Just because you're a slut doesn't mean you're not nice. And vice versa. I know plenty of wonderfully nice, healthy, mature people who have consensual sex with one partner, multiple partners, partners of the same sex, or who chose not to have any sex at all.
There are just far too many people in this world who are bitter that other people are happy. Those people should be avoided. When confronted with these unhappy prudes, do what I do and just drool a little. Works like a charm!
Until I started writing for this site, I honestly had no idea that the word "slut" was so toxic. It's a negative label that serves only to shame women who dare to express themselves sexually. What an ugly idea.
The word "slut" is a Puritan insult, a throw back to a more repressive time when society sought to control the sexual behaviors of women, while indulging those same appetites in men. Which is why men are "studs" when they engage in sexual activity. "Slut" is the verbal equivalent of a chastity belt and a lash. A woman's virtue is prized in a culture run by men. Emphasis on "prize."
You're not a prize and not a slut. You're a human motherspelunking being with a heart, and wiggly toes, and genital organs. It is the right of every human being to express, explore, and flaunt their sexuality. Never regret answering the aching call of your divine flesh. Be greedy with kisses. Treat skin as if it were served by the scoop. Do what feels right and natural. Dry humping is to sex what an awesome, heart-stopping trailer is to a movie you've been waiting years to see.
Never let anyone make you feel dirty or bad or... or not nice for playing during adult recess.
I, John DeVore, am a slut. A slutty-slut-slut. And I'm proud of it. Nyaaaaaah.
So to answer your question: you sound like a nice, normal girl.
I like this answer. Doesn't make me feel like a slutty-slut-slut . . . even if that's ok by you. ;)
JDV... you are a/n.... I'm stumped for words... You are a healthy woman's ego... the man we'd all love to have/know (biblically or socially) in our lives.
For the original asker... Banish the word "Slut" from your vocabulary NOW!!!! The sooner you do that, the sooner you will be happy.
There are enough people in the world that will judge you, don't buy into their narrow, stilted, crude formulae of what is "right" and what is "wrong".
You're not an "accidental slut"; you're a maturing woman who is testing and tasting your sexual and social comfort zones and borders. Embrace it! Mull it over; and when you've decided what you like, what you don't like, and what you're not sure about (can I try that again?)... FLAUNT IT! and you owe no one anything!
Too many women (and, I suspect, men as well) waste too much time and energy self-flagalating {sp?} over what is "okay" or not. Give over! Let yourself live!
I like this...good comment...and to the slutty JDV...you're the man...thank you so much for the enlightening answers...
Ladies and gentlemen:
John DeVore, the awesomest man-whore!
*Applause*
I think the term slut can be applied to those knowingly spreading STIs/STDs, and people who cheat. Not to people who choose to have a lot of sexual partners, or hop from one to another (use protection!!). As long as you make it clear to who you are pursuing that you aren't looking for something beyond sex, go for it. (Maybe that's just me. I don't know, it seems like a good idea to at least give that courtesy to avoid any emotional liability.)
Also, I'd like to know what "accidentally a little slutty" is? Unless you're making out with dudes other than your boyfriend (or with dudes who have girlfriends), or you're giving herpes to everyone, you're not being slutty.
Regardless of what the definition of "slut" is and who it ought to be applied to, how can you "accidentally" be slutty? When you use the word "accidentally", it sounds like you're embarrassed or ashamed and are just making excuses.
Uhm, it's perfectly possible to do it accidentally: usually there are large quantities of alcohol involved :)
That still doesn't make it an "accident"....What did you do, fall on him? Alcohol doesn't make you have sex with people. And if you really get so smashed that you have no idea what's going on and lose all sense of judgment, then you ought to learn your limits.
"Accidentally" could mean flirting or being intimate with more guys than you intend to. Making out with someone that you like without discussing what kind of relationship you'll have. Letting loose a little with someone you're comfortable with and then maybe regretting it later. Such things.
Loved this response John - thank you! I am ALWAYS a slut for my man, he loves it, I love it & it's NEVER accidental. You are a 100% top man! x
LOVE the response as well. I like to call us would be Sex Fiends, something us women and you men would certainly enjoy.:)