First off, never, ever refer to yourself as a "gross-grape" again. That's your first mistake. Now, when you're out, are you giving off a less confident vibe than your friends? Are you hanging back and feeling sorry for yourself? Because as cliche as it sounds, confidence really is more important than looks if you want to land a quality guy. Sure, the superficial types will go strictly for looks. But what do you want with those doucherockets anyway?

What do you do when guys approach your group? Do you back off when they start talking to your friends? If you're fading into the background when around your friends, you'll be giving off the "don't approach me" vibe. Now, let's put aside looks for a second. In any group, you need to make yourself stand out. That's the danger of traveling in packs. You go to a bar or club and all you see is packs of guys and girls who look and dress identical. So what's your thing? Are you the funny one? The smart one? The snarky one? The one who can drink guys under the table? What makes you unique? What part of yourself would most catch someone's attention? Don't go for gimmicks, and don't just go for the default "I'm over this place and won't give you the time of day" attitude. Pick the thing that you do best. Maybe you're the funniest one in your group, or the best dresser. Showcase the best side of you and be confident.

You also might consider going out with one or two friends, tops. It's easier to meet a guy and really get to know him if you're in a smaller group. Pick a "wing woman" and go for a low-key bar or some place where it's easier to meet people.

Finally, the bar scene might not be for you. There are many, many ways to meet quality men You might be better suited to online dating, asking friends to set you up with single friends, or joining a kickball team/karaoke group/horror movie night group/Ultimate Frisbee league with the goal of having fun and meeting new people. It might be more that you're not finding the right guy in the bar/club scene.

But most of all, you have to stop thinking of yourself as the unattractive one in your group. Plenty of people who would not fit the typical norms of attractiveness do extremely well on the dating scene because they have other things to offer. Looks fade-- and can be purchased. Humor, intelligence, and confidence are a rare gift. Play to your strengths, and you'll find that guys will start to gravitate towards you.