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HELP! I'm El Desperado for an answer here. I'm going kinda crazy...so if you spend a night making out with a guy and there's chemistry, and he ends up getting your number (he asked) how many days until you write him off if he hasn't tried to contact you?

Two days. After that point, he's probably not going to call. Someone who is interested is going to act pretty fast. At the very least, he should have called you to set up a date at that point. If he contacts you after a week claiming he was busy but still wants to go out, give him a chance-- but he wary.

The "three day rule" doesn't really apply anymore, what with all the ways we have of getting in touch. If he doesn't at least text you after a couple days, he's probably not interested. Three days is also an arbitrary amount of time to wait. Sure, there's the whole making you wait/suspense thing. But if he calls on day two instead of day three, is that really any different? I get not calling right away so you don't come on too strong. But it's kind of lame to make someone wait three whole days. For instance, let's say the guy gets your number on a Saturday. If he's playing by the "wait three days to call" rule, that means he's calling you on Tuesday at the earliest. (Or possibly Wednesday if he's counting Sunday as day one.) Now let's say he wants to make plans with you for Friday night. He's really going to wait until Tuesday or Wednesday to call? That seems a bit disrespectful of your time. Are you just supposed to sit around and wait? What if you make weekend plans in the three days he took to call you? Now he has to wait until the next week, pushing your date even further.

Asking for your number is a good sign, but he might be getting a lot of numbers. That said, there are a couple things that could hint to whether or not he'll call:

-- Did he put your number in his phone, or write it down on a scrap of paper?

-- Did he mention something specific that you guys could do together? "You like tacos? We should definitely go to that new Mexican place on Montrose. I'll call you."

You could also...wait for it...call him. Did you get his number? Why not take the initiative? If he's interested, he'll be happy to hear from you. But if you leave a message and then hear nothing back after a day or so, it's probably a sign that he's not going to call. So give it a couple days. If it's been a week, though, do like Jay-Z says and move on to the next one.
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creamnsugar65

When I was dating I made it a practice to just call the guy after a couple days if I really liked him. If I never heard back from him I knew he wasnt interested and free to move on. By taking that initiative it allowed me to close the door on that potentional relationship and to focus completely on the next.

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