Sweetie, you do realize that he's not coming back right? At least not back for anything more than a late night booty call.
There's nothing that you can do to make him want you back. He has to want that on his own. The fact that he can say to you that he didn't feel any spark lets you know that, pretty much, you should attempt to move on. As men, we don't rebuild "sparks"; once its gone, its gone. Plus, he left you for somebody else, who presumably he feels some sort of spark with. I hate to be so blunt, but you're former relationship is official history.
This is as good a time as any to officially mention this PSA: Continuing to have sex with a man will not keep him around in any more capacity than as a sex partner.
I know quite a few women who think that if they keep sexing a man crazy and participate in chandelier monkey sex that a man will stay around and want to be with them. And this is just patently false. A guy will continue to bone you as long as you allow him to do so, but will not give you more than that. In fact he will probably get up and get dressed very quickly after HE finishes, not even you. You get no overnights, no dates, no phone calls that don't include the words, "I'm on the way, be naked."
While I have no clue if you plan on attempting to sex him back into your life, I just want to put it out there that 9.8/10, it doesn't work.
So yeah, sister, cut your losses, and go find another dude who actually WANTS to be with you.
It was written.
"There's nothing that you can do to make him want you back. He has to want that on his own."
No truer words have ever been written! Great advice!
"...you'RE former relationship..."???
Also, I was in a similar situation once, only I was the girl the guy essentially let his girlfriend go for. It took almost no time at all for him to cheat on me with her and then go crawling back to her. So....it happens. Just saying.
Move on, sister. I've dated lots of people, but there's a big chunk of them I didn't feel a spark with. This is normal! You have to have chemistry with people before you can become seriously involved. The sad part is, it doesn't always go both ways. This is very hard to accept because it means a big(sometimes huge, depending on your measure of involvement) blow to the ego, but once you realize that you just weren't compatible, it makes it easier to handle.
ok i know your answer was honest, and i really appreciate that, but doesn't that kind of speak volumes about the character of basically all men? a guy will bone you as long as you let him but will not give you more than that? it just seems like a sorry state of affairs if "9.8/10" times this is true.
What he's trying to say is, guys that aren't interested in having a relationship with you will still have sex with you if you let them. Which I think goes for both sexes when he says this. You can't tell me that every single person you've ever had sex with you wanted a serious relationship with. Sex is one thing, intimate emotional relationships are another. The thing that sucks is, more women tend to equate intimate emotional relationships with sex than men do. For us it's a way of connecting spiritually and emotionally with another being, for them it can sometimes just be that they need physical release. I'm not saying that one way is right or wrong, it is just usually the majority of the sexes positions regarding intimacy respectively.
"You can't tell me that every single person you've ever had sex with you wanted a serious relationship with. Sex is one thing, intimate emotional relationships are another."
um yeah, i can tell you that actually. the only person i've had sex with is my husband, and he with me, and that's AFTER we were married (i.e. serious relationship...) so yeah. it's called "being intimate" for a reason, you can gloss it over with "sexes positions regarding intimacy" all you want, but i think that's crap.
Well, obviously this wouldn't apply to you since you've never played the field. Also, as a consequence of not having expereience, you wouldn't really have a position of which to speak from. I'm not sayin, I'm just sayin!