The answer to this one is much easier than you might think: Be discreet, and make sure you find guys who will be too. And by that I mean be discrete in every possible way.
The thing is, most of the time when someone is labeled with the "slut" tag it comes out of jealousy or insecurity or some such emotion, but in truth it is almost always brought on by loose lips: Either the girl is talking about her hook ups (sometimes to someone they think is a good friend who may be a blabber) or the guy is bragging about it to his friends. Either way, it's bad news.
If you want to be sexually active, which in my book is great, just keep it as low profile as possible. This is not guaranteed to succeed but should go a long way. Oh and always protect yourself.
Theres nothing wrong with being sexually active and being a woman. This isn't the 50's god damn it! Do as you please, use protection and like the MM said be aware of who it is your sleeping with.
Condom, Condom, Condom!!! Otherwise, enjoy yourself. Don't apologize for what you want. Just be SAFE!!! Condom, Condom, Condom!!!
I have this exact problem I'm very sexually active I hardly went out wen I was in high skool bcus i didn't want to loose focus on my goal which was to graduate early nd I achived it =) but now dat I graduated nd I live on my own I'm a party freak I love going out nd having fun nd most of the timi end up hookin up wit someone da problem is I usually party wit the same people and I don't want to be considered easy..
THANK YOU! That is just about exactly what I wanted to hear-discretion and protection I can manage, and if he can't, then his loss! ;-)
same situation here, and i think that the answer was spot on. when i am out of a relationship i still need sex and the last time around i simply found one steady booty call, as it were, to keep me fulfilled until the next relationship came around. you're not alone in wanting that boyfriend material to come along, but also wanting to be satisfied in the meantime.
as for the loose lips i just want to agree and share my own experience that when i did feel comfortable to tell my current boyfriend how i kept myself busy during the lulls, although i was always careful, never emotionally attached and very discreet, he felt the need to label me without hesitation as a slut. this was, as i see now - and am so glad to see that i'm not alone in this opinion - triggered by his own jealousy and insecurity. exactly as m.m. said. of course realizing that now doesn't mean that his harsh words didn't hurt at the time. and when he regained his cool he was able to see that too.
so just to add my own bit of advice. be confident in what you do and remember that you're not alone in what you're feeling. you have all the right in the world to go out and find something to satisfy yourself without the whole world slapping on a label just because they wish they had what you do.
I can't beleive no one has mentioned the most obvious answer of all:
FUCK BUDDY.
Get one! I don't want to go home with randoms and get gross stds but man its so hard to find a guy of quality, especially at college. I never even thought it would be difficult when i was younger, but it so is! Maybe I watched too much romantic comedies or somehting but my God its like every guy at college is missing a brain and all he wants to do is have sex, eat ramen noodles, smoke pot, drink, sleep for 374387 hours, and then do it all over again! No one can come up with cute witty remarks while I'm buying coffee it seems....But, I digress. Get a fuck buddy. Its a beautiful thing!
yeah dating in college is so hard! All the guys I have meet have acted like they aren't interested in relationships of any kind.
Honestly, the slut thing is bullshit, do what you want and do worry about what people think. If you are happy and making the right decisions for yourself, who cares that rude people might call you a slut?
Lol I guess the Rachels agree... and I'm sure that when you write "make the right decisions for yourself" that means always use a condom ;)
This girl is most certainly a slut and should be ashamed of herself.
This girl should most certainly be considered a slut. She should be AHmed of herself.