Looks like you have yourself a pickle. I've actually been in this situation before, or what I presume to be this situation. I was dating this woman and told her that I was very much interested in pursuing more than just dating and she informed me that we were just "going wtih the flow," effectively telling me that she wasn't looking for a relationship.

Then, like you, somewhere along the way she changed her mind and decided she wanted to know where we were going. Me? I was going with the flow. The relationship ship had sailed for me. Once she let me know she didn't want that from me, I reframed my entire dealings with her. Never to move towards a romantic togetherness again.

That doesn't have to be your situation. But I will tell you that subtle hints aren't exactly going to make him think twice about what you said. If you don't say anything, then we won't know anything. We're not mind readers. It is possible that he is ignoring your hints though. Maybe, like me, he decided once you rejected the idea of you two together, he decided to reduce you (mentally) to chick he's dating and knocking off but nothing more.

I've often wondered why women will say "no, I don't want to be with you like that" and then still hang around some guy for extended periods of time, etc. People grow on you. How many women ended up dating some guy they didn't really like because he was either always around or just wouldn't go away. Why kill the romance upfront ONLY to have to go back against that and hope that he will decide he still wants to be with you?

Oh the little games we play.

Either way, your only recourse here is to just let him know that you are interested in moving things forward (if you are - only bring it up if you are sure). Then the ball is in his court. He's going to want to know what changed so be prepared to let him know and hope you don't say something ridiculous that makes him think that you just like him know because he does nice things for you.

Anyway, good luck and happy trails.