I don't see anything wrong with it, but it really depends on your ages. If you're 15 and he's 30, yeah, that's a problem. If you're 18 and he's 30, it's legal but some might consider it weird. The older you get, the more socially acceptable it becomes to date above your age range. Nobody thinks twice if 30-year-old dates a 40-year old, or if a 65-year-old is married to a 75-year-old.
But to heck with socially acceptable. If you're 18 or older, you're a legal adult and can date whomever you like. I think we already put too many limits on love (unless you're 18 and hot for gramps). Everyone matures at a different pace, and I've known 20-year-olds who could pass for 30 and others I could have sworn were 12.
The potential problem with dating outside your age range is one of compatibility and common ground. If you want to go out clubbing every night because you're 21, but your boyfriend is ready to settle down and start making babies because he's 34, you'll have trouble. The greater the age difference, the less likely you are to have things in common, which increases the potential for conflict in your relationship.
But you won't know until you try. If you are mature for your age and you like older men, follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Who cares what anybody else thinks? Love means never having say, "Oh, he's my uncle."
I lolled at the tag what's the opposite of a cougar, well apparently its a gerbil see urban dictionary here: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=opposite%20of%20cougar
and this was made up by SNL.
I don't know what's meant by opposite -- counterpart or opposite gender?
Anyway, the male form of a cougar is a "manther"... I think.
And willnot, girl, do whatchu gotta do!
So then, what's the difference between a "Gerbil" and a "Barracuda"?
(I guess I'm just not all that hip. lol)
Hot for gramps ! Lol! This was great advice. I think as long as both people involved are consenting adults, I don't see anything wrong with it. Everyone is different, and its not fair t place expectations on someone because of their age. I prefer silver foxes myself !
There's an old saying, "I'd rather be an old man's darlin' than a young man's slave," which sounds something like what you are saying. I agree with what Cary says. You should do whatever makes you happy. Love is where you find it, and it is pretty hard to apply logic or reason or rules to it.
I've always liked older men too ... even when I was a kid, I'd crush on my brothers' and some of my parent's friends.
My current main squeeze is 14 years older than me.
I think that one of the contributing factors that may play into our likes and dislikes is our environment when we're younger. My brothers are 12 and 14 years old than me, my parents are 36 and 42 years older than me and my grandparents were 65 and 63 years older than me. I was fortunate enough to be exposed to such a vast range or different things but, because I spent a lot of time with one of my brothers, I was more influenced by his choices in music, tv, films, etceteras. With that being said, I think that plays a role in my choices in men and why I can relate to them and can share that commonality.
My great-grandmother used to say, "Love will go where it's sent, even if it's up a pig's asshole." Though maybe lacking in eloquence, she made a very truthful point. You can't decide where your love will flow from your heart.
I say, don't worry about what others think. If you are lucky enough to find someone and you each enjoy one another ... follow your heart.
Good luck!
:-)
In general, I have always gotten along better with people who are at least 5 yrs older than me. I am 27 and even have a few friends who are in their 40s.
Therefore, I have always preferred dating older men too. When I try to get involved with men my own age, I keep ending up feeling like I'm babysitting them rather than dating them. Romantically, I have more success with men around age 32-35.
Miraculously, I recently found a 29-yr-old man with the same maturity level as me, and I decided to break my usual rule and give it a shot- and it's working out great! Thank you, universe. :-)
First, I would like to say that I do not think that there is anything wrong with this. Love and be attracted to anyone you like. It is well known that women mature faster than men. Perhaps, you are more attracted to older men because of this maturity.
The only thing I might call into question here is that YOU might be a little uncomfortable with this because, after all, you are here asking the question. As a part of the gen X crowd, many of my friends grew up with divorced parents and dads not much in their lives. This cause some of these girls to crave attention from an older man. If you think that this is an issue or related to something you see in yourself that might not be totally healthy for you, I would urge you to talk to someone. It might be worth exploring. But, then again, I could be totally off here, in which case, just keep on keepin on, girlfriend.
What I want to know is where do you go to meet these older guys? I'm sick and tired of the head games of the men my age... I'm ready to move on to older, hopefully more mature, men... help?! (I'm 38