Actually, psychologists are way ahead of us; they've been testing what people find attractive for years, and it turns out excessively skinny women are at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to attracting men. Turns out, it's just not appealing to a lot of guys. Not surprising, as most model body types actually require the model to have a Y chromosome according to some scientists.
Now, this isn't to say there aren't guys into skinny women, just that so far, the overwhelming evidence says that the majority of men like women that they can actually talk to and have a burger with.
It's worth noting that skinny models exist not because it's some standard of attractiveness but because fashion designers are essentially too lazy to draw clothing in realistic proportions. Fashion drawings use unrealistic human proportions because it makes the clothes look better on paper, and rather than do some math, fashion houses started demanding only women who looked like their drawings.
Something to consider the next time a TV commercial tries to guilt-trip you about how much you weigh.
As a guy I can tell you tt's not all about looks. Looks may get my interest, but they won't hold it. The women I find most visually appealing are ones that have distinctly womanly attributes - hips and boobs. That's just the way my tastes run. I think most of my guy friends kinda agree with me too. That being said I've dated skinny girls and I've dated bigger girls and relationships ended never, ever failed over issues looks or weight.
Thanks for that! It's a very honest and refreshing point of view! :-)
I think it's pretty pointless to ask questions like this, unless you're just trying to get an answer that will make you feel better. All guys like different things. A girl that's "fat" to one guy might have a perfect Playboy body to the next. It would be like asking one woman if all women like super muscular guys--obviously some will find it sexy and some will find it unappealing/ridiculous looking.
It's pretty cliche at this point, but just find guys that are into you, whatever your size. Like Chris Cornell (of Audioslave and Soundgarden) said, "to be yourself is all that you can do." Once you realize and accept that, it's definitely a breath of fresh air.
I agree..... I am a naturally petite size zero who loves to eat and cannot gain weight easily... I think its unfair to say that most men prefer this or that... every man is different. Similarly, every woman is different. And we all have the capacity to find someone who is attracted to us. Do all women ONLY love men with six packs and huge biceps (well I do :) ) but not all everyone may feel the same way right? It's a matter of personal preference but its unfair to hate on someone cause they just happened to look a certain way.
"Now, this isn't to say there aren't guys into skinny women, just that so far, the overwhelming evidence says that the majority of men like women that they can actually talk to and have a burger with."
This comment crossed a line. I am a skinny girl and a guy can definitely talk with me and enjoy a burger. In fact, my favorite thing to eat when I go out is a steak. Not all skinny women have eating disorders or live off of salads. Plenty of us truly eat right and exercise, often getting demeaned in the process by other women for exercising when we're "already" skinny. Please don't lump us in with the minority. Most importantly, keep in mind those women who do struggle with eating disorders need help; not criticism.
He said "excessively skinny," not skinny, which implies women that for whatever reason are so focused on being a size double 0 they actually put their health at risk. If you're naturally skinny and can eat as big a meal as your date and still know exercise is about heart health and not jean size, good for you and if the women in your gym put you down for it just tell them to go f--k themselves. But this response is not a judgement on you or the poor girls with eating disorders. The media bombards us with images of sickly models that look like pre-pubescent girls and try to tell us that's what sexy is. All Dan is saying is, there's a reason a womanly figure, from ultra-curvy to thin like you, is still seen as sexy to most guys. No slight to you.
Am naturally slender and it amazes people when I finish my meals just like they do. I can eat 3 burgers in one sitting if I wanted to and not gain weight. Just born this way... There is nothing wrong with being a size 14 if you are healthy. Just like there is nothing wrong with being a size 2 and healthy...
Dominique said it in a slightly more intense manner, but it wasn't intended to be a dismissal of any sort of natural body type. When I say "excessively skinny", think "visible skeleton".
Maybe you should have evened it out by saying guys like a girl they can go have a burger with but they don't like a girl who will eat 5 burgers 3 fries and 6 donuts in one go. They don't like super-skinny but they don't like fat either. It swings both ways yet the skinny girl takes the beating every time in discussions such like this one. People find it more acceptable to overtly criticize the skinny girl yet it is terribly 'yellow tape' to say anything about girls that are overweight, and their weight being the factor that men don't find them attractive. And yet at the end of the day a girl is just a girl and whether she is skinny or fat both criticisms are offensive and hurtful.
Ok, I guess I misinterpreted the section I highlighted. That portion really read that any skinny girl is incapable of eating a burger and having conversation. Skin and bones is a whole different story.
http://www.psypost.org/2010/07/men-blind-prefer-low-waist-to-hip-ratio-women-1092
I'm naturally skinny and just lost 5 pounds on accident and my boyfriends like... where did your old butt go :( haha
they like some chunkk
idkkkk i live in socal and they like it skinny and athletic here!
Almost every guy I talk to says that he prefers women to have a bit of meat on their bones. But yeah, like everyone mentioned, each guy is different. But I don't think you need to worry about getting down to a size 0 in order to attract guys.
By my understanding, weight (excluding the extremes) doesn't have much impact on attractiveness as other traits, most notably things like personality and intelligence. Not to say that each guy doesn't have a particular range they're more attracted to, but the same is true of women.
Most of my guy friends, while they do prefer different sizes, they like average girls. Not fat, not skinny. A size 5-7 for a girl that is around 5''5'. I'm not saying this is the ideal, but this seems to be a good average, a girl with a booty, and maybe nice boobs. I'm not even saying you have to be curvy, just perky!
Also, guys go for more confident women, one of my best friends is a 14, one of the bigger in our group and she gets hit on the most by hot guys because of her confidence and her amazing hair. Everybody's got their something-something!
What men (and women, for that matter) find attractive has a lot more to do with looking healthy than with a precise weight or body shape. Social scientists and psychologists are using a lot of evolutionary logic to explain this: healthy mate=healthy babies, so you're "wired" to look for indicators of health and find them pleasing to the eye. Both extremely (unnaturally) skinny and extremely fat people are unhealthy, which is why most people don't find them attractive. This applies to both men and women.
There's obviously also a difference between naturally skinny people (who tend to have a smaller bone structure but still eat normally) and unnaturally skinny people (who nearly always have an eating disorder). And there are also ways your brain tells you which is which--a naturally skinny person will look healthy with good nails, skin, hair etc, while a living skeleton will usually lack in these areas. The exception being models, who as they'll tell you in interviews use a TON of hair and makeup products to hide the signs of "wear" (read: nutritional deficiency).