"Fifteen year old porn addicts who've never actually seen a vagina?" I nearly spat out my water, RP's answer is hilarious, strangely sweet, and absolutely right.

It's amazing how many women out there are genuinely concerned about this issue. Thanks to pr0n, women assume that their men want their nether-regions to look like those of a 12-year-old, and that includes it looking like nothing more than a nice clean slit.

I have an older friend who confessed that she was considering the surgery the question-asker referred to. I looked it up, and was nauseated by what I read. It sounds incredibly painful and just not worth it. Any guy who has an issue with it has major issues himself.

Spot on. Guys are happy enough just getting some quality time with the vajayjay, we don't care much how it looks, our own package not being a work of art and all.

Let me start out saying that I'm not in favor of plastic surgery for the mere reason to enhance one's body (reconstructive surgeries stemming from accidents or traumas are different in my mind...).

But I'm curious...after punching out three kids, I know things are a bit loosy-goose in the netherlands. So if " it's all about fit. Grip. Friction. Oh, and effing chemistry" could the guy's mind-set be more of tightness instead of being smaller?

Just asking...

JDV, you'd be surprised what men hold against the ladies. Personally, I think that this is just another excuse. Whatever happened to "Look, girl, I'm just not that into you"?

I feel that the problem is that men think that a woman with large lips = loose vagina. Obviously all bodies are different and it has nothing to do with the "tightness" of a vagina but they still equate the two. I love how men also complain about large nipples. Sigh a female can never win. But we have to love their nasty sagging balls hahah

Oops, I thought the question was about a constellation.

I 100% agree with you John. I think that this trend started unfortunately, because of porn. Most women in porn seem to have their labia reduced. I am guessing this is because it makes it easier to see the penis going in and out?? It just makes NO sense to me why any woman or man would be concerned about this. I agree, plastic surgery, whether it is for breast implants or whatever is usually butchery and usually (unless extremely well done and subtle) just looks fake. It is just one more thing appearance wise for women to be irrationally concerned and insecure about when they could be thinking about real issues.

I never cease to be amazed at the things some women do because 'they think men prefer them'. Where are they getting this information? I want serious words with whoever is speaking on our behalf, because I sure as hell don't remember being asked.
Anybody who's seen more than a few ladyparts up close will readily admit that no two are exactly the same. We don't care what the flower looks like, as long as we get to play in the garden.

I'm a 25 y.o. woman that doesn't have labia minora, and I don't think I happen to look like a 12 year old, thank you very much!

okay, its annoying me very much when people say that a 12 year old has a 'clean slit' cause i have a HUGE labia minora. am im 12. (: only 1 of my friends has the same issue. its not only embarrasing, its painfull. it hurts. its allmost impossible to do sports due to the pain. thats the reason most people get this surgery. im getting it. not to please others, but to please me.if your getting this surgery for looks. theres no reason. but if you have physical pain. i see no reason why not to get this surgery. whatever the reason. love yourself, no matter what. ive heard men prefer large labia. so dont worry. if i didnt have physical pain i would not get this surgery, but i do have pain, so i am. theres different sides. if your getting this surgery for others to think its " pretty " i recommend you get help. not to be rude , but its true. you shouldnt care what your falala looks like. neither should anyone else.

Maggie, it's not about you. It's about all the women who feel insecure and are afraid to have a relation with somebody because of their hanging bits.
Now, the problem is...do men really like them? or they just don't say nothing, because they're afraid they will lose their toy?
What if everything is all right, just until sex comes and they your bf goes and moans at his friends about your enlarged labias? is this fair? No! does this happen a lot? Yes!

If you look at sites that feature quality nude photography, there are lots opulent flaps on display. You can tell the photographers like girls who have extra drapery. In other words, they're more interesting to photograph and they make for more interesting photographs. I think most men just want to be in the same room with one - practically any one. Porn is, whatever, what ignorant men, not just boys, think is sexual: constant facials or other external shots, mindless in and out hammering, anal around the clock, etc.. In porn women come if their clit gets rubbed for three seconds. It's just colossally stupid sex.

Thank you so much! I have felt really weird about myself for about a year now and I find this really comforting. I am only 13, but I still felt self conscious about my labia. Now i know it is normal and isn't bad. :)

do doctors find it weird birthing children to women with larger labias????

do doctors find it weird birthing children from women with larger labias? Im scared of starting a family for this reason.

Ok people.. seriously. Girls with large labia minora have absolutley nothing to worry about - they're just as sexy as the next girl. I've been through a lot of these sites, I have big pussy lips and I used to worry intensively that guys wouldn't find them "attractive". But that's just a misnoma!! Every single forum site include guys saying large labia are great for oral sex, and they wouldn't want a girl with nothing down there.
This link is to an article about why Playboy and the like never show girls with large vaginal lips: http://www.sexylabia.com/articles/playboy-labia.htm . It is a porn site, unfortunatley, so don't visit it if you're under 18. If you are old enough, it has some really good advice and pictures for gals with big labia, and can really boost self esteem. Accept that we're beautiful girls! Love your own body... and please don't consider changing it.

Personally I don't like when the inner labia stick out I don't find it attractive and it gives me the mind set of loose-ness, I love when you have to open the vagina to see the inner lips it makes it more fun like a surprise inside and over all looks a lot more beautiful and clean as opposed to a lot of lips looking all wrinkled with dark pigmintation color to it. But then again that's just me and how I feel about it.

I also think that a smalll labia is more attractive. I find it interesting that you are so mortified by a cosmetic procedure that women can freely choose to have when circumcision is done to baby boys without their consent (despite the fact it affects them for the rest of their lives). And how can you say that circumcision has anything to do with religious freedom? Did the 6 day old baby boy decide he wants to be a Jew and thus have his penis forever altered? Anyway, if a woman chooses to get her labia reduced at least its her choice. Let her do what she wants, it is her body at the end of the day.

I also think that a smalll labia is more attractive. I find it interesting that you are so mortified by a cosmetic procedure that women can freely choose to have when circumcision is done to baby boys without their consent (despite the fact it affects them for the rest of their lives). And how can you say that circumcision has anything to do with religious freedom? Did the 6 day old baby boy decide he wants to be a Jew and thus have his penis forever altered? Anyway, if a woman chooses to get her labia reduced at least its her choice. Let her do what she wants, it is her body at the end of the day.

mine is dark and big too! they are not even equal but I love my vagina and all parts of it, if I have sex with a man who loves me he love my body and all parts of it, if not he is a total asshole and jerk!
be proud of yourself and feel happy, don't change your look for another person unless you feel uncomfortable! as a woman I know there are many different types of lips or labias but I am me! and I feel good about myself
don't let men talk about you like a pussy dull! there are many important things in you and labia is actually not important , if you wanna change something in you to make yourself more special that thing is not your labia! change your mind ladies :)
look from a different angle!

I am a female of Swedish decent (i think race plays a part in this labia thing)who has wonderful, full labia that come out a little when i am standing. When I was in my teens I was very embarrassed about them and thought something was wrong. A friend of mine who had but a slit for a vagina was grossed out when she saw mine was different from hers. This hurt me for years and i was always worried to show my boyfriend what i looked like down there. Also, you can count these little jewels as a radar to weed out any jerks who have looked at to much airbrushed playboys and think this is what you should look like!
Little did I know that this was quite a gift between my legs. Not only does it add a lot of friction to sex but many many men find it irresistible! It is also a sign of high fertility and sexual drive (I also experience lots of ejaculation and gushing during sex) and many of cultures prize the larger labia minora. So to all you decieving plastic surgeons trying to make a brainwashing buck on women's insecurities, I give you a big F#*! off morons! We are not barbie dolls or 9 year old girls, but highly sexual and gorgeous females ;)

I am an aduilt male who LOVES large labia minora and I'll tell you the reasons why. They are beautiful and the sight of them literally makes my mouth water. It is such beautiful sight to see a womans inner labia extending beyond the outer labia. Touching them, kissing them, licking them and sucking on them is absolute heaven. Their tenderness, smoothness, slipperyness, texture, warmth, color, detail and taste all combine for a sensual, transcendental experience that is unequaled anywhere. Massaging them between my lips, sucking them into my mouth and caressing them with my tongue is sheer heaven. And the more of that sweet and tender flesh there is to lick and suck the better. Being able to swirl my tongue all over her plentiful labia in my mouth is such a wonderful feeling. I believe the word "succulent" is the perfect adjective to descibe a womans labia!

I gather in reading about this topic here and in other discussions that some women are not very comfortable about receiving oral sex. When a woman offers her vulva to a man it makes him feel very special because it is a very delicate, sensitive and private part of her body. She is in effect saying I like you and I trust you to be gentle with me. She may also feel insecure as to whether that part of her body is beautiful or whether she tastes good or not. Thus she may have to overcome her anxiety. My feelings about that? Practice good feminine hygiene and then just relax and enjoy yourself. Why? Because your vulva is BEAUTIFUL AND DELICIOUS! He will feel like the luckiest man in the world when you share it with him. If he cares about you he is going to do everything he can to make sure you feel like the luckiest woman in the world. If your boyfriend does not appreciate what you want to share with him then maybe you should consider finding one who does. There are millions of men who do!

Addenum to my last post. Under no circumstances should women with large or unequal or whatever labia ever consider having surgery to alter them. I agree with the poster above 100% as she says so succintly and clearly:

"So to all you decieving plastic surgeons trying to make a brainwashing buck on women's insecurities, I give you a big F#*! off morons! We are not barbie dolls or 9 year old girls, but highly sexual and gorgeous females ;)"

Might I also add the same about breast enhancement. SMALL AND MEDIUM BREASTS ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL TO KISS, LICK AND SUCK ON ! And guess what,.. the women they are attached to are beautiful women, with beautiful minds, kind hearts and beautiful bodies. Seriously, I would take a kind heart and a pair of 32AA over a pair of 38DD any day of the week, If a guy is hung up on breast size to hell with him, because there is so, very much more to a woman than that. And if buy any chance your husband or boyfriend or husband is encouraging or pushing you to get breast augmentation / implants put your foot swifty to his shallow, lame ass and send flying out the door. There are far too many good men out there that would love to be with you exactly the way you are.

Bob W.

Where does anyone get the right to say a vagina is ugly? I haven't seen an ugly one in my 35 years of sexual activity, nor have I seen an ugly penis. I am a huge huge fan of long labia and nipples, the longer the better. Please ladies, don't torture yourselves with surgery or hurt feelings. If someone doesn't like them, they are too small and narrow minded to be with you in the first place. VIVA LAS LABIA.

ROFL
girls whining about their wrong looking pussies, tell you what, i had girlfriend with same problem and she just had little bigger labia majora and i find it very attractive. I just think girls are exact show of the elementary principle of mind, they want what they dont have or cannot have. I wonder if the change or surgery will solve anything. And last words : I think women as a being is the most beautiful thing no matter how their vaginas look.

Large labias look beautiful. It is such a shame that those docs are so greedy, to convince the insecure. But yeah, all that aside, chemistry. Although, I would prolly overlook that If I had some large labia distracting me. :P

I have felt self-conscious about it for years;until today! Now that I finally find out that some men really do like them, and especially finding out that there are many girls out there that have lips as big as mine-- makes me proud of my body. I already have a shirt that says 'itty bitty titty committee', showing my pride in my 32 b..Now I can finally stop being embarrassed about my downstairs lady parts.

The question "do doctors find it weird birthing children to women with larger labias????"
Are you fucking serious? Do you really think a doctor is going to give a fuck? they see all shapes, sizes coulours! Not to mention they see sexual diseases. OMG some people are just so fucking ignorant about the world!

I reckon that some men like them and some men don't. I'm 41 and my partner is 29 - we have been together 8 years and without question, then me I have spoken to who prefer the 'clean slit' or 'gash' (what a bloody awful word!!) are young and inexperienced ones who watch way too much porn - although a lot of pornstars do have lips. As the mother of a 14 year old boy who I'm sure indulges in the same, I do hope he doesn't have such strange views. A healthy body is beautiful whether you have pussy lips or you don't - geisha balls are brill for strengthening your inner vagina - they've been around for centuries in Japan I believe and oriental women are very into their pelvic floors. As long as your pussy lips are clean and your body is looked after properly, I don't see why any mature man should object :)))