Like a great counterfeit painting, creepy guys, at first glance, have all the markings of authenticity. They listen attentively to what you’re saying, they ask questions, they give you strong eye contact, open doors for you, pick up the tab, kiss you goodnight and wait ’til you get in your lobby before driving off.
A smooth creep is good at what they do, and often women will only find out after some time that their sweetheart is a pile of human sh*t. The best ways to arm yourself against discovering your man is a turd wrapped in sincere clothing is through your own gut checks and… reasonable cross referencing.
Obviously this becomes much more difficult if you can’t cross check this guy with friends, colleagues, the internet, etc. If you met this dude at a random bar, and share no social network, your instincts and observations will have to carry you alone.
But if you’re dating a new guy by way of a co-worker set up/friend of a friend situation, then put out your feelers. Don’t assume he’s a prick, but if your radar is picking up high levels of prickishness, do yourself a favor and ask around. You’re bound to get reoccurring themes that, either “Jason is a good dude” or, “Jason is a smooth talking ass; prone to playing women like an Xbox.” Of course, that begs the question, why would your pals set you up with this slime in the first place? But that’s a different question.
The overarching truth: time will tell. By experiencing him over a course of time, seeing him relate to his friends, family and the world at large you can draw your own conclusion. You need time in the pool to see what kind of creature you’re doing the breaststroke with.
Good Luck Shirley Holmes.