Sorry, but what you're asking is by definition impossible. It's like asking fish not to swim, birds not to fly, or Steven Seagal not to have abs of polished steel (wrapped in thick-cut bacon). I'm not saying your guy will definitely buy you something; I'm saying you have no control over it.
Because either he's going to buy you something out of fear that you didn't really mean it when you told him not to, or he would have forgotten Valentine's Day existed unless you brought it up. Really, it's a fear-based holiday. We know you don't need candy and flowers; who needs candy and is over twelve years old? I mean, me, all the time, but I assume I'm an anomaly in that regard.
Admitting beforehand that this is a fairly cynical take on V-Day, it does seem like a lot of guys--even loving, attentive ones--think of it as a deadline underscored by threat. PROVE YOUR LOVE, says society. AND DO SO NOW. AND GIVE ME MONEY AS WELL. I'd almost call it
"rape-esque," if that were a word you were allowed to use.
Otherwise, who would buy chalk hearts? No one. No one likes chalk hearts. Anyone who disagrees in the comments is a spambot and should be ignored.
It's hackneyed advice, but I say make each other something, be it a piece of art, a poem, a mix CD, a functioning replica of colonial Williamsburg, or a planned day of fun. Share some time together. It's just another Sunday, and you should be enjoying each others' company on Sundays anyway.
My boyfriend and I of three years do not do Valentine's day because like you said Swaim it is like a threat. My boyfriend is always doing things spontaneously and I find that by far more charming. If you and your man know each other pretty well I'd suggest reminding him of all the reasons he can skip this AWFUL holiday...aka he's spontaneous, he's already romantic and thoughtful, etc etc.. you get the drift. Swaim's advice is golden try to talk him into doing home made gift or just spending time together he'll feel less guilty AND he might actually believe you. Good luck :)
Is this MY girlfriend??? Okay, I won't get you anything. Except hard loving of course.
If some chick would say this to me, I'd get a bunch of bottles of wine, and a copy of the Princess Bride, and be like "Baby, let's get silly."
That just sounds like an awesome date night. :)
dude, you are a winner.
My dear Darling Michael Swaim,
I IN FACT- LOVE CHALK HEARTS!
...why do you always forget this?
I blocked the hateful information out with booze and pain. Thanks for starting the cycle all over again. :'-|
Don't waste your time trying to convince him of anything but just be thankful that he wants to exress his love for you and thank him. Don't take that for granted because there are plenty of women out there that would love to be in your position !
If you think or if he insists he'll still do something, be specific about what you DON'T want. Think of it like the opposite of a Christmas list.
That solved, I only like the white candy hearts. I may as well just get chalky mints and write on them with a Sharpie.
I managed to convince my guy I didn't want to do Valentine's Day pretty easily... Is that a bad sign...?
lol my brother actually likes the chalky hearts..
Anyway, the guys I hang out with would get me something just because I said I didn't want it.
What a lovely day for a 3282428! SCK was here
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