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How can i as a girl go about asking a guy i have class with for coffee next time we have class together without being too forward? We just started talking so i don't want to be too forward.

Well, you could write him a note, wear a sign around your neck, or use smoke signals, but most people would use their mouth to make the vaguely meaningful noises we refer to as talking.

Just ask him!!!

Look, you have got a reason for asking him - you share a class. Ask him if he has time to talk about a couple of the concepts presented in class over a coffee.

What is wrong with being forward, anyway? Much better than sitting and waiting patiently and passively. Get yourself out there and grab life with both hands - you only get the one shot at it. Why waste time?

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I hope she's trying not to be forward because she doesn't want to "scare" the guy away and not because she believes girls should be passive/patient in a relationship. Either way, you got it right, MM. Go ahead and ask!

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I think the asker is more scared of the guy not reciprocating and then having to see him in class all the time. Awkward...

Mystery Man

Most guys learn there is no shame or awkwardness in someone saying no to them by about 16. You ask, and if you get turned down, well, such is life. Not a huge stress.
No reason gals shouldn't learn the same thing.

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Being awkward in class towards each other after-the-fact is much preferable to the alternative. What's the old phrase? Better to have asked and gotten shot down than never to have asked at all? Or something along those lines.

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Agreed. Nothing's more distracting than the suspense and anticipation that comes with desire. If you ask, at least you have your answer and can move on. It might even help ou concentrate, since you'll be trying to shut thoughts about him out.

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Just walk out of class alongside him if he's alone, and make some comment about the lecture. If he responds say, "hey, I'm going to grab a coffee, want to come?"
Done.

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