Well, it depends. If your looking for non-black guys to approach you, say at a bar or social event, you need to hang out with white girls--simple as that. No white dude, even one who loves the darker gals, will approach a table full of black women, for fear of getting his head ripped off. Notable exceptions to said rule are Justin Timberlake and Robin Thicke, who apparently have super powers and need not be concerned with this rule.
Here are five places and things you can do where, just by being in attendance, you will let non-whites know you are "open-minded":
1) Attend either death metal concerts or effete indie rock concerts, i.e. Belle and Sebastian.
2) Join a hockey league.
3) Hang out in any punk-rock dive bar.
4) Take up fly fishing.
5) Become a Hare Krishna.
Here are five places and things you can do where, just by being in attendance, you will let non-whites know you are "open-minded":
1) Attend either death metal concerts or effete indie rock concerts, i.e. Belle and Sebastian.
2) Join a hockey league.
3) Hang out in any punk-rock dive bar.
4) Take up fly fishing.
5) Become a Hare Krishna.
...unless you like asian men, then i would just tokyo drift everywhere....
i'm a darker lady who has dated her fair share of white men. the only 'tactic' i know is to approach them instead. don't sit around and wait for a guy to tell you he's interested because it's just a waste of time on your part. it also gets really annoying and nebulous. keep it simple, strike up a conversation, and if he's worth a dime, make arrangements to see him again. if he's not worth your time, move on. believe me, there's plenty of white men out there.
Haha, I actually am a black chick that would be at punk rock dive bar. I have only ever dated white guys. But anyway, definitely going to need to be either solo, with a bunch of white girls, or no more than 2 black female friends. In a bar or a club make eye contact, smile, all of these things. Seem approachable. Dress like the kind of person you want to attract. Talk! Find something about them to start up a conversation. Have weird hobbies. For instance, I read books in bars by myself. This weeds out the crappier guys and I always make sure the book is a conversation piece. Also do weird stuff that shows you're different. Like I'm learning Romanian, for instance. Just because. As for looks, don't assume that you have to be light skinned. I'm brown, I have braids. I WILL say that I never got as much play as when I had gray or purple contacts. But still, not necessary.
Haha, I actually am a black chick that would be at punk rock dive bar. I have only ever dated white guys. But anyway, definitely going to need to be either solo, with a bunch of white girls, or no more than 2 black female friends. In a bar or a club make eye contact, smile, all of these things. Seem approachable. Dress like the kind of person you want to attract. Talk! Find something about them to start up a conversation. Have weird hobbies. For instance, I read books in bars by myself. This weeds out the crappier guys and I always make sure the book is a conversation piece. Also do weird stuff that shows you're different. Like I'm learning Romanian, for instance. Just because. As for looks, don't assume that you have to be light skinned. I'm brown, I have braids. I WILL say that I never got as much play as when I had gray or purple contacts. But still, not necessary.
I asked this same type of question on another board and was informed that white guys generally have approach anxiety with women, and particularly are anxious of approaching black chix for fear of rejection, even when they are super attracted.
I agree that hanging out with your white friends will make a black woman more approachable to interested white guys and I totally agree with going to rock venues. Add also sports bars, golf courses, tennis clubs, and the old favorite; a super popular gym.
Man I wish the world were just a bit more colorblind, but alas it's not so here is one more tip that I hate to say, but can be very true. (I spent 10 minutes debating hitting the submit button.)
Don't have black men with your group. This will almost instantly scare off most non-blacks. I blame this on the image that TV and movies give that black men are extremely over protective about "sisters" dating non-"brothers". None of my black friends are like this, but if you go with Hollywood it would seem ALL black men are like this. Grumble. I HATE stereotyping, but this can be a problem.
Or you can have your black male friend dress like a white nerd to be less intimidating, but he might not like that idea.
Fortunately, not everyone is like that (I wouldn't care myself if I were still in the dating world.)
i agree with machinewoman.
I am a proud black woman who rocks a natural and is often compared to india.arie (lol...ah, tickles me everytime haha) but i tell my friends call me skittles because i "taste the rainbow". sexy as well as boyfriend material can come in any color. however i refuse to limit where i hang out or who i hang out with based on who's attention i want, and in reality, a bunch of color stereotypes and biases made by the amount of melanin in my skin.
just go say "hey" and shine those pearlies. the worst he can say is "not interested" and hey, besides a tiny emotional ouchie, you are no better or no worse than before you said anything. no matter what color, there are men who fear rejection too much to approach women, there are the men who tastefully and confidently know how, and there are the douches and jerks who wanna holla "hey baby, how you get all of that in them jeans". sometimes, you have to be the go getter. be approachable, make eye contact, and um...go for it!
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