Well, I'll give it a bash. What sort of creepy?
Accidentally Creepy
The lingering stares, inane chat, slightly in your personal space and checking out your boobs often enough that you want to say "Hey, my eyes are up here!"
This usually is totally accidental, brought on by a combination of inexperience, shyness, alcohol and sometimes body habits you simply don't like.
For the body habits, I'll give you an example - a friend of mine is 6' 6". To look less intimidating on nights out, he always tended to lean forward to appear shorter, which of course creeped women right out. Nothing creepier than a guy who hangs over you like an unstable cliff, looking straight down your cleavage, is there! Once he learned not to do that, he was fine - the discomfort gals felt went away and they were able to reallise just how funny and sweet he actually is.
The eye contact thing I have mentioned before - too much direct eye contact makes guys uncomfortable, yet we all know that looking at the gal we are talking to is good and shows interest. Combine that with the fact that boobs (of any size) do have a magnetic attraction for all guys and it certainly sends out the wrong message!
Totally Creepy
The sweating, heavy breathing, crudely sexually agressive type of guy. Players without any skill or empathy, basically.
Some guys are creeps, simple as that. They don't ever see you as a person, simply an animated doll or a scoring system, or a plaything to be used and discarded. Fortunately for gals, most of them have never managed even the touch of a living boob and mess up the approach so badly that they give you plenty of warning.
You have instincts for a reason. Use them. Listen to them. They are not going to be 100% right, but they are frequently more correct than either your heart or your mind.
Didn't help much, did it. Sorry, I don't know many real creeps, just the accidental ones.
Share your stories in the comments, and guy readers - weigh in here too.
what about the ones that just give out a creepy vibe? theyre sweet guys actually, probably with some social problems, but when guys like that try to touch me--innocently--it literally makes my skin crawl. its not their fault and i feel bad but something about them is just creepy.
Trust your instincts and avoid.
You get some wrong vibe you just can't pin down, assume there is something wrong. It is safer.
ugh god, i got hit with a major creeper on st pats day that was the picky touchy type. i was supposed to be the wingman for my girlfriend, but she disappeared with to try and track down this guy, and asked me to wait for her at the bar. so i was in this dirty scuzzy hole in the wall trying to keep my writer's mind open, hoping she comes up empty so she can return faster. and this dude sits at the stool beside me. i saw him out of my peripheral and was just praying "dont sit down dont sit down dont sit down". i'm not going to be rude to anybody that i dont know but he was definitely pushing that threshold. i was wearing a coat with fur line cuffs (no, i wouldn't even take my coat off in that place lol) and the guy starts picking at my cuffs, the collar, ohhhhh so nice, soooo pretty, pretty girl...eewwwwww so i left a 20 with the bartender for a cab for my friend and left immedialy. ew. dont know what cat he falls in, there was nothing accidental about that creep though.
see im a touchy feely person (girl) and i have found myself doing that - touching an arm or shoulder - wether deep in conversation or just hanging out... i hope im not giving off the *creep* vibe... but i think girls can be touchy and not come off in a bad way... ?? or am i completely off mark and have to glue my hands into my pockets?! :)
see im a touchy feely person (girl) and i have found myself doing that - touching an arm or shoulder - wether deep in conversation or just hanging out... i hope im not giving off the *creep* vibe... but i think girls can be touchy and not come off in a bad way... ?? or am i completely off mark and have to glue my hands into my pockets?! :)
I was in line at the store, yesterday & the guy behind me was staring at my boobs to the point his mouth hung open. He literally had drool seeping out. (He was a grown @$$ man in his fifties too.) It was so awkward that the cashier was feeling uncomfortable as well. I wasn’t in a good mood anyway & I blurted out, “IT’S A FUK’N TANK TOP, YOU FUK’N PERVE!” The lady behind him let out a huge laugh & the dude wanted to dip, but she wasn’t letting him out of line. It was his turn to feel uncomfortable. It’s a horrible feeling to have a guy do that, what a creep…
Well - I have got caught out with the staring in public thing before now, rather frequently. Sometimes, yes, I am checking a gal out. Still male, after all! But a good 95% of the time it is nothing to do with her.
Have this really bad habit of getting caught up in a train of thought, or some dialogue, or a plot twist, or a design, and simply looking completely through whatever or whoever happens to be in my way. I even do it to my lady.
Honestly, I don't even see them, but it can get incredibly embarrassing!
lol - Okay, MM just 'fessed up. Wifey now knows he stares at her without actually seeing her. Oh dear! XD
There a big diff between staring off into space & slobbering over a nice rack. Nice trying to take one for the team, but not this time. That guy was just straight up creepy!!
Im'a girl, but the same thing happns to me, I just get lost in my head, and totally unaware of what it is that my face is pointed at, people often startle me with an awkward "uh...what are you staring at" an all I can say is nothing.
Oh, my lady knows, Faye. Have done that for all my life, and my sister took great indeed almost unholy delight in warning her about it. She used to try to shake me out of it, but just puts up with it now.
Though silky is right - I am pretty sure I don't drool while staring!
I have this guy in one of my night classes that's at least in his mid to late thirties (I can't even drink yet) that walked me to my car a couple of times and gave me his business card. He told me to call him any time.
After that, I found out about campus security and the fact that they will escort you to your car whenever you want. No more creepy guy! :D
Staring, cat calling, groping in the street! Everyday is like a creep avoidance mission. What's the best way to handle this? Any ideas? I find the old "wtf YOU looking at?" doesn't so down so well. Ignoring sometimes work best. Sometimes it can actually be a compliment if the guy is decent looking and whispers something sweet in your ear (double standards - apologies) but other times I have to bite my tongue from not saying something smart/rude back.I also hate when guys say "Give me a smile beautiful" and laugh hysterically. Yea sure, that's hilarious...maybe i'd have something to smile about if I didn't have to look at his annoying face! The worst situation is when you're on a plane and you get seated by a big pervster and there's nowhere to go. The worst public offender was a guy who wolf whistled and grabbed my ass when I was waiting in line for the bus . He didn't realise my boyfriend was standing beside me and was quite suprised when he got a punch in the face. The Boyfriend - definitely the best creep deflector.
I hate walking downtown if I am dressed nicely (like, cute, not slutty) during the day...a lot of guys here speak Spanish, and so old men will pass me and yell "Bella Dona!" and turn and stare as I walk away. Why do they do that? Extremely creepy.
A professor who taught Spanish once explained the men feel more like men when they can catcall and say things to a woman to make her feel good... unfortunately more often than not , they wind up scaring women and it comes across as harrassment...
I wish men would just learn that there is an actual time and place for trying to hit on a girl. Its not at line in the grocery store, not on the bus and definitely not at school or work.
You know the creepiest thing that men do? Try to force you into making conversation by asking tons of personal questions..Its just scary.
My first experience with someone "creepy" here in the US was a visiting tourist who approached our bachelorette group because we all looked non-Americans (which we actually are save for two). He was this chubby guy wearing thick-rimmed glasses (he totally looked like this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmtzQCSh6xk). He would have been (ehrmmm) cute if he wasn't drunk and wasn't trying too hard to get our group's attention. He kept saying what sounded to us like "I farted. You farted? I farted!" We were like, "What? You farted? Why would you tell us that?" And he still explained himself. He kept going like that for over 10 minutes with my cousins. We only realized he actually meant "I'm foreign" when he said "Me from Europe."
hahahaha this made me giggle so much "i farted"/"i'm foreign"..
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