Possible? Yes. Probable? No.
I'm not saying people don't change. I'm saying people don't change easily. If they do, it typically takes years or some epiphanic event: near-death experience, religious conversion, alien abduction, falling coconut to the head. No one ever changed because his wife or girlfriend said, "I wish you would pick up around the house sometimes." Oh, he might do it for a day or two, but within a week it's back to the same old status quo.
We are creatures of habit. We do what we do because we've been doing it all our lives. Your guy was probably never taught to work hard, so being lazy comes naturally. To go against what comes naturally, to try to change the way we're used to doing things, is difficult and uncomfortable, and people tend to avoid difficult and uncomfortable.
I assume you've already asked him to help you out, so it's not a question of him not knowing what you want. (You shouldn't even have to ask, but that's a whole other issue for another day.) If not a lack of information, then his laziness can only be a lack of motivation: he doesn't give a shit. Maybe he thinks he does enough already. Is he the sole breadwinner in the family? If he is, and if you stay at home with the baby, he might think he has done his part by working; many cavemen have that mindset. Never mind that taking care of an infant is a full-time job by itself.
Whatever the reason for his laziness, the old cliché holds true: no one can change unless he wants to change. What exactly will make him want to change, I don't know, because different motivators work on different people. Some respond to threats, some to guilt, some to a boot in their asses. Seeing you struggling to take care of a baby while trying to clean up and do all the other chores every day would be enough to make me get off my lazy ass, but then, that's me, and, I'm awesome.*
He won't help until you make him want to help. You shouldn't have to do that, but you do. How you do it is up to you; I don't know the guy or what makes him tick. You have to figure out what will appeal to his better nature and use it. He definitely needs to help; it's not optional.
Maybe you can put him on a gold-star system like we did for my kid: there's a chart on the fridge, and every time she does what she's supposed to do, she gets a gold star. If she has enough gold stars at the end of the week, we forgo the beating and give her porridge. It works amazingly well.
You could also cut him off, close up the old Nookie Mart until further notice. Since you do everything around the house, I'm sure you're absolutely exhausted at the end of each day and have zero energy left for sex. Of course, I would never dream of suggesting such a method to the readers of Guyspeak. At least not on the record.
(* Awesome = Doing everything I can to make my wife keep my fat ugly ass around.)
Know how my FWB managed to get shit done around his place? The possibility of sleeping with another woman. I know a lot of you monogamous people will get all up in arms, but frankly it's the only thing that works. I mean he washed his dishes and finally permanently fixed his chronicly broken bed frame. Not only that he even got a dent out of his car.
If I had known that's what it took, I would have thrown one of my slutty friends at him a long time ago!
This idea may not be appealing, but I swear it works. What really sucks though for him is that the girl lost interest before he did anything with her. Score for me though! hahahaha oh I still make fun of him for it.
Or you could get rid of him and shack up with a military guy. They are brainwashed into being neat and clean. My dad was in the Navy and he couldn't be lazy/dirty even if he wanted to be. He's really neat and cleans up after himself. That is something my parents never really fought about. That and he's a smart man and knows how lucky he is to have my mom ;).
So I personally just have that high standard with guys. There will be no long term commitment if that man does not clean up after himself. I can't stand that messy lazy shit. The beauty of FWB is that it's not serious, that's why I put up with his mess. I'm not responsible for it and I will not end up spending years with this person cleaning up after him.
Keep that in mind as well.
My husband has been in the Navy for almost 12 years, and I almost left him a few times because he's so damn lazy. He's neat and clean at work, but not at home. *His mother has personally apologized to me for what a slob he is.* I'm going to try the gold star system when he gets back from deployment. Even if I throw a psycho fit, he will improve for a few days, then back to his normal slobbery. That's what I look forward to when he deploys: a clean house. It got about a million times worse when we had the kid two years ago. I would break down into a sobbing mess about not having time to myself, and, like before, he would help... for a few days.
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