Total, stark terror is the normal response, then the numbness of fear.

Guys fear pregnancy. We don't get it, we can't, we just suffer through the changes that happen. Yeah, yeah, I know, guys know nothing of the suffering women go through. Just said that, didn't I?

We just come home to a partner who is getting stranger every day. Things change, and we really don't like it that much. The slowly swelling belly reminds us that it is time to stop being a party animal and start being a vaguely sensible human being. We mourn our loss of irresponsibility and are scared we simply won't measure up to looking after and raising a person for the rest of our lives. Sound familiar?

A few days (or even a couple of weeks) of him being distant is totally normal. We guys are, well not exactly slow, but we take some time to process emotional upheavals of this magnitude. As much as I detest that whole "Men are from Mars" thing, it is right in that men and women process emotions differently. Women tend to talk them out, men usually withdraw into themselves and look them over, walking around them and kicking the tires. It makes for poor communication at times.

Get talking to him, remind him that you are in the same boat too and could really use some support right now. Right now you really need him, and he really needs to feel useful. A win-win situation for both of you. All you need do is talk to him about it.