Okay, NEVER use the phrase “wear at a girl’s vagina” again in any context. Reading those words in that order made me make a lemon face, and that’s not a good sign. As a general rule, avoid anything that makes your honeypot sound like a carpentry assignment.
As for your question, I’ve definitely heard of women being deflowered by their horses before (that sounded way dirtier than intended), but that may be because my wife rode horses growing up. I think that phenomena is fairly common knowledge though. And even if it isn’t, no, you don’t need to be worried.
Even assuming the guy you end up giving your V-card to is sexually experienced enough to notice anything about your hymen in the midst of making love to you, that’s not why he’s there. Believe it or not, most guys aren’t after a virgin for their precious, unbroken hymen (although if properly removed, it does make a lovely offensive tea cozy).
If anything, the hymen is an obstruction. It’s like a chocolate cake that comes in a glass cube. Yes, the cube ensures freshness, but screw the cube, there’s CAKE! Trust me, you’re going to have awkward elbows, deafening silences, painful maneuvers and confusing smells to contend with when this finally goes down…losing your hymen ahead of time is just one less thing to worry about on the day.
And if for some crazy reason your hypothetical first lay does bring up the lack of resistance “down there,” just say “oh, well, you probably just can’t reach it.” The implication that he has a tiny penis will be far too soul-crushing to leave him any option but to change the subject.
In short, a prematurely broken hymen is no big deal (assuming you’re not writing this from Tehran). What’s really concerning is the thought that you’d date someone who thinks you’re lying when you say you’re a virgin. Don’t do that.