Mia, this is crazy! I remember over the summer when you asked about this very issue, and I chimed in about how I was in a similar situation. Well, guess what? Me and that guy from last semester ended up starting things back up too!

He contacted me the first weekend of school, and it just sort of went from there. We're not official yet, but it looks like it might end up that way at some point.

We also had no contact for several months, and we "broke up" over some trivial sh*t as well. The similarities are almost weird haha. But cool. Glad things worked out for you!

that is sooooooo true. how many movies have been made where there's the epic scene where they break up and we see each side going home absolutely miserable over the turn of events, and the movie ends up with them happily ever after. that actually does happen sometimes. my sister too was hooked on my brothers best friend for YEARS, this started when she was like 15. she swore she would marry him one day and we all laughed and patted her pretty little head over her idealist romanticism. they got together, moved out west, broke up. that was 14 years and 2 kids ago and they are the happiest and still the most in love couple i know.

It's sucks when that happens, doesn't it? The relationship ends, and suddenly the looming months ahead of self-analysis, pain and recovery just don't look enticing at all. And as much as we may hate going through it, the one thing I've learned (esp. during my last breakup) is that once the rose-tinted glasses are honestly off, you can't help but be clearer about all the mistakes and regrets you both suffered through while in that relationship.

The one thing I did right this time though -- instead of embracing the ghost of my ex and whatever memories we'd created, I decided to embrace the lessons brought about by the failure of this last relationship(so I totally agree Dan). I've learned to trust my intuition and heed that inner voice that screams from deep inside when something isn't going right in the relationship. I've learned the difference between lust and love, and that commitment actually requires the will to see things through not just mere intent. I've learned that anyone can say "I love you" and mean it in that moment, but that in order to remain "in love" with someone, a hefty but steady dose of work, candor and determination is required.

And most importantly of all, I've learned that sometimes saying goodbye to someone you love is probably the kindest thing you can do for them if remaining in the relationship without attempting change on either of your parts means that you're both in store for continued misery.

Not really. He may be thinking the same thing & waiting for her to contact him.

OP: Call him & ask him how he is doing. I think you’ll know from how the conversation goes. I don’t know…, just a thought.