Ah, the close friend who watches his homegirl slore her way through life but never gets the pudding. One word for you pal: respect.
She probably respects you as a person and doesn't view you as the type who would want to be with her. She might ALSO view you as a brother which means that you are never getting into her skivvies.
I will say that I find this question slightly odd. If she's your close friend, wouldn't you want to perhaps talk to her about being more selective and less promiscuos and think about her best interest as opposed to being miffed that she won't bed you? Not to be a cockblocker or anything, but you seem to have misplaced priorities here.
Is she really your friend or are you hoping she'll give it up to you at some point. A friend wants whats in the best interest of their other friends. I can't imagine that her sloring around town is in her best interest and while you can't stop her from doing what she wants, WANTING to be apart of her esteem issues seems like you couldn't care less about her best interest.
Especially since you clearly don't want a relationship with her. It's evident that you at least slightly judge her behavior.
At the risk of being a d-bag for even entertaining this part of it, part of your problem is ALSO that you're just hoping one day she'll mount you and it will be on. Those other guys she's sleeping with are pursuing her and she's giving in. Maybe they're pursuing her because she's a yamp but they're putting in SOME work.
Try harder.
But stop calling her your friend.
It was written.
...the world of double standards we live in. You know.. Its ok for women to enjoy sex, and enjoy having sex with whomever they god damn well please, it doesn't make her a slore.
Don't be insecure, we women hate insecurities just as much as you do. For the most part, I would say if she doesn't want to have sex with you its because she values you as her friend. I personally would loveeeee to have sex with my guy friends, but because I don't want to destroy that bond I wont go there.. Sex can complicate things..
I think the guy sounds like a major dick, and that's probably why she doesn't want to sleep with him. He doesn't sound insecure at all to me- I think BFF nailed it on this one.
woops sorry I thought John DeVore answered this.... but still.
All of your evident issues aside (lack of actual concern, judgment), and as a promiscuous-yet-selective girl myself: Maybe you are just unattractive. Or unintelligent. Or lack personality and charm. Or let the creep in you be blatantly obvious. Or all of the above.
Are you positive she's humping these other guys? Or is she just a big flirt? It wouldn't be the first time a girl has implied she has done more with a guy than she really did b/c she's insecure.
Why are you calling her your friend if all you want is to get into her pants? If you cared about her even a little, as PJ says, you would at least try to stop her from cheapening herself, but to be jealous b/c everyone but you is getting a piece is just wrong.
Even if it is true, if she sleeps with that many guys she could have a nasty STD and not know it. If she never sleeps with you, you won't get it.
Think about it, buddy.
Sitting around all day hoping that one day she'll notice what a nice guy you are certainly isn't going to do you any favours. Speak up, make a move. Give her the chance to say yes. She might well say no too, but hey.. at least then you'll know, right?
great answer!
It sounds like this female friend really needs a respectable and respectful male friend. I'm generalizing here, but in my opinion most girls who are promiscuous do not believe that men will respect them or think of them as being more than a potential lay.
Being a positive male figure in her life could really make an impact. Stop thinking about sex with her; if you really care about her, you'll help her overcome her self esteem issues and be a good friend to her.
I am a total whore (sometimes). I have guy friends who I will never sleep with because for one thing, they are icky. Like dude, if I saw you naked I'd puke. Or I suspect you have a small penis. Small penis's suck MAJOR ass. No, it's not the motion of the ocean bullshit, small pee pee is bad pee pee. Unless you make up for that in insanly good foreplay and can orally please me enough to where I pull muscles in my legs and feet. ONLY then.
If she's not humping you, she either is not attracted to you, doesn't think you are interested in that relationship because you know she's a floozy, or truly wants you to be her friend.