My Dear Lady,
As you know, your stats aren't often (ever) celebrated on the cover of Cosmo and Vogue. In our society there exists great stigma toward the disabled. Not to mention the very small or large. And even though you are cute/pretty and seemingly have a funny, smart and winning personality a population of dudes will not kick it to you. You want the truth. The truth is it sucks and I don't think in our lifetime - the way society is conditioned - any huge steps will be made on this front. BUT the good news is, you don't need all or even most men to kick it you. You just need one good dude. And that is where I think you're in luck. If you put yourself out there - to date, to meet people you will, through charm and laws of probability, bump into Mr. Right. It will take you longer than your abled bodied peers. Even the uglier faced ones and why shouldn't that piss you the hell off? But accepting what is and going for yours is the key. The key for you and frankly me and anyone reading this.
I don't want to leave you with anything less than the truth, as this is what you expressly asked for, so let me add that these "not so good looking guys" probably see themselves as more in your "camp" than their very handsome peers. The flashy hot chics in the bar eventually get divvied up among the flashy hot guys in the bar and the rest of the population make their way to each other. Again, this is solely based on looks, because as we all know many great looking people have excruciatingly defective personalities. But, alas, our species being what it is - the hotties lead the pack.
So to conclude keep charging ahead. You will find your man - it just may take more laps around the block than is fair. Good luck!