I can't say that I've ever fallen in love with two people at once. I actually don't think people have that capacity. Now, it's possible to be smitten by two people at once though I tend to think that what happens is that there are different feelings that exist that are very strong.
Now, that's based on me and my interactions of love so to speak. When I love somebody, I'm all in. So I can't manage to be all in with two people because it's a lot of work to do all the things and express all the love I've got in me. Um, that's not a perverted sentence, I swear.
But let's assume that you are able to be in love with two people at once. Then I'd assume that all you could do is hope that you're able to ascertain which person brings the most to your life in terms of what you want. At the end of the day that's what you should be looking for when dealing with somebody long term. Short term pleasures aren't necessarily going to last or give you what you really need.
So basically you just need to Utah and marry them both.
Thanks for the answer Panama :) Yes you are right, All this time, I thought I love them both, but figured out lately that It was just an attraction I perceive in one of them, simply a crush sort of. Because, in his case it was kind of a one side love, but he's not even bothered to care for me, then how did I fall for him? But this other guy, my best friend is the real one for me I guess.Because the way he care for me, the things we share, those sweet memories between us are more than enough to justify the feeling of Love. But may be I didn't realize it much since I always saw him in the perspective of a friend.
It's so true, no matter how many people are running on our minds, but still the heart wishes only that "one special person". It definitely takes a bit of time to actually realize, but one day for sure it will be apparent :)
Thanks for the answer Panama :) Yes you are right, All this time, I thought I love them both, but figured out lately that It was just an attraction I perceive in one of them, simply a crush sort of. Because, in his case it was kind of a one side love, but he's not even bothered to care for me, then how did I fall for him? But this other guy, my best friend is the real one for me I guess.Because the way he care for me, the things we share, those sweet memories between us are more than enough to justify the feeling of Love. But may be I didn't realize it much since I always saw him in the perspective of a friend.
It's so true, no matter how many people are running on our minds, but still the heart wishes only that "one special person". It definitely takes a bit of time to actually realize, but one day for sure it will be apparent :)
i know alot of people are going to disagree with me about this, but we were created to love everyone, it is purely the result of hundreds of years of the old mainstream monotheistic judeo-christian brainwashing that has trained us to think that love has to be something that is "held on to" so to speak,and can only be given to one person at a time, to the point where we are suffocating our partners, and more importantly ourselves. Love should flow freely throughout our lives and we should give and receive as much as we possibly can while we are on this earth. blessed be :)
Indeed, there are different loves: familial love, friendship love, romantic love, etc. (Some can overlap, like friendship/romantic love). They're similar but definitely have different "essences" and some loves are more powerful than others. A strong, real romantic love - I agree with Panama and say that it's extremely difficult to have that for more than one person. After that, I have to question if it's not just a short-term infatuation.
So I agree with you that you can love everyone - just not in the same way.
go for the second guy you "fell in love with," because if the first was real love then you wouldn't have feelings for another.