So let me get this straight, you're saying he includes it in his laundry list of things he likes about you? "I like your work ethic, the way you are with kids, your hugs and that you're a black person." Nah, I don't think your being too sensitive; I think its sort of awkward at best and insulting-ish. It doesn't have to mean he's a racist or anything. It just means he's a doofus, and psyched to be dating you --a non-white girl.
I'd tell him it makes you feel weird and the opposite of what he is trying to convey; it makes you feel un-special. There are over 37 million black people in the United States! In this way you are very not unique. Perhaps mention this to him and ask him to come up with another "compliment."
Before I conclude, may I also point out that I don't know this boyfriend of yours. There is a scenario that I would say: Warning. This guy is bad news. If he's only dating you in some sort of fetish type way, where he's obsessed with the 'black and whiteness' of it all it may be a reason for concern. If it's all he talks about, and he sort of shows you off to his friends, I say, Yikes! Bad Bad News. But, if you and your man have a genuine good thing going, just bring up the fact that you'd like to be loved for your mind not your melanin.
Be loved for your mind, not you melanin.. I like that.
Be loved for your mind, not your melanin.. I like that.
Been there done that. Funny guy is right. Some men of different ethnicities do like "novelty" women (and it doesn't matter what ethnicity the woman is) Unfortunately all women have to weed them out. If he is a man worth his weight in salt then he will take what you said to heart and stop doing it. If not then you're better than being some douchebag's "novelty" girlfriend. Good luck!!
When it comes to attraction, men are stimulated visually a lot more than women are, it's how our brains are wired, therefore I'm not surprised that he mentions your looks when he's telling you how you are different in a nice way.
Have you asked him what it is about you being a black woman that he likes?
Maybe he finds black women more attractive than other ethnicities. We can't help who we are attracted to - it has nothing to do with being racist.
Did he grow up in a neighborhood that wasn't very populated with black people? Maybe you're the first black woman he has dated and he finds you exotic or something and it turns him on because it's new to him. Is he the first white man you've dated? Is anything new or different to you? Like how it feels running your fingers through his hair?
Stereotypically, black women are more voluptuous in all the right places, boobs, butt, and lips, so that could turn him on, and also stereotypically black women have a certain "no-bullshit" kind of attitude, he could be attracted to that kind of personality.
Would you feel the same way if he was black? Or asian? Or arab? Or is it the fact that he's white rubbing you the wrong way? Some black people tend to be more sensitive to white people saying ANYTHING at all about ANYTHING relating to black people lol. What do you want him to do? Pretend you're not black and he's not white? Why can't it be mentioned? I think you two should be more comfortable talking about your ethnicities and race in general and even be able to make jokes with each other without feeling like you're walking on egg-shells. I think if you tell him it weirds you out when he mentions your ethnicity, it would not only shut him up, it would shut him out, and next time he wants to compliment you on your looks he won't know what to say for fear of offending you. Not good. Do yourself a favor and don't make things awkward between you two, instead, next time he says it, sweetly ask him why he likes what he says he likes. If he says, "because it's different." Say, "How? What part is different? Why is that different to you? Why does that turn you on?" And ask NICELY, not attacking him lol. Then tell him what turns you on about him and what is new and different for you about him as an individual and about being with a white man in general that you like.
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