Like a great counterfeit painting, creepy guys, at first glance, have all the markings of authenticity. They listen attentively to what you're saying, they ask questions, they give you strong eye contact, open doors for you, pick up the tab, kiss you goodnight and wait 'til you get in your lobby before driving off.
A smooth creep is good at what they do, and often women will only find out after some time that their sweetheart is a pile of human sh*t. The best ways to arm yourself against discovering your man is a turd wrapped in sincere clothing is through your own gut checks and... reasonable cross referencing.
Obviously this becomes much more difficult if you can't cross check this guy with friends, colleagues, the internet, etc. If you met this dude at a random bar, and share no social network, your instincts and observations will have to carry you alone.
But if you're dating a new guy by way of a co-worker set up/friend of a friend situation, then put out your feelers. Don't assume he's a prick, but if your radar is picking up high levels of prickishness, do yourself a favor and ask around. You're bound to get reoccurring themes that, either "Jason is a good dude" or, "Jason is a smooth talking ass; prone to playing women like an Xbox." Of course, that begs the question, why would your pals set you up with this slime in the first place? But that's a different question.
The overarching truth: time will tell. By experiencing him over a course of time, seeing him relate to his friends, family and the world at large you can draw your own conclusion. You need time in the pool to see what kind of creature you're doing the breaststroke with.
Good Luck Shirley Holmes.
Keep your legs crossed. Creeps won't wait. Good men do.
EXACTLY what I was thinking!!
And you would be wrong - you shouldn't need me to tell you that. Look at 50% of the questions answered on this site.
Kamakula are you saying that some creeps will in fact take on the challenge and play along with the waiting game? Because I sort of think that might be a part of the game for some guys. Perhaps not the young horn-dog-need-it-now type guy, but maybe an older one with more experience playing the field.
Yep, some creeps will wait.
Hell yeah they will, especially if they're getting it from other girls in the meantime. Besides, a lot of girls seem to think that 3 weeks is a long enough time to make a guy wait, when in reality, it's nowhere close. Six months, maybe, but not less than a month.
Blushing and shyness is a great sign of sincereness. As Ive stated before, even an experienced guy will blush and be just a tad shy with a woman he is fancying. And all those authenticity listed above (opening door, listening to you, etc) are actually signs of a sincere person. Usuallly a good guy listens to you, keeps eye contact, have SINCERE eyes, and they seem slightly awkward but you can sense his intentions are good.
A charmer:
- touches you constantly (invades your privacy right away)
- wants you to do what he wants, knows how to charm you with words
- extremely smooth
- sly smile, all teeths
- is moving the relationship fast, talking about forever with you
- dresses like a total charmer, rolled up sleeves, watches, sunglasses
- makes you think like youre the only one for him
- makes you feel guilty for not having sex right away
Pretty much your gut will let you know. Trust your intutions women!
Yeah, all of this can be said about non-charmers. The valid takeaway here, go with your gut.
All you can do is go with your gut, really. There are guys - and gals - who are sincerely in like until the chase is over. It's the chase and maybe the notch that's thrilling. Not much you can do in that situation but trust your instincts.
A guy liked me at first I liked him but I was not sure because we work together,but now I really like him I told him .after I told him I file like I should have not told him.he stail talks to me but its not the same .any advice.