You shouldn't worry. There's a reason why you are the opposite of his sister: he doesn't want to date his sister. Because that would wrong with a capital "W." Wrong and illegal. Ugh. The thought of it makes me want to wash my brain out. It brings back icky memories of the Flowers in the Attic movie. That grandma was the worst! (Kristy Swanson from the Buffy the Vampire Slayer movie was in that? Who knew? Thanks, Internet!)
If he compares you to his sister, that you should be worried about. Most (normal) guys want to date someone who is the exact opposite of their sister or mother. Oh, sure, some guys end up with women who are just like mom. They are what is commonly referred to as "momma's boys." But someone who looks like their sister? That would be extremely weird. Imagine meeting his sister for the first time and finding out she looks EXACTLY LIKE YOU. (That would be the worst Thanksgiving dinner of all time.) It's like a bad sitcom plot. You'd be out the door in a second.
Why are you insecure around her? It's not like she's one of his friends, or an ex. Is she mean? Does she make snipe-y comments about you? Is she trying to get him to break up with you? No? Then don't worry. Because the fact that she's pretty isn't influencing his feelings for you at all. No guy would ever compare his girlfriend to his sister. Even comparing your personalities would be weird. "Why can't I find a nice girl? Someone like my sister Julie." Eww. Gross. That would never happen.
Again, if you feel like he's comparing you to his sister, dump him immediately. Otherwise, don't worry. He thinks you're beautiful, hot, awesome, etc. And he loves the fact that you're nothing like his sister.
If he compares you to his sister, that you should be worried about. Most (normal) guys want to date someone who is the exact opposite of their sister or mother. Oh, sure, some guys end up with women who are just like mom. They are what is commonly referred to as "momma's boys." But someone who looks like their sister? That would be extremely weird. Imagine meeting his sister for the first time and finding out she looks EXACTLY LIKE YOU. (That would be the worst Thanksgiving dinner of all time.) It's like a bad sitcom plot. You'd be out the door in a second.
Why are you insecure around her? It's not like she's one of his friends, or an ex. Is she mean? Does she make snipe-y comments about you? Is she trying to get him to break up with you? No? Then don't worry. Because the fact that she's pretty isn't influencing his feelings for you at all. No guy would ever compare his girlfriend to his sister. Even comparing your personalities would be weird. "Why can't I find a nice girl? Someone like my sister Julie." Eww. Gross. That would never happen.
Again, if you feel like he's comparing you to his sister, dump him immediately. Otherwise, don't worry. He thinks you're beautiful, hot, awesome, etc. And he loves the fact that you're nothing like his sister.
I actually know where you're coming from, I once dated a guy who had a sister who was really thin and in shape (which I am not). I was always worried that he would think that was what girls were "supposed" to look like and that it was easy to look that way because it was easy for his sister (and him... they were a really athletic family). I know it's really irrational, but I was worried that he was comparing me to her. Although one time he did tell me that he wished he weren't related to his cousins because they were so hot... so maybe he was a weird one.
Wow.. enlightening answer!!! Never thought of the opposite... how weird it would be to be the SAME! Thank you Mr. Nadel :)
Hmmmm.....I think youre jealos that shes hot, not that shes his hot sister. Because it would f-ed up to assume that hes comparing the two of you which would be a red flag as to DUMP THE GUY. Right now. But I think its just the girl to girl jealosy because any HOT girl, sister or not, near your man may be unsettling. But girl, thats his sister! You shouldnt be jealos, just glad they cant get it on.
Nick, if you think the movie "Flowers in the Attic" is awful, the book is even worse. It is well written but really creepy. Well, "well written" is a relative term, isn't it?
So what does it mean that my sister in law of 12 years *does* look exactly like I did then? Pale skin, curly black hair, dark eyes, the works.
My bf has told me several times that he thinks his sister is one of the most beautiful women he has ever known and if she was not his sister he would marry her. He tells me that she and I are a lot alike and that is one of the reasons he loves me so much. Very wierd, it bothers me sometimes, but I am not jealous of her, just question their relationship. We do not look alike, and other than liking horses, I see no other similar likenesses. It is an awkward situation, but I believe it it merely a close bond between the two of them.
My bf has told me several times that he thinks his sister is one of the most beautiful women he has ever known and if she was not his sister he would marry her. He tells me that she and I are a lot alike and that is one of the reasons he loves me so much. Very wierd, it bothers me sometimes, but I am not jealous of her, just question their relationship. We do not look alike, and other than liking horses, I see no other similar likenesses. It is an awkward situation, but I believe it it merely a close bond between the two of them.