I don't quite see how these two things are even remotely connected. Perhaps you and your friend go everywhere together and she rakes in all the guys but that should actually be working in your favor. True, you might not get the number one draft pick, but you just asked how do you get a guy, not how do you get George Clooney.
Let's start there though. So you're best friend is more attractive than you. Now does that mean you're busted or does that mean she's Jessica Biel hot and you're more like Jennifer Aniston in her "Friends" heyday hot? There's a big difference there. If you're busted then this all comes down to personality and once again, having the hot best friend should work out for you. Heck, you get to meet all kinds of guys you'd never meet without a hot friend. So you should be trying to charm the hell out of one of them when the opportunity arises. Plus, guys ALWAYS travel with wingmen. You can't even pull the wingman?
Actually, if you're best friend looks like Jessica Biel and you're like Jennifer Aniston and you still can't get a man, then that must come down to personality too. The main point here is that your best friend is not an impediment to you getting a man. You are.
But if you do think your best friend is the problem then ditch her and go out solo or find a chick who's not as attractive as you are and hang with her.
But perhaps you need to be reading some of the articles on this site about how to get a guy you want, or even more simply, five ways to get a guy, any guy.
And if that doesn't work, try an online dating service or something. It's not your best friend, it's you.
It was written.
Easy, don't bring her ass around.
I have this problem as well - my fraternal twin sister and near constant companion is a petit gorgeous redhead. I'm not hideous, but I pale in comparison. The endless barrage of boys throwing themselves at her does not rebound to me, ever. The solution I've found is to diversify - still do your normal friend-stuff, but add an interest or a club or a job or something where you'll interact with guys without her. Then don't introduce them to your friend until after they adore you. It works for me, maybe it will work for you.
My best friend is hot as hell. Though we hardly ever get to hang out. When we do it's usually in places where we wouldn't want to get guys anyway since we don't get a chance to hang out. So fly solo sister.
I have the same problem... My bff, and 1 of my closest friends (my aunt) are above and beyond gorge! BITCHES! lol! The sucky part about it is, they're both attatched. Maybe that's the appeal and guys can SOO tell I'm the single one. I don't know, but either way, to sum up my situation I just don't give a crap anymore. I go out to have fun, get drunk, and DANCE! LOL! No seriously, we go out have a good time and pay no never mind to those around us, unless the situation calls for it. I've found that works more than ditching the Hot friend or finding a "not-so-hot" friend. Enjoy yourself and don't worry so much about other people.
I don't recommend looking for a less attractive friend to go out with. They can tell why you want them there and it does nothing for the friendship.
how do u ask a a question I wne t to ask a question but there is no where to submit it thanks im new to the site
In response to the most fair "Olysky" which I would expect to be a pseudonym, something I would imagine, that would put many gentlemen off. My comment does not regard your lack of forthcoming, but rather your statement, which if I may remember, was, "I don't recommend looking for a less attractive friend to go out with. They can tell why you want them there and it does nothing for the friendship."
May I respectfully disagree, Madam?
It would seem that the buxom vixen of which our poster decries has done that very thing to her, and, if I may be candid, she was none the wiser!
I might add, then, to Mr. Jackson's well reasoned response that many gentleman prefer to be in the company of a woman with similar tastes. While her friend might possess the ample bosom of Pamela Jackson, were she to venture into a bistro of stature, unable to discern a fine cognac, choosing instead to gurgle back a bottle of Coor's Light as an apertif, then I would imagine that any young man of the day would have her escorted home briskly, at that, with nary a well wish.
Should Madam be well read and fluent in the modern artists of the day, then indeed her ability to provide conversation, when necessary would be of enormous appeal to any number of good gentleman.
That was me, actually. What I meant was that it would be unwise to actively seek out a less attractive friend for the sole purpose of being the "hot" one when going out. It's not a problem to go out with people of varying physical attractiveness -- that no one would deny. But keeping someone around just to look good? Not worth it.
Thank you Rosebud for clarifying... and to you Mr.BobLaMerde, it is in fact a pseudonym. I feel no need to clarify and if you find it to be a bit off, then so be it. And please refer back to "Please never assume...well you know why." (as you so "eloquently" dodged saying you were doing in reference to my screen name)
oooh child..
ask yourself what makes her hotter than you?
come up with a list. write it down. then change the things you can and accept..no.. EMBRACE what you cannot..
example:
A:she has better hair
B:she's tall
in senario A... you could change your hair in a million ways to see what makes you feel hot.
in senario B... you have to accept your limitations and LOVE THEM.. make a list of reason you're the perfect height.. ya know things like that.
you know who's hot?? SETH ROGAN is hot. if i saw him on the street would he turn my head? no. but that fact that he's funny and confident and ambitious... makes him sexy.
if seth rogan hung out all the time with Bradly Cooper... and i ran into them.. i'd be happy to get either of their attention.. for different reasons... but all the same...
This happened to me all the time...my BF would always get the guys; even if she wasn't attracted to them, if I was attracted to them it was usually Jealousy City and she would work harder at getting the poor boy to notice her instead! Then when the guy fell in love with her (as they always did) I would have to pretend that friendship with the guy was enough. I don't take anyone's leftovers, and it wasn't like I was hot to start with.
The crazy thing was that when it was just us girls, she was totally awesome.
i have the same problem too . i like this boy and he likes me too but when im around my best friend he's all up on her but when she's not around he's all up on me . so he's basically faking on me . but he tells me that he doesn't like her he just likes me . but my best friend is pretty and im pretty too but shes short and im tall . but he's tall too so he's a little bit taller then me . but the actual problem is that he's kissed me before and after that he said that he was starting to fall in love with me and that got to me so ive started thinking about us getting together . but now i see him flirting with other girls so im starting to reconsider it .