In the pantheon of questions I really never expected to read here at Guyspeak, this has to be at the top of the list. Seriously, I didn't see "babysitting" grandkids as a problem that would come up, let alone be a turn off.
I can't emphasize that enough.
On to your question, no you shouldn't feel that way. They're her grandchildren for cripe's sake. While I know people have odd turnoffs in life - broccoli, toenails shaped like girdles, Republicans - being upset about a woman spending time with her grand children is really a bad one. I'm guessing spending time with them cuts into the time that you'd like to be spending with her or has potentially ruined some outings you had planned. But whoopty do. They're her flesh and blood. Family does things like that for one another.
Here's the thing though, you're entitled to feel how you want. Please believe that. But it really comes off as selfish and really...doofy? What does always mean anyway? Are we talking everyday, as in, she's the children's day care provider? Or do we mean on weekends she often gets the kids and takes them to lunch and the movies and fun things that grandparents often do with the little people they love and adore?
The point is, you seem to take issue with them impeding on your life. And that's because they're not yours. You don't want to deal with them all the time so it upsets you that she's put you in a position that forces HER grandchildren on you. Sorry for you bub, she's a grandmother and grandmother's love their grandchildren and love spending time with them. Be glad she's not the type to not give a damn about them. You can ask her to not do it so much or to perhaps make more time for you if they're really taking up that much time, though. Like, if you wake up in the morning and they're a 4-year-old staring at you waiting for you to make breakfast. Yeah, you can ask for some changes if those are the problem. But beefing because she looks after her grandbabies, in general?
Bad form.
maybe she's relatively young to be a grand mother and it weirds him out? like it's an actual turn off and not irritation at the imposition. but the thought that he's banging a granny bothers him, and when he sees them around so much it's a creepy reminder that he's doin the horizontal monster mash with a woman that not only has kids, but has kids that have kids.....just saying........either way it makes him sound like a d-bag
Haha, that reminds me of 40-year old virgin and the woman he eventually marries. They called her a hot grandmother because she had three kids and already grandchildren.
Did she have grand kids before you started living together? If so, then you might want to find another girlfriend. The amount of time she spends with them should not have been a shocker.
Just laughed soo hard right now. The whole thing just is .. I can't stop laughing.
Maybe that guy meant cousins or something? :P
AHAHAHAHHAAH.
This made my day :)
Honestly i would say it would depend on how often the grand kids are around. A couple needs to be a couple, and have time to be a couple. It's one thing to want to spend time with your family, its something completely else if doing it causes you to ignore the other person in your life you have made a commitment to. If you work 8 hours a day, and the grand kids are over everyday for hours and hours because the parents are too cheap to pony up for some daycare, then that will seriously cut into the time you have to spend together. It will get old fast.