I think padded bras are evil incarnate, actually. While I recognize that men can be lying in the "packing" department and you likely won't find out until you attempt to experience the jollies, of which you might not find jolliness, I feel the padded bra is akin to such deception.
Yes, deception. Wonder bras are deception.
Deception, I tell you!!!!!
All of the exclamation points are there to make sure that you understand just how serious I am about deception. Men lie about their Johnson's all the time. And if a guy's lying about his willie, then you have a right to be hostile. Padded bras are doing the same thing. You show up as a C-student and then all of a sudden you hit the honor roll in the bedroom with A's?????
Sounds like funny business.
However, despite feeling that way about the padded bras, they are indeed holders of true beauty, no matter what size - the boobs. While a guy might be disappointed that you seem to have miraculously accomplished what chubby women have been trying to do with their bodies for eons, as long as there is something there, we'll smile, play with them anyway, and be as happy as a pig in slop.
In my younger days I'd be more brash and say that I'd have a right to kick you out. I mean, if I meet you in the club and you have two legs and when we get home and get to fondling I find out that you only have one, I will probably be inclined to toss you out. While it might be rude, I have my preferences and I prefer appendages. You might have to hobble home.
But when it comes to boobs, its just better that they're there (no tissue). Don't bring any foobs around. That's just wrong. So no, it's not a letdown. Some guys are too dumb to even realize anything is different. Don't underestimate nudity and it's magical powers inducing early onset observational Alzheimer's.
It was written.
"if I meet you in the club and you have two legs and when we get home and get to fondling I find out that you only have one, I will probably be inclined to toss you out."
What? Does that mean that young Panama would have kicked out of bed a woman wearing a prostetic leg? Bad young man! Very bad!
Just kidding. I understand your position about padded bras.
To me, it all depends on how much padding we are talking about. I'm a C, and I have tried some very different models in the past. Some gives my boobs a nice lift and just enhanced my cleavage, others made me look like Lara Croft. Now these reallt felt like cheating! The first one felt more like what you would do to your face with make up.
okay...weighing in here from the woman perspective...
I am a c to a d cup and quite honestly love a little bit of padding and not because it will add shape to my breasts but because if I do not have any padding in my bra....and me and my male colleagues are in a meeting... in a cool room ....guess what????
Yep, major headlights...and that is not comfortable for any of us and does not get me the kind of attention I want in that environment. Been there done that...silky blouse...barely there bra and cool offices ....and VOILA ....my girls are on display!
I also think that for many smaller busted women they want the extra padding because it gives them a nicer fit in clothes and adds a little more cle to there cleavage....and that does make us feel sexy...so sometimes men what makes us FEEL SEXY is going to get you a more sexy woman...
same here, for us smaller chested females, the padding only makes them look well formed, not LARGE or anything :) if that bothers men well, too bad :D
Sadly, I am an A cup. I do where Wonder Bras, but it does not make me look like I have larger breasts. However, they help me NOT look as if I were a 12 year old in need of a training bra. They give me an opportunity to have a little bit of cleavage (which I imagine guys appreciate), make me more confidant, and make me feel like a woman.
Oh miss grapejellygirl (great name) i think you've confused padding with a molded cup! Molded cups are very thin cups that stand up on their own to give shape and lack of niplage (lol) but dont make boobs look bigger cause they're like 1/16 of an inch thick.
I think Panama was talking about those padded ones~like have you seen those commericals for victoria's secret where they add two cup sizes to your breasts??? I saw them in the store in they're rediculous. Its like sharing your bra with some lemons below your boobs! Im a 34DD and I was having trouble figuring out what strange combo of letters i would look like if I wore one lol!
I think its best to just own up to what you have and be happy with that and not false advertise. Padded bras are probably like a crazy amount of shapewear: they look good from the outside but men just want to undress the real thing! Small breasted women should be happy they can buy pretty lingerie from wherever! As a DD, some lingerie lines only go up to a C and it drives me nuts!
If you have small breasts (like 32B or smaller), then it's nearly impossible to find bras without SOME padding (especially *flattering* bras that can be worn for everyday under tees & the like). Options become more & more limited the further you move away from the average (ie. about 36C).
The best I can find is light "contour" padding, which doesn't add size so much as shape a bit & give some oomph; I'm okay with that. But the vast majority of bras in small sizes come with like 2 inches of padding....I avoid them, but it seriously limits my options. The stores pretty much force their agenda to make small busted women appear larger than they are.... It's like no one can imagine a small busted woman NOT wanting to look much larger.
Men have no idea what a pain bra shopping is...just to find one that FITS is a miracle sometimes.