so he told me it was better for him to get with this girl he is currently dating since they're going to the same school. So, then the other day he messages me saying that he still feels bad an is sorry? I told him , it was okay I wasn't the one he wanted. His exact words : It's not that your not who I wanted, it was just better for me to get with her since we're going to the same school. This guy told me that he Misses Me, None of his feelings have changed for me, and that he wants to do things with me, an that I'm still his number one girl even though he has a girlfriend. Therefore it's pretty obvious that he cares for me and not really his girl. He's basically with her cause it's just easier since they're going to the same school. It sucks to be the girlfriend , but then again if you don't fight for the things you care for then you'll never know what could have happened if you didn't try. Now I could understand if the guy had a serious relationship and really didn't say as much to you and actually CARES for his girl then move on, but from everything my guy has told me it's obvious that he doesn't want to let me go, and he likes me more then his girl. Yes, he's happy with her.. but yet still when he's with her thinks about me and likes me more. Plus this isn't the first time he's told me he's Missed Me. So, I say if he's worth the fight and you won't regret it then Go For It... you never know what could happen unless you try.
Alright so I'm in the exact same situation. Me and this guy had a huge thing and we both really liked each other, but the only thing was he's graduating and going to college so he told me it was better for him to get with this girl he is currently dating since they're going to the same school. So, then the other day he messages me saying that he still feels bad an is sorry? I told him , it was okay I wasn't the one he wanted. His exact words : It's not that your not who I wanted, it was just better for me to get with her since we're going to the same school. This guy told me that he Misses Me, None of his feelings have changed for me, and that he wants to do things with me, an that I'm still his number one girl even though he has a girlfriend. Therefore it's pretty obvious that he cares for me and not really his girl. He's basically with her cause it's just easier since they're going to the same school. It sucks to be the girlfriend , but then again if you don't fight for the things you care for then you'll never know what could have happened if you didn't try. Now I could understand if the guy had a serious relationship and really didn't say as much to you and actually CARES for his girl then move on, but from everything my guy has told me it's obvious that he doesn't want to let me go, and he likes me more then his girl. Yes, he's happy with her.. but yet still when he's with her thinks about me and likes me more. Plus this isn't the first time he's told me he's Missed Me. So, I say if he's worth the fight and you won't regret it then Go For It... you never know what could happen unless you try.
I've got the same thing going on here. We hang out all the time- we play uno, watch movies, we're co-workers...we're great friends. And maybe that's all we're meant to be. Think of it this way- some friends you like to hang out with, and that's something you can always count on them for. Others you can always count on having a crazy time with. Other friends you can always count on to talk you through things when you're angry. Maybe I'm the friend that he can count on to play a fun game of uno with. And maybe that's all he wants. And that's fine. When it comes to situations like this, go back to basics. Friendships can last for a very long time, and it's rewarding when many people can say that you're an awesome friend. It's a great feeling to know that people know they can count on you to be there for them, no matter what they might need you for. Because sometimes, all you need is a good game of uno. The simple things in life matter too. You may be confused and even a little hurt, but try to think of what it might be for this guy. He has a girlfriend, but maybe he does have some feelings for you. He wants to keep you as a friend, but he doesn't want to mess things up with his girl. The most important thing here: don't tempt him, don't cause him to hurt his girl or disrespect her. because, as some others have said, she's got him. They are together. And you wouldn't want someone coming in and ruining your relationship. However, "only being friends" is not a bad thing at all. Be a good friend- everyone always needs a good friend. Don't make things hard on him, and use this situation as a chance to focus on being a good person and making the right decisions. You know you would much rather be good friends with this guy then "try your luck" and have it all end up where you don't even talk anymore- no one wants that mess. Sometimes it's better to keep your feelings to yourself. If you truly care about him, as a good friend or with deeper feelings, think about what you can do to make their situation better and happier. Whatever will be best for them without hurting yourself. Sometimes you might have to put someone else's happiness before your own if your happiness will hurt someone else (the other girl). Try to make things simple. He has her, they're together. Let them be together, just be friends with this guy. Don't try anything. See how things turn out. Maybe you'll get a safe chance with him later on when he's not attached, or maybe someone else will come along. But for now, focus on being a good friend.