I can't imagine there's a 25-year-old guy alive who would lie about being a virgin. What would he have to gain? Perhaps he's chosen to wait for religious reasons, or maybe he's focused on school and hasn't met the right woman. It could also be that he's outgoing and "smooth at life," as you say, but self-conscious when it comes to sex and dating.
Plenty of people are still virgins by the age of 25. Everyone has their own pace. Just because he's surrounded by women doesn't mean he's getting any. I have never met a guy who lied about being a virgin. (Usually it's the other way around.) What, he's trying to trick you into thinking he's inexperienced? That doesn't seem like a good way to get you into bed. If he wanted to let you know that he's not a total man-skank, he would lie about the number of women he's slept with. He's say, "Oh, I've only slept with a couple women" instead of "Oh, yeah, I've had sex absolutely never."
I wouldn't view this as a red flag. It seems like he's opening up to you. Maybe he's worried that you'll judge him. Be nice and understanding. Presumably, this is a guy you like, right? Give him the benefit of the doubt. "I'm a virgin" is a confession, not a line.
Plenty of people are still virgins by the age of 25. Everyone has their own pace. Just because he's surrounded by women doesn't mean he's getting any. I have never met a guy who lied about being a virgin. (Usually it's the other way around.) What, he's trying to trick you into thinking he's inexperienced? That doesn't seem like a good way to get you into bed. If he wanted to let you know that he's not a total man-skank, he would lie about the number of women he's slept with. He's say, "Oh, I've only slept with a couple women" instead of "Oh, yeah, I've had sex absolutely never."
I wouldn't view this as a red flag. It seems like he's opening up to you. Maybe he's worried that you'll judge him. Be nice and understanding. Presumably, this is a guy you like, right? Give him the benefit of the doubt. "I'm a virgin" is a confession, not a line.
I would be cautious. I once dated a smooth college guy and, while not claiming to be a virgin, told me that I was only the second girl he'd been with. However, as the relationship went on, I found out that he was, in fact, quite promiscuous and was actually on medication for sexual addiction! I don't know if he was embarrassed or just didn't want to alarm me, but just know that it isn't unheard of for a guy to (greatly) reduce his 'number' if he thinks it'll make a girl be more likely to get with him.
IT ALL DEPENDS on how he told you. Secretly or kind of as a joke? Subtle or cautiously? He could be telling the truth or being a dick and trying to trick you into his lair.
Ask the guy. And tell him you're going to punch him if he lies. And mean it.
Man, I gotta say that the CG is correct. I see the above comments and it worries me that women have so little trust when dealing with a man claiming to never have had sex.
I played Football in University and as most people know we aren't ever really lacking in the girls area. A guy I know, Wide Receiver, tall, fit, not a bad looking guy, he had never had sex. To him sex was really important and he wanted to do it when he felt comfortable. Which, for him, was at the age of 27 with the women he is now going to marry.
It is a huge misconception that just because a guy can get laid, that he automatically will go for it. Some guys will of course, just as I know girls who will. But most men I know actually care about who they share their bed with, give this guy the benefit of the doubt for now, any negative behaviour towards this can only go badly.
That's totally not a line. No man would EVER lie about that. Unless he has some weird sociopathic tendencies. Check his lamp shades.
Or unless he knows you wouldn't date him other wise. I have had guys lie about that to me because i will not date a man who isn't a virgin. Unless is happened prior to him turning his life torwards the father. If a man knows, or thinks, you may not date him unless he is a virgin then he will lie about it.
....If that is a line i am so glad i'm not single anymore
I'm not one to do the whole "I was offended by this, whine, whine, whine" thing, but I do have a few qualms with the '"I'm a virgin" is a confession' part. I'm a virgin and damn proud of it! I /told/ my boyfriend, not confessed. No disrespect to people who aren't virgins, but I know that I'm making the right choice for me and I'm not ashamed of it, so I don't act like I am.
Okay, mini-rant over. The only reason I can think of that a guy might lie about that is if you're a virgin and he thinks that not being a virgin will make you think poorly of him or be a deal-breaker. But as long as he knows that you either don't care or would prefer he be experienced, he probably wouldn't lie.
Ask him to define virgin, he may think pardon my words "backdoor" with a girl is still a virgin. Also maybe he has just recently broken out of his shell, a lot of the guys I know are too shy to even TALK to girls and they are in their early 20s! Just because he is a virgin doesn't mean he's hiding something or using a line.
I'm a virgin, too.
i heart you Cary :)
i heart you Cary :)
Every one of my guy friends is waiting until marriage. Yes we are all just graduating high school but there is still a lot of temptation. Even the ones i know in college are still virgins. Its not a red flag just talk about why he is, You may find that he is a very romantic amaznig man who just wants to keep that one thing of his life for his wife. You can only give it away once and to some girl your with is not as special and is against many religions. Plus how romantic is it to know going into a marriage that you are the first for both there no jealousy no thoughts of other people no comparison. He may just be a rare guy consider yourself lucky.
CG is right, all the shallow women thinking otherwise need to light their hair on fire and run around the neighborhood naked. Now. I'm tired of your incompetence.