Well it depends on the loss. So let's look at two of the prominent: death and end of a relationshiop.

How do we deal with loss in terms of a death? Probably via not talking about it as much as possible despite everybody around you (including other men who wouldn't talk about it) trying to talk to you about it constantly. I personally dealt with the most signficant loss of my life earlier this year and when I tell you I just internalized it all as much as I could. It hurt and it was painful but despite being a writer, I couldn't figure out how to articulate my feelings and thoughts. I was just hurt. Hurt for my family. Hurt for all the affected families. I cried a lot when I was alone. A lot. The loss didn't make sense and didn't seem right or fair.

For men, time heals all wounds of that sort. I'm much better now but I honestly haven't gotten over it. And quite frankly, I'm not sure when, or if, I ever will.

Now in terms of loss of a relationship, to quote author Steven Dixon, "men don't heal, we ho." What does this mean? It means that we never really truly deal with the loss of our relationships or loved ones. We just try to keep it moving through physical connections and end up hurting more people in the process because we never deal with our own feelings and emotions. I'm also guilty of this. I know that I've needed to take time to really assess my roles in the demise of a relationship but was ill prepared to really truly deal with feelings that come along with that maturity. A man who has grown up will learn that in order for a relationship to truly end, he must handle his own demons as well as acknowledge the roles he played in tearing something down. That's hard for us to do. Which sucks because I know personally I probably owe some apologies. Not that I want the relationships back, but the least I could do was address why I helped destroy some homes.

So the short answer is that...for most of us, we don't.