It's amazing how many times this question comes in, and I think the confusion has to do with the way the female psyche works.
As I pointed out in my answer to this question, Ok, so I saw this movie "He's not that into you" and it really opened my eyes about a lot of stuff, but now I want to know how do you guys act if you are really into a girl? How can we know?, guys make it very obvious when they like a girl. They practically jump up and down yelling when they like a girl (think of that idiot Tom Cruise)--something to do with a dude's caveman tendencies. Nothing subtle here.
Women, on the other hand, LOVE to play coy, shy, stand offish, bored and indifferent, which makes them believe guys are the same way. Guys are not built this way, if a guy likes you, you will know it. He will show you in a thousand different ways.
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Girls, you're going to hear this exact answer every time you ask, regardless of which one of the guys you ask. There's a reason for that.
Hint: It's true!
Incidentally, I thought the whole gist of that book 'He's just not that into you' was that any guy who's not chasing you like you've got the antidote isn't into you. Surely it's not much of a leap to conclude that if a guy does likes you, he'll be making an effort? Then again, I never read the book, due to my lack of romantic interest in my own gender.
yeah but what if the guy is really shy? especially when it comes to love?
Even shy guys put on a chase once they get a green light. Or a series of green lights, and a push start.
But while a guy is waiting for a series of green lights and a push start, he probably isn't jumping on any couches (a la Tom Cruise) or pursuing a girl like she's "got the antidote". The signals would be more subtle, I assume. That's a confusing time. How does a woman know to keep giving him green lights instead of cutting her losses?
I'm with you on the shy guy thing - have it happening to me AS WE SPEAK! Most of the time I think he's interested, I'm pretty sure I've given him the green light(s) and still nothing. It's very confusing and one I can't decode!
I have the same problem!
If he is shy, he needs to grow a pair.
What if the guy is your boss? I would think that would make a difference.
There's this guy in my class and in the hallway when we're switching classes I see him looking at me so when he sees that I caught him he makes it look like he's looking not at me but at someone near me. Also in computer class he was talking to some other guys and I heard him say my name. I kinda like this guy so I don't know if seeing I like him I'm trying to imagine that he likes me. I don't know if that makes sense but Help!! What do you think?!?
I think you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. The worst thing he could do is not like you. It seems like he really does like you, so help him out. Don't let him do all the work by himself.
What if the guy is your boss? I would think that would make a difference.
Then getting hit with a sexual harrasment lawsuit would definatly prevent someone from acting. However, if you give him the green light as in no, I will not be calling HR or going to the cops, I'm sure he'd be willing to do something.
Actually there's no official policy about fraternization at work. I was helping the HR manager with some old files on her computer and we found an old harrassment quiz and the first question was about a boss and subordinant being in a consensual relationship. She said it wasn't considered harrassment and the company didn't have a policy about it.
I'm trying to figure out how to let him know I'm interested without ending up making things strained between us.
That's my question too. What if a guy likes you but he isn't supposed to like you due to him being your boss or there is a nonfraternization policy at work? How would you know especially if he is restraining himself?
Megan's got it right. If you give a guy the green light, and he's genuinely interested, you'll find we have no problem conveniently ignoring 'the rules' to get you.
I guess he does rebel as much as he can. There is a greencard situation involved as well. But he used to get "yelled" at for seeming to favor me and now I swear, unless I'm crazy, they seem to accept that he likes me. They comment on how when we are around each other, we laugh all the time. He stares at me constantly but also is very guarded. Some of the things he does just seem like he can't control himself and then he goes back to being measured.
He tickles my sides whenever we cross paths, when he's talking with someone else, he turns and speaks to me, and he waits for me when I am talking with other people. He is always staring and smiling at me so much so that I blush, but when I ask him to meet up for some starbucks, he freaks out! Sometimes, it's like he doesn't want me to touch him. I tried to kiss him on the cheek and he instantly blushed and almost took off running.
And men say women are complicated, LOL.
That certainly is complicated! He's obviously throwing out signals, but he's still weighing up the consequences in his head. While such things never stopped me personally, apparently he's not made up his mind yet. He'll get there with a little approval from his friends.
Politicians have been doing this since the Greeks/Romans came up with politics way back when. If you like each other, do it in the bosses chair. If you don't like him, turn his ass in and get a million dollars as well. Full proof ladies.
A highschool boy introducing himself to your parents is a pretty good sign. That's what clued me in to my boyfriend liking me. I missed a lot of other signs before that.
I have to disagree but only because a really good friend of mine (and current heartbreaker) One of the first conversation we ever had about relationships he flat out told me that you NEVER let a girl know you like her because she looses interest. Is it just me or is that a VERY girl thing to say??
I tried not letting women know I was interested in them; I ended up not having sex for two years. You've gotta put something out there to get anything back.
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I think what makes it hard to tell sometimes (for me) is that if I like a guy A LOT, I worry that I'm just imagining him sending me signals because I really want him to like me. So it's like maybe he's just being nice, but because I want there to be something between us, I convince myself that it's him showing an interest in having a relationship with me. I don't know if this makes any sense to other people, but that's where I get confused (because of my own paranoia). So I guess I just wish that sometimes there was a definite signal that could not possibly be interepreted as anything other than romantic interest because then I could be all, "Take that, SELF! He really is into you and you're not just halucinating!"
wow i completely agree with PickingOutAThermos the "how do i know im not hallucinating " i mean yeah he may give signals , say you don't pay attention to it then but later you go back to it and you wonder *was i even awake? and you want to believe it was real and that your getting the feeling of him liking you ,but at the same time *i hope it isn't just me* feeling..
If a guy doesn't like you, most of the time its hard to think that he does. Because frankly, we are horrible at bottling our emotions. Wether were shy or completely confident, if a guy likes you he will act different around you than normal
I agree with pickingoutathermos I understand that if a guy likes you he will call and text and make time for you. But in the beginning stages when you like a guy a lot sometimes when they are just being nice I want to believe they like me just as much as I like them. But now I realize if he doesn't ask for your number or ask to take you out he's just not that into you. lol
As to shy guys, they still send the signals, but they are subtler. Instead of jumping on the couch, they'll leave a card. Instead of saying I like you, they'll say I like being around you.
If you know a guy is shy but see he's smiling at you, paying attention to you, then you've got some pretty clear signals, because he's WAY OUT of his comfort zone.
If a guy is putting himself out for you, there is a HUGE chance he's interested.
And the fastest way to tell is not to ask yourself or your girlfriends if it seems like it, just watch his actions for a few days.
If his actions are different around you, he's interested.
If he hugs everyone and gets nervous before hugging you; he's interested.
If he never looks anyone in the eye, but does it to you; he's interested.
If he doesn't talk about his comic collection, but shows it to you; he's interested!
Really it's not hard if you spend just a little time getting to know him.
Even the non shy guys are the same.
If he jumps up and down and calls out to everyone, then doing that for you means nothing.
If he kisses everyone he greets, then doing it for you means nothing.
If listens intently to everyone who talks, then doing it for you means nothing.
Etc, etc, etc.
Is it different in high school at all? I like I boy who I see a lot but am too scared to talk to frequently, or kind of ever (I know). He's told my friends he likes me and thinks I'm sweet (as in nice), so he doesn't dislike me. Could my apparent complete lack of interest be affecting anything?
I think there's a big difference between guys in general and guy-friends liking you. Clearly, if I go into a bar and meet some guy i can tell if he likes what he sees. Or at a party I can tell if he's into or not. However, once you get beyond mere aquaintance things get ambiguous sometimes. Is he doing "nice" things because he likes me or is my friend? Is he making sexual jokes about us because he wants me or is comfortable? Overall, I think that he is just being a friend because he didnt ask me out or anything that would seem like he was PHySICALLY ATTRACTED when we first met..... and then like 3 months down the road guys randomly makes the moves and try to hook up with me! This happens with like 80 percent of guy-friends, I'm not kidding. I say the same thing every time, "why didn't you just ask me out when we first met instead of making a freindship with me?" They're always like" I dont know", and "you're intimidating. Anyway, what I'm just trying to say is that guys arent always so straightforward about liking you. I lose all my guy aquantance friends because they DONT ask me out and then just make random moves when we've known each other for months! Does this happen to other ladies????
What if he is a shy guy and you can tell that he likes you, but he works with your mom? I am only wondering because there is a guy that I am totally into but he always runs away when I try to set something up like going out to lunch or something.
So there was this guy that liked me last year. He told a few of my friends that he thought I was really good-looking and beautiful etc. He also mentioned that he thought i was very quiet even though he himself hardly ever spoke when i was around. They of course told me all of this and as the year went on he still liked me. Being shy and awfully inexperienced with males and any form of male attention I waited around for him to make a move yet he never did! Infact I hardly even saw him look my way. It didnt seem much to me like he liked me so I was in no rush to make myself look like a fool given false information or last week's news.
I really liked this guy but was too shy to say anything and admit to my friends I liked him so the year went by and not a single move was made on either of our parts. :( Now this year I havent seen him as much and he is apperently over me. Ive heard that he likes other girls and when people ask him about me he gets upset about it. They say its because of how much he liked me and now im wondering whether or not he might still like me or if I'd be better off moving on with this as a learning experience to make the moves with such shy guys.
I just want to know what other people may think and if you do for some reason think he still likes me, how can i make him mine? I definately dont want to dwell on this but i cant help but wonder that if he liked me so much, maybe he would still have some of those feelings when he sees me.
P.S. every time Ive seen him, I made sure to make eye contact and look friendly
well im 18 and i have an older sister who is married.. her husband's best friend (a 21 year old cuban) lives with them and i see him often cause he helps my dad alot.. i went to a music festival with my sis and her husband and the cuban came as well.. we spent the whole day at the festival sitttin on the ground listenin to music and i was giving the cuban tattoos with a ink pen i had in my purse.. on the way home he held my hand and used my shoulder as a "pillow".. at first i rubbed it off as he was still a lil buzzed but today wen i saw him again i noticed i was more aware of him standing too close or walkin by too close or lookin at me OFTEN.. i dont no if he likes me or not.. my other sister says that she thinks he does.. but if he does idk if i should get invaulved wit him cause he has a kid and another on the way.. plus a few other things.. should i as u say give him the green light.. or should i back away and find some1 at the college i will be attending
plus i like him (the cuban).. im jus really confused and i was not the kind of girl who had guys falling 4 her and despraitly trying to get her attention.. so i have no clue wat to look for or anythin.. (plus i have lived a fairly sheheltered life if that give any insight)
I met a guy that is 10 years younger than me. I'm 50. I don't know if that's what's scaring him or what. He's been very nice. We're friends but I love him. I can't tell how he feels about me. We live 45 minutes away from each other. We've been seeing each other a couple of times a week for 4 months. I get mixed signals, too. There's another woman but he says he's not interested in her. She is interested in him, tho. He's done little things for me, but he helps out a lot of people. I chat with him most days but not for long. He's always in a hurry. He was married for 1 year when he was in his 20's. He was almost married 2 other times but the women called it off just before the wedding. He says he's not gay. He doesnt have any kids. I love the way he looks at me but he hasn't tried to hug me or anything. The last time I saw him we touched hands for longer than usual. He says he's very busy with work this time of year. Am I too old for him?
I would only like to add few more tips:
Offering help - If the guy offers to help you with something, like really excitedly “Hey, I can help you with that!” that is also a sign that he likes you. He wants to do something nice to you, to help you out, it’s also pretty obvious - no?
Carries on conversation - Have you noticed that he sometimes wants to just extend a conversation that has led to a dead end? If he really doesn’t want to end the talk and comes up with new topics, ideas, jokes, and if you determine that he does it deliberately - you’re right - HE LIKES YOU :)
Not mentioning other women - This can be a pretty clear giveaway. If he normally talks about women and mentions his female friends but when he talks to you - he doesn’t - then that can be a sign. Why does he do that? Well he just does not want you to think that he might like any of those girls... It’s weird, but guys do it subconsciously...
Well those are SOME of many signs if a guy likes you, but if you wanna know more, there’s a whole website covering the topic of how to tell if a guy likes you, so check it out --> http://www.ifaguylikesyou.com/
I think this guy I go to school with like me but I am not positive. I think he is shy but mayby around me i don't know. Anyway we have passed eachother in the hallway and look and smile at eachother. Then a week ago I was siting doing some work and he comes in to the room with 2 other people to drop something off and then comes back. I hear them talking and then they get really queit like they are whispering. A couple of miunets later he comes over and waves hi to me and a say hi back. I am not sure if this mean he likes me or he is just being friendly?
thank for your imput.
This junk you people write is stupid. For me, i'm the one practically telling him i like him. I can't tell if he likes me, but i'm working on it
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I agree, I like to tell the guy that like him, and/or is attracted to him. How is anything supposed to start if you don't let him know and be honest? But with me, he says he likes me back and had for a while. But, he doesn't show any signs at all that he likes me and I give him all the signals.
So, I met this guy on a church trip. We are 6 years apart in age. He will stare at me for long periods of time. When we hug it seems like its for a lifetime. He does stupid stuff around me. He teases me, etc. In the end, I am not sure if he is just being nice. We have been talking ever since the trip was over. He stayed up till midnight to tell me Happy Birthday then at the end of the day he said, I hope you had a great birthday!.
But, when we talk its in private since he is being very careful around my youth minister.. My youth minister is very protective. :/
This guy was in a 3yr. relationship and broke up with this girl about 7 months ago. We had a serious conversation on the phone a while back and he said. truthfully i am talking to her but not date talking... I dont know what to do. There are so many signs but then again I don't know if I am just telling myself that he likes me because I like him a lot. Oh. also. He texted me the day he found out about his teaching job and he didnt text any of my other friends. Plus, he gave me his number...
Ok, so what would you consider a good 'Green Light' to the guy to show him ur interested?
you will kno if he likes you cuz in ur heart it will tell u. he will show it and sooner or later he'll tell you. FUCK YEA I LUV JAYDEN MORGAN!!!!!!!!!!
what if we can't see the signs?
i went to a car dealership on Saturday december 3, 2011. this guy kept making conversation and said when me and my mom get ready to come up there call or text him etc. so ealy today he text me so friday is the day im going back the the dealership with my mom what to do.
i went to a car dealership on Saturday december 3, 2011. this guy kept making conversation and said when me and my mom get ready to come up there call or text him etc. so ealy today he text me so friday is the day im going back the the dealership with my mom what to do.
How do tell your man that you want to spice it up a little bit. I have a boyfriend who is modest and I'm trying to get some fire into our relationship. (Help!!!!)
Great! So Clear.
Thank you
Like i know this guy likes me. Well then what if he never text you first? He liked me showed me so many signs, offered to use his phone to help call
My brother. When we hung out he was soo shy. I had to initiate verything but when I talked to him he acted so excited that I talked to him. Then when he finds out I like him back. He says he doesn't like me that way. But yet when I text him, he still keeps the conversation going and texts me til I have to go. It's so unbelievingly confusing. So what do you guys think about the shy guy not texting or anything first?
Am I crazy or does this happen? A shy guy openly try's to be friends, you fin out he likes you, you have always secretly liked him, you come off strong, always taking to him, you hang and he seems do thrilled to see you, but you keep coming on stronger, and he finds out you like him and he says he doesn't like you that way, no matter how many times he is asked, that is his response. So you back off, and slowly start texting him/talking to him back, and he starts coming off stronger, whenever you make the first move to talk, after you have backed off. why do shy guys do this? They get the green light and back off???
That's a little confusing...
-_- this realllyyyyy helps, i like a guy a lotttt but idk if he likes me.. Soo this really helps me! *Corey Babycakes uses sarcasm*
Its this love triangle. Me, my BFF, and her crush, who likes me. I dont like him at all but he is really smart and funny. He looks at me in class with piercing blue eyes. I'll look over at him and he'll get back to working. But about my BFF, she likes him. A LOT. She asked him out but he said no. I feel bad. Is there anything i can do to get him to like my BFF? Plz someone answer! This is important!
Okay so this guy, that I've always liked, is my sisters friend and my sisters boyfriends best friend. I invited him on my birthday trip, and he came and it was a lot of fun. The whole time, he was flirty, looked straight into my eyes, was such a gentleman and offered to do stuff for me a lot. My other friend was jokinging with me the whole time about liking him (and they are friends) and I'm like 80% sure he heard, but he didn't act different around me and he still went on rollercoasters and rides with me, he even was standing closer to me and staring at me.
Then on the way home, he barely talked to me and when we got back, he hasn't talked to me still. I still haven't seen him, and I told myself, he must not like me. He is 9 years older than me, but I only like older guys. Does he think I'm too young or he just doesn't like me?
ok so this is m story i like this guy who keeps his horse at my house latey we have been oing out in goups but his riends know that i like him he holds my hand sits with me and last night i kissed him and he kissed me back but i am still cofused and dont kow if he likes me am i crazy
Stand up to the plate. and ask him.
tell him how you feel and ask him what he feels.
Most guys are too afraid of rejection to verbally express their feelings. You have to keep an eye for their actions instead.
I was friends with this guy in high school. He was super flirty. His name was Chris. He always made some kind of unusual expression to me. Like when i sang in front of the class, he made a goofy face and later told me that he was trying to get me to laugh. When I would be sick from school or one whole weekI went to Arizona with my family, he asked where I had been and said that he really missed me and school wasnt as fun without me. He would alwaystouch me like on my neck or if i was typing on the computer he would try to mess me up by touching my hands on the keys. Hr loved getting a reactipnout of me. He loved watching movies starring me or listening to cassette recording tapes. I think he even joined choir because I was in it. He wpuld steal the ball from me when I was shooting hoops alone. One day, during study hall it was just us two alone. I was surprised he didnt go with the boys, he just stood behind me watching me type. A big part of me wanted to swing around and lay a big kiss on him but I was too shy in high school. I regret that to this day! We emailed each other nearly everyday or every other day! I told him very personal and intimate details of my life...things that happened to me in my younger days! I felt at ease telling all my secrets to him and getting advice from him. He told me in an email that he didnt like me as a girlfriend but more as a sister. That depressed me. But everytime i tried to ignore him he only tried to get my attention more. At my graduation open house, he gave me a hug and I think he wrote, "Jesus loves you and so do I." Annonymously of course but in his hand writing. Up until 2009, we were still writing. Then he got married. I did too. He banned me from his facebook and thinks i was stalking him. I wrote him once a week or every other week and je acys as if it was daily. I feel so hurt to get blocked out of a friends life. I dont know what to do because eventhough were both married, I still miss his friendship! Am I wrong to desire this? How do you get over a relationship that ends so abruptly? Also there is going to be a reunion in a couple months, not sure if I should go or not since he and his wife will be there and i dont want him to think i am stalking him since i am not nor have i ever been! Another thing is I have been dreaming alot of pretty intense and graphic dreams! How do I get them to stop??? Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
Thanks,
Lisa.
I really like this guy but whenever i see him in the hallways i see him looking at me then look away real quick. Does he like me....
This happens to me all the time! With this one guy I really like. Whenever I call his name his head snaps around to look at me. Whenever he hugs me, he makes it last super long. Whenever were alone, He gets so close we could almost kiss and he looks like he is going to, but then he acts embarrassed. I think he does like you, He is just trying to find out if you like him too.
Absolutly,he likesyou!!
This guy I like said to me "Hypothetically speaking, when we were alone the other day and I would have kissed you, What would you have said or done" And He is always making up these scenario's about any situation you can think. All the time I give him signs that I like him and that he should kiss me and stuff but he just doesn't get them, What should I do??
a guy in my phy class....i like him alot....he often sees me sometimes frm head to toe.....he talk to me....sometimes he make fun of mine lyk when i get less marks than him n he often talk to me wid smile n uses my name many times.....n hes very attractive n hve many girl who hd proposd him....jus wanna noe whetr he lyk me de same way i do or not....??
So this guy who works next door in the same complex is gorgeous, he works for an insurance company.. He goes to lunch everyday with my boss and a few other guys from the complex.On one occasion I went downstairs to since I was locked out and he invited me into his back office and asked me my whole life story. A few days ago I found out I was getting kicked off my parents plan so of course I emailed him to see which carrier I should go with.. He set up an appt but came upstairs to apologize and see if I can come in the next. In the middle of the conversation he asked me if i did anything to my hair.. My boss said i could go during work hours yesterday and the guy said it'll take while cause he's a talker... As I left he was checking me out (not even discreetly and not in a perv way either). I went there today he seemed nervous and at one point I thought he was going to ask me out... He asked me twice what I doing this weekend...? and seemed flustered. After the consultation he walked me out and said we would see each other again... He flirts with me, and I've caught him looking at me so many times.... I'm getting mixed signals. ughhhh what should i do? what does it mean?
He's only out of your league if you allow yourself to THINK he's out of your league. Clearly he sees something in you. Now it's up to you to SEE the same things that he does. Just be yourself and make sure to let him be the guy in this thing, meaning he must pursue you and ask you out. If he doesn't, he's not interested enough and you deserve so much more than someone who doesn't give you his all. And if you BELIEVE you deserve the best, only then will you get the best. It's ALL about YOUR mindset. After that, your actions will follow. Just remember, many guys will love a girl to pursue and ask them out, but if you do, you take away the ability to know for sure if he really likes you or if you are just convenient for him. Also, even though they like the girl to do the work, it takes away from them seeing her as longterm girlfriend potential, because at that point you take away his rightful place and deep need to be the man and pursuer. Aside from that, my only other advice, which really is the most important of all, is to not allow him to be the center of your world. In truth, that honor should be given to one person only, and one person only: Jesus. You put your faith and trust in Him, and He will guide you to the right guy at the right place and time. Just keep your focus on Jesus, let Him lead you, and amazing things will happen. Wish you the best. Take care and God bless.
Sorry Litz, that last comment was actually meant for Donna. The names and replies look like they're at the top of each post, but are actually at the bottom. Sorry. :/ STILL! The same pretty much pertains to you and everyone else here, right? What should you do? Put Jesus first and ask Him to guide you in this, through His will. Only then will you be lead correctly. Focus on Jesus, not the guy. Read the Bible, pray, and listen to what He has to say. And in the meantime, just continue each day, one step at a time. If the guy is supposed to ask you out, he will. If not, you are being protected and prepared for something SO much better. God's will is always for our best and something incredibly more glorious than we could never imagine on our own! :)
Oops... I meant "than we could EVER imagine on our own!" ;)
Oops... I meant "than we could EVER imagine on our own!" ;)
It would help me out very much if someone could give me some advice. There is this guy, who i am head over heels in love with. He and I live nearby, so on some days, we'd bump into each other. He talks to me like he cares about my reply. He looks at me like I'm something special. He playfully teases me and makes me laugh. The thing is, he's way outta my leage. I can never be sure if he likes me, or if he's taking pity on me. Please, I am absolutly clueless. Thanks for anyone who bothers to reply.
He's only out of your league if you allow yourself to THINK he's out of your league. Clearly he sees something in you. Now it's up to you to SEE the same things that he does. Just be yourself and make sure to let him be the guy in this thing, meaning he must pursue you and ask you out. If he doesn't, he's not interested enough and you deserve so much more than someone who doesn't give you his all. And if you BELIEVE you deserve the best, only then will you get the best. It's ALL about YOUR mindset. After that, your actions will follow. Just remember, many guys will love a girl to pursue and ask them out, but if you do, you take away the ability to know for sure if he really likes you or if you are just convenient for him. Also, even though they like the girl to do the work, it takes away from them seeing her as longterm girlfriend potential, because at that point you take away his rightful place and deep need to be the man and pursuer. Aside from that, my only other advice, which really is the most important of all, is to not allow him to be the center of your world. In truth, that honor should be given to one person only, and one person only: Jesus. You put your faith and trust in Him, and He will guide you to the right guy at the right place and time. Just keep your focus on Jesus, let Him lead you, and amazing things will happen. Wish you the best. Take care and God bless.
Ok so there's this guy him and me have been best friends seance 1st grade and tell now in 8th grade but I don't know if he likes me or not. Cause he doesn't respond to text messages but then in home room we have to get together with other classes and do a book club so it's me 2 other people then him and he kept talking to me, and hen goofing off and poking my book and saying my name then when I would look at him he would star at me we would laugh thence so on and it made me think he likes me but then he dosent awnser his phone so I need to know if he likes me or not so dose he or dose he not?
I need help. I have this guy at my gym. I have seen him several times look at me but when I look at him he looks away. So the other day we were sitting facing each other on different excercise machines and I said hi to him as we both had head phones on so it was only a lip movement he responded in the same way . That same evening before leaving I passed him and said see you to him his response was non verbal both lips joined together. I was hoping the next day he would say hi to me but nothing happened I felt pretty dumb.i have seen him look at me and then look away really quickly even after this.
What should I do ??
So if all guys will make it obvious they like you, does that mean there is no such thing as a shy guy?
So if all guys will make it obvious they like you, does that mean there is no such thing as a shy guy?
So if they will make it obvious that they like you, does that mean there is no such thing as a shy guy?
Hi. I like this guy and I think he likes me but I am not sure. We are in high school. We have science and french together. He will always stare at me and makes funny faces and always tries to make me laugh (he succeeds). He is really nice and his super close friend told me that he liked me but I don't know if he does. Please help!!!
I need some help personally. I like a guy who is 24 years older than me and I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if he likes me back or not. He's one of my father's best friends from his old work so it doesn't help me out any.
He just recently offered up his phone number to me. And asked me if he was attractive and pointed out that he has no ass. Then proceeded to tell me that all of his plumbing is working perfectly well without any pills.
We spent nearly all day together. He spent his break with me. And I didn't even go up to him, he came up to me.
Is there any hope?
Okay, Please help me on this one!! I am 17 and I am going to be 18 in April! The guy I like is 29. Don’t judge the age, also he is my step moms brother. Please do not judge me…We are not in anyway related by blood it is not insest, we did not grow up as family. Only a year ago did I acknowlede his sister as my step mom. Please don’t judge. Anyways we play around alot joking with each other, he takes his shirt off around me alot. I am a virgin and he knows this. What I am telling is more than one occasion well we were talking and some how it got brought up about us having sex (we have not we were all fooling around) his reply was I don’t want to go to jail. While I laughed. When I walked out of the kitchen he kicked me in the butt joking with the side of his foot (hard to explain how but he was facing the oposite way as me and kicked me) Then we both laughed then I taped him on his leg and butt combined. Later that day he had a unfrosted cup cake and dropped it and was playing with me again and threw it and hit me in the boob, my reply was you hit my boobie, his reply was they looked hungry. Then next weekend I stayed the night we were messing around in the kitchen and I had something in my hand and I turned away from him and had it behind my back in his view well he tried to grab it and was messing he was twisting my arm I lightly tapped his other arm we were play fighting. We were throwing things at each other and when I walked out of the kitchen he smacked me in the butt with a pringles can.The next day we were sitting on the couch together we were sitting close kind of just leaning into each other but not touching we were home alone while my step mom went to go get my dad she walked in when she got home and was like look at you too his brother walked in and looked at us weird while his girl friend sat in the chair I didn’t see her do anything but he changed the way he was sitting completely. When he left his brother made a joke about us “cuddling on the couch” but we really weren’t Later that day we were flicking each other and he went to go take a shower but took his shirt off and wrapped it up and was like towel snapping me with his shirt he got me in the arm and was like that one hurt I said a little but I took it well, he said yeah you did and we both laughed my step mom said you two are gross. When he got in the shower he shut all the doors except the one that led into the living room where I was sitting, when he got out he was in just his towel and he smiled at me weird almost like an invitation (believe me I wanted to take it!!) At dinner we had chicken breast that were so huge we all agreed and made a comment about them being to big, he looks at my with his grin that I love and have never seen until recently I like my breast about a handful looking right at me still smiling then walked into his room. The next day my step mom left again to get my dad and we were home alone again, I was in the living room alone for awile and then asked if I could come sit on his bed and he said sure. We finished a movie together and he heard a door and said ***** is home I said do you want me to leave? He said Noo then like we are he followed it up with a your such a girl, I told him I am a girl, He just looked at me. What did he mean by don't be such a girl? Me and his sister were in the bedroom and they were playing and he started pinching her thigh hard I told him thats mean and it hurts and i went to get up to walk out and he said I know and did it to my leg playing so I grabbed his and did it to him and we started laughing and looked at each other then I walked out. He throws stuff at my boobs and flicks me alot, a guy his age shouldn’t want a 17 year old in his room and staying home alone with him alot but doesn’t mind at all he acts like he likes me there with him. He acted sad when I said I wasn’t staying another night. I like him alot and I am VERY sexually attracted to him. Lately I have commented about him getting layed going out with his friends on his birthday….He looked at me and reasured me that the only p**sy he would be getting was the cats…(HE WAS JUST KIDDING) I caught him looking at me in his rear view mirror When I was walking out of the house to get into his car his friend in the front seat said wow shes really pretty! I was told by my step mom that He just looked at his friend in an odd way. He looked at me and said what about you gets me I mean what about me gets you wet? Then he said I have dirty thoughts about you and I said its okay I have them about you in a joking way. The other day we were talking and I was like I don't have a sex life he looked at me unzipped his pants and said you want one? He was just kidding. He jokes around alot thats the kind of people we are thats what confuses me so much. Also the fact he hasn't ever really dated a girl who wasn't skinny and blonde. I'm thicker and brunette.I have tried pushing my feelings aside since he is my step moms brother but I can't help but like him. I want to know if it seems like he likes me to if he touches me he is really gentle the other day my we were all talking and my step mom turned her back away from him and he tried saying something to me but I wasn't paying attention and when I was I didn't know what he was gonna say. We are open if he wanted to say something why didnt he could if of been something more meaning full like he wanted to kiss me? I think that you can feel if someone wants to kiss you and it felt like he did or maybe i just wanted him too. I really really like him and he has been really kind to me. What do you think?
hi !
I am in a big time dilemma and I could surely use some good help. There's this guy from school, technically we have known each other for almost 15 years or so but we started talking recently and then he found out an excuse to meet me ( which he confessed later). i had been in love with a guy for 7 years but we never got together so this guy, helped me get over him and made me realise that i might regret never giving anyone else a chance. My friends told me that he was falling for me and i was just playing with him. So, i asked him if he liked me. to which he replied that he likes talking to me, he likes it when i sit beside him and he likes dancing with me. I asked him if he had any feelings for me, he said liking is a feeling. I screwed up things cuz i was scared. I later confessed that i was falling for him too but he said that he only thinks of me as a good friend. later, he invited me for a trip and while sleeping, my hand was on his stomach and he held my hand and took it to his heart and he didn't leave my hand all night. recently he even complimented me by saying that i was looking good. my dress, my hair, my lenses, my eyes.. just everything. When i joke around to fix me up with some of his friend, he simply says that do i need anyone else when he is there... so i am totally confused as in what is going on? does he still like me or what? please help. and if he likes me then what am i ought to do to make things work. :(
But what if ur ugly
Im sorry but this didn't help me much. Most guys I know aren't anything like that, if they like a girl they will be shy and quiet and not anything like how you said they are. (I know this because the guy I'm questioning is like my best friend and I've seen him crushing on a girl)
This guy in my class that I like knows I like him. My friends sort off show that when he walks past me and my friends are near me. In class, I notice him looking at me every so often. And when we were partners in some subject he kept like, trying to make eye contact with me but, I just don't look in his direction because his friends that sit near us will laugh.He makes jokes when he talks to me and teases me a lot and will help me with stuff I don't even need help with. Do any of u think he might like me back? Please respond.
So I met this guy over a year ago during a party at my house and while I didn't drink he did and he flirted and hung around me all night. The next day he texted me and told me he was sorry and hoped I didn't hate him and hoped we could hang out sometime. So we started texting each other a lot during the week and that weekend we had another party and he came and this time i was drinking to. We went walking up the road at midnight.. Sort of cleshe. And we talked and kissed and he carried me a lil and we just goofed off.
He slept with me in my bed, although we didn't do anything but kiss a lot.
I really liked him and he never pushed me to do anythin that night. Well he stopped texting me after that but came to another one of our party's the following weekend and said hes talking to someone. I don't understand what happend we were having fun and texting daily. Following parties after that he came and was still flirting w me and hangin around me although he had a girlfriend. I tried to move on but still hung out w him as friends, which wasn't hard or awkward like I thought it would be. People at our parties even thought he was my boyfriend thats how close we were all the time. So one night he made the mistake kissing me and I shoved him away and went to bed. He followed me and because I had been drinking i foolishly let him sleep in my bed w me. Well we talked for a little while and he told me he really liked me still. It confused me because he went and got a girlfriend while we we're having so much fun... Well the next day he txt me and asked me did we have sex. I shortly replied no and he asked me what happened I told him he kissed me and I pushed him away.. Well his girlfriend saw the messages and the next day in class asked me if she should be worried about him.. I said yea, I would keep an eye on him if I was you. I was tired of him leading me on and wanted to end it. Well she must have told him what I said and he no longer talked to me. Well someone made up a rumor about me that I had sex with a 21 year old and I'm 17. I automatically thought it was him. Which now I'm thinking it was the guy in the rumor. Well anyways now we aren't friends and never talk. Until the other day when walking to my car he saw me and said hey. I did not reply and he asked me "what you can't talk" I said not to you and kept walking. All my friends and my sisters who know the situation say I did the right thing for ignoring him and I should be proud of myself , but I'm not so sure? I guess i need an outsiders look at things? Thanks
Wow! That really sux! I mean the whole situation is..... Is..... It jus sux! I don't think I've ever had a relationship like the w/a guy, it sounded like u guys were really close friends n really had a blast together whenever u hung out, it still puzles me y he got a gf when u were right there! -I swear my heart fell when I read that part :'( - but I think u did the right thing in the end, i think u really miss the memories u guys had together n how he made u feel when u were around him. Shoot I would too if I had that chemistry u 2 had. I maybe he was just confused er somthing, but still.... i know u must feel bad right now, but I think it's 4 the best. I think he may still need some time to mature n get him head In the right place, n maybe eventually in the future, u guys could still b friends, n then maybe something more, but right now I'd just give it some time, but that doesn't mean put ur life on hold just 4 him. Overall n most importantly u deserve a man, not a boy
hi there. would really appreciate your opinions...im so confused!! im 47 and theres a younger guy (hes 30) who works in another department at work. we met 2 years ago and got on fantastically from the start. over time we've become closer friends but i dont know if he feels anything more for me. when we go out on work dos he rarely leaves my side, always joking and laughing,he emails me every single day just chatting about nothing and he'll go out of his way to help me but then hes a very helpful guy in general, very outgoing. he rings and texts me occasionally -usually when hes been out for a few drinks with the lads. after his mom got back from holidays to the far east he gave me a present of a beautiful scarf and then ruined it all by saying he'd asked her to bring back a few for presents :/ i feel theres something there but maybe thats just wishful thinking. he talks to me about girls he likes but he doesnt have a girlfriend. if he likes me why would he talk about other girls...see why im confused?? if he was a guy my own age id say the signals are all there but he may just be thinking of me as a nice auntie or something! hes never tried to touch me or anything apart from the odd goodbye hug. his face seems to light up when he sees me and he'll turn up at my desk for a chat..but he'll also talk to other people. i really fancy him but would never tell him cos i value his friendship so much.
There is this guy we work with in the same building, i dont know him but he knows my colleague just by seeing him. The other day my colleague told me that this guy asked if i was married and that i behave like a married woman ie mature. He got soo excited when my colleague told him no. They meet almost everyday and all he can do is ask my colleague if am in but we have never met and i dont know him. The other day my colleague told me that he was waiting at the exit of the building strategically positioned so as to check the time i leave. He has not told my colleague a word and i have a feeling he likes me and that he has been observing me for sometime now and he knows that i walk with my colleague most of the time. Does he love me?
He likes you and u should let him down easy.
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Wat if you like a guy and you think he likes your best friend how do I tell
Wat if you like a guy and you think he likes your best friend how do I tell
well what if the guy is shy and you give him the green light and still he doesn't respond! that would be devistating to me! :'( or what if you get the whole thing wrong, i mean you think he looks at you but he doesn't ,wouldn't that be embarrassing? i mean how are we supposed to know if he looks and likes us or if he just looks! it's really confusing!
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Hi I need help too. So, I'm in 8th grade, and there's a guy I am kinda starting to like (you'll see why later) and I met him through my friend and he now goes to my school and at first he was kinda nice to me but we didn't talk much but then he begged my friend for my # she didn't give it though and he said my hair looked nice randomly and said hi to me everyday. Then he stopped for a while, then started talking to me again. This weekend out class went on a trip and he talked to me then and we had groups(he's not in my group) and my group was late and apparently he was waiting for me and when I got there he gave me a flower and I guess that means we are married and he calls me wife(all a joke of course) but idk what to do and stuff and we are goo g to the same highschool so please help me :/
Okay. so i met this guy and we started talking and for the pas few days he's been hugging me in like a boyfriend-ish way, and walked me to my class? What does that mean?