This is where I remind you of Einstein’s definition of insanity, which is doing the same thing over again and expecting different results. The dude showed exactly you who he is the first time around when he “played” you then disappeared, which–let me guess–happened right about the time you started pushing for more than a casual relationship, right? Then he magically reappears two years later and you pick right back up with him? Why? Did you think he had changed?
Clearly the dude hasn’t changed at all–he’s still all about the head games. He gets you to like him, then he splits. He reappears two years later and wants you back in his life, but only on his terms and at arm’s length (my guess: he’s married or living with someone). He talks to you every day for hours, but he can’t see you in person. Games. Childishness. Fuckery.
I’m sorry you took him back. I wish you had hung up on him when he called you back two years after he split like a coward without the basic courtesy of a goodbye. But you didn’t and here you are again, in the middle of another ridiculous game. I’m sorry you’ve fallen for him, because I know that it’s not going to work out like you want it to work out. You know it, too, deep down.
Do yourself a favor and cut ties with this guy immediately. Yes, it’s hard, but the longer it continues, the harder it will be. You are wasting your time on this chump. He doesn’t care about you–he might say he does, but his actions prove otherwise. You deserve better.
Thanks for the question.