I know this wasn't supposed to be funny. But it was funny. I'm not laughing at your man's expense. I'm laughing at the way the question was written.
Ye olde tiny wang.
So how do you answer the question of "am I small" (editor's note: I'm assuming that's what she meant here)? Well, since the answer is obviously yes, but you care enough to not want to hurt his feelings - why else would you be asking some men you don't know - I'd suggest the "reframe approach". What is that you ask?
Well its a way of saying yes, but then emphasizing why it either doesn't matter or how its perfect for you. So instead of saying, "yes, are you sure its even legal size?" you can say, "It's not small really, its made perfectly for me." Or "small is relative, the truth of the matter is that really big pr0n style wangs never were attractive to me anyway. I think yours is the perfect size."
Here's my question for you though, do you think his tiny wang is going to be an issue for you in your relationship? My travels have taught me that most folks will put up with a lot of non-sense as long as the bedroom shenanigans are in tact and enjoyable. But tiny wang /= enjoyable bedroom. Maybe he's a statesman at his downtown game or something.
And I think its noble that you don't care...right now. But trust me, once those rose colored glasses of amour fade away and your in it for the long haul, you may care then.
Peanut gallery...can you help her out?
That you are asking means its going to be a nagging, biting issue always in the back of your mind. Sounds harsh, but size does matter to almost everyone, and he seems to fall short of your expectations. If you can honestly, really, see your self spending years, possibly your peak years, with Little John, then go for it. PJ gave some great tips on how to reframe your response. But, be prepared that he won't measure up to your sexual expectations.
try him out for a bit - whats the saying - its not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean - well you will have a chance to see if that's real
I am sure he is not the first guy with a small wang, so i am sure there are some out there that are capable of pleasing their women.
This will not go away. Not to scare anyone, but I had a bf with a perfectly sized peen. But because he saw an ex lover of mine, he assumed he was small. I tried to convince him that it was perfect for me, he didn't buy it. It was a constant source of repeating fights for 3 years. There was nothing I could do or say to make that part of his insecurity. Ironically, he broke up with me, because I was "too fat."
My only advice - tread very carefully.
Well how are you supposed to know if he's small or not yet if you haven't slept with him?? Take him for a ride and then decide how to answer.
She could have seen him naked without there being sex!
Is it mall flaccid or small erect?? That's the question. What's the weather like where you live? Guy could've just been cold especially since she never had sex with him (hint: non-erect penis)
Its safe to say just about every woman over 20 knows the penis is smaller, for some guys a lot smaller, flacid than erect, and its the erect size that matters. I doubt the OP would be asking here over a small flacid penis.
Still all things being relative, we don't know many men she's been with and how big they were, so this guy could easily be average-sized but looks small to her. Also don't know what she considers small; I've known plenty of women who consider any penis smaller than 9 inches tiny and would refuse to be with a man smaller than that.
its not the size of the boat its the motion in the ocean!!! LOL
ok, seriously. if it was flaccid when she saw it then she might be mistaken. mine is not big when flaccid at all but when its time for action im about 9". now if it was erect and the size of my pinky then you might eventually have some physical intimacy issues.
lets be real, just put it in your mouth and see how big it gets...thats real explicit adult advice from a married man to a woman.
WOW so all womens should just shut up and put every man's dick into their mouths, right? So we're just exist to suck your dicks! talk about being sexist and arrogant!!
@aki What a ridiculous over-reaction to a perfectly sensible response. The OP is dating the small-dicked guy, right? So it's reasonable to assume that at some point they might like to engage in oral sex? And probably before full intercourse? Therefore, it's actually quite a good way to measure how big it is when fully erect before they sleep together and really commit to the relationship. Also, oral sex is fun, and you yourself are being sexist if you think that women can't enjoy actually doing it as well as receiving it. Also, at no point were women told to shut up.
Reactionary people like you, who only want to hear things that give them an excuse for an attention-seeking drama, make logical and sensible debates impossible. This is a sensitive subject, and reading nonsense into something that's pretty good advice, just isn't helpful.
i instantly believe you. science has shown that internet dick sizes are 100% accurate*.
*note: there is a 100% margin of error
LMAO!!! Somebody bragging about their size on the web!!!
ARE you in GERMANY? .. I have the creepiest feeling reading this question, for I have exactly same man - exactly same words .. previously married for almost 20 years, with one daughter from that marriage
creepy ..
Maria
it matters so much! im supposed to divorced my husband for 4years coz of not enough size,but he suprised me of penis enlargement surgery and it helps a lot,i've realized when you're not happy at the size?you are so tend to cheat afterwards,so better be true to yourself and admit it that you are satisfied or not?coz all that matters in the end is the happiness of both!!!
Just because he has a tiny penis doesn't mean he's incapable of pleasing you in the bedroom! He might just need some... props. I'd save the 'you are minuscule down there' talk for after having sex (if you do) That's when you'll know whether it really is an issue or not, and if it is you can look into ways to make the experience more satisfying for you.
i dated a tiny man with a tiny penis and *loved* having sex with him. it truly isn't the size of the wave....assuming you're not loose.
Its not the size of the wave but the motion in the ocean. Besides if you love someone the size of their penis should not matter in the least. I mean we don't fall in love with somone based on the way they look we fall in love with the person they show us they are. Would you stop loving this man if he went bald?? Or if he gained weight?? I've been with guys of all sizes and belive me honey just because they have a big wang doesn't mean they have a clue as how to please a woman in bed. I would re-assure him that he's a perfect size for you, telling anyone that they're small in that region is pretty insensitive and if he is tellng you he's small he may already feel insecure about the size of his member. That would be the same as you asking "do these jeans make my butt look big?" and him saying"yah they do"
Oddly, the ones who care about size are men. It's a punch line but so true...its not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean. Performance is everything, not size. I had a bf with a big wang...worst sex ever.
Lets be honest, a lot of woman cant come with penetration anyway. There are so many other things beside that to make bedroom play fun and enjoyable for both parties. But you wont know until you try it. If he asks you again, just tell him your not a superficial person and wont judge a book by its cover. A captivating story with a good climax is whats important to you.
The size wont cause problems, the insecurity will. Once you get to that point in the relationship, make him feel like warrior coming home from a winning battle.
aki definitely over reacted to chefsen85. WOW.