Okay, NEVER use the phrase "wear at a girl's vagina" again in any context. Reading those words in that order made me make a lemon face, and that's not a good sign. As a general rule, avoid anything that makes your honeypot sound like a carpentry assignment.
As for your question, I've definitely heard of women being deflowered by their horses before (that sounded way dirtier than intended), but that may be because my wife rode horses growing up. I think that phenomena is fairly common knowledge though. And even if it isn't, no, you don't need to be worried.
Even assuming the guy you end up giving your V-card to is sexually experienced enough to notice anything about your hymen in the midst of making love to you, that's not why he's there. Believe it or not, most guys aren't after a virgin for their precious, unbroken hymen (although if properly removed, it does make a lovely offensive tea cozy).
If anything, the hymen is an obstruction. It's like a chocolate cake that comes in a glass cube. Yes, the cube ensures freshness, but screw the cube, there's CAKE! Trust me, you're going to have awkward elbows, deafening silences, painful maneuvers and confusing smells to contend with when this finally goes down...losing your hymen ahead of time is just one less thing to worry about on the day.
And if for some crazy reason your hypothetical first lay does bring up the lack of resistance "down there," just say "oh, well, you probably just can't reach it." The implication that he has a tiny penis will be far too soul-crushing to leave him any option but to change the subject.
In short, a prematurely broken hymen is no big deal (assuming you're not writing this from Tehran). What's really concerning is the thought that you'd date someone who thinks you're lying when you say you're a virgin. Don't do that.
Great advice here:
"What's really concerning is the thought that you'd date someone who thinks you're lying when you say you're a virgin. Don't do that."
To the questioner: whatever bits of Funny Guy's words of wisdom you follow, this one is the dusted diamond of them all.
My first was a guy who disbelieved my virgin status, which I (unwisely) told him AFTER we had done the deed a few times. At the time, he was self-absorbed, selfish, and not very concerned with my feelings in, or out, of bed. I dumped him pretty quickly, which was very empowering.
*Sometimes*, his rejection of my truth still rings in my head. I let it remind me to never let a guy near my naked beauty unless he realizes what a privilege it is.
You probably have a great boyfriend, so don't concern yourself with whether or not he will believe you, or care. Enjoy him treating you like the equestrian princess that you are. :)
FOR THE RECORD, girls in Tehran are smarter than that... they don't stay virgins until marriage. They just get hymenoplasties a few weeks before their weddings.
Hey, no one worries about the wellbeing of Tehranian women because they think they're not smart. It's more the whole "stories of women getting raped, then stoned to death to 'end their shame'" thing. We don't like that. That makes us cringe. And if a hymenoplasty can keep that from happening, then go for it.
Alright Swaim, do you even know where the hymen is? Its the opening to the vagina. Its not way far back inside or something! If a guy has penetrated you (well, a lady, not YOU lol), chances are the hymen has been broken. In fact, many many ladies, not just horseback riders, have had their hymens broken. Just the act of inserting a tampon can break the hymen,.... and I would hope that a girl loses her virginity after she has started menstruating. Anyway, I just have to say I think its such a strange thing that the hymen is such a big deal to be "broken" and yet lots of people dont know where it is! To the questioner, these days with tampons most girls actually have their hymens torn already (or at least partially) and only think they've had theirs torn the first time because of slight bleeding. This bleeding is actually usually from small tears in the lining of the vagina- not the hymen. I'm just telling so that if you do bleed a bit dont be confused since you think you're hymen's already broken. And, the best way to prevent these small tears is to be very relaxed and turned on so you're fully lubricated. Using lube as well is a good idea. Have fun!
Did you know that there are different kinds of hymens in women? Like, different shapes and multiple holes? There are some that need to be broken by a doctor because nothing short of a scalpel can penetrate that shit. Also, the only things that have hymens are human females and horse females! Weird! And your hymen totally has no real medical reason for being there, except to be a jerk.
Also, joke = exaggeration. Yes, we can point out a hymen, but it's funny/the ultimate burn to say that some asshat couldn't feel your hymen breaking because he's got a wee peep. And honestly, if a guy is bitching about things not being tight enough to fit him (especially if you are a virgin) then he's got a seriously wee peep to worry about.
"If anything, the hymen is an obstruction. It's like a chocolate cake that comes in a glass cube. Yes, the cube ensures freshness, but screw the cube, there's CAKE!"
Best. Quote. Ever.
I love your take on this Swaim, great answer.
Here I was, all these years, thinking the hymen was some mythical beast of legend that ate sailors who strayed too close to the edge of the earth.
Seriously though, I wouldn't know a hymen if it punched me in the mouth. I've never seen one, and I certainly don't begrudge a woman for not having one. I honestly don't think he'll notice or care unless he's specifically looking out for it.
In days of Yore a hymen was like a sort of warranty card. Or a freshness date like those inkjeted on milk cartons but in this case made of tissue. It use to be a very young man's fantasy of deflowering a certified virgin. But heck with kids these days and their physical activities as well as sexual activties taking place so young, it's a wonder the boy knows where to put it let alone if his member pushed through or broke a hymen. Unless of course he is and she is the very unlucky ones to have been born with a hymen made of Teflon.
About the insults to the boy concerning size this girl sounds way too young to be having sex let alone ad lid a few zingers about the boys tool
size. I doubt that he would even hear her coments above his own panting and excitment.
Tiny adorable little penises is one of the cutest tags I've ever heard. Lol
From your cake comment: Are hymens then there to insure freshness? I just had the mental image of febreeze-esque flowers on a breeze flying out of a hoo-ha. Well I guess we can safely say they don't go stale easily.
The importance of a hymen in the days of yore likely had more to do with a lack of birth control or paternity tests than a teflon milk carton deflowering fantasy.
I kind of got stuck at the words "Horseback riding can wear at a girl's vagina after many years". Is this like scientific fact? Cause really that just puts a BAD mental image of it slowly being worn away to nothing and quite frankly I have ridden horses for many years and never heard this phrase. Infact I feel that if I repeated that outloud at the barn I'd find myself head first in the manure pile. If anything it sounds like an excuse. How many guys would hear that and never go near another horse rider again?
Wow. Started writing and got off topic.. Does anyone really care about deflowering nowadays? I mean unless you collect the names of everyone you've deflowered as a trofy list. But that borderlines weird (to each their own).
The point I was slowly aiming for is that every guy I have asked (my phones still blowing up) has said that they could careless. If they're getting sex, what's the difference? Why even bring it up with someone you're sleeping with? Really.
If they don't believe you then I wouldn't call the trust level in your relationship quite up to par.
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