I could take the high road here and say you are too inexperienced to be jaded, but shan't.
Going to tell you a story instead.
Years ago, I walked round the corner of the house and saw my Grandad kneeling in the grass, just looking at some flowers in the flowerbed. Not weeding, or feeding, or anything like that - simply looking at them. Me, being a typical, swaggering, know all kid, asked what was up. Instead of getting swatted for impertinence (Grandad being a bit old school), he sat me down and told me.
"Every one of these flowers came from the same parent plant. From a tiny little seed about the size of a grain of sand. We collected those seeds together last autumn, remember? Yet each and every one of them is slightly different."
I looked. Probably for the first time in my life, I really looked. I saw what he meant.
How can you be jaded in such a wonderful world? Open your eyes. Have you ever really looked at the world around you? As in, really, really looked? Not at simply what you like and are used to, but the whole damned thing.
It is a place filled with wonder and horror. A place you will never fully understand, no matter how you try. So get out and enjoy it.
My mother literally stopped and smelled the roses the other day, and all of a sudden there was a gust of wind, and she got whacked in the face by the thorny stems. I chuckled at her and the irony of it. She thought it was kind of funny too.
That’s a cool response Myst…, I like it.
you have the best stories, MM. great question and great answer. anybody that has been seriously burned (which is by the way, almost everyone on the planet) struggles with this one, man and woman alike! i think the best way to get over being jaded is to just keep taking those risks until you find someone that isn't going to shit all over you. hard, but that guard has to come down if you want to find love. TRUE love, it just has to, and it's a bitter pill to swallow. I was just searching for a quote for my FB status this morning and ran across this one "it's better to be occasionally cheated, than perpetually suspicious." (by the legendary Unknown Author) i read that (before i read this ?) and thought, wow, so true! life is too damn short to be anything but happy, so enjoy it. the pain that comes with it doesn't kill us, it makes us stronger. when someone burns you, go find a rose to smell, or something to laugh at, or...whatever fills you with joy. it will give you the push you need to remember life is BIGGER than the pain that comes with it. but only if you choose that.
'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - Tennyson.
First Love. The End. In my youth, I could not deal with the painful heartbreak and absolutely knew my life was over and there was no meaning left. Fuck Tennyson - could the poet be more wrong. (Better to have been dead than to love at all.) My dark side came through and I did not inflict myself on anyone by dating. For YEARS. What would be the point since I was incapable of feeling or being truly happy ever again...
That was my journey and I had to get to where I am now. Time does heal your wounds. Activities keep you busy. Achievements give you confidence. Courage is necessary to try again. Wisdom learned so you don't repeat mistakes. Be ready when opportunity comes around... timing is everything. And get over being jaded - life's too short.
I find that avoiding, or at least limiting contact, with bitter jaded people helps
I absolutely love reading your responses MM. This one particularly made me stop for a second. Thanks for all the help you've given everyone on here :)
On days that I feel a bit jaded, the best thing for me is to spend time with kids. The younger ones, who are eager to learn about the world around them. The ones who give their hearts to everything and don't care. It really makes me humbled.
perhaps one of the best comments of 'em all, so true. one of the things i love most about dating as a single mom is the constant reminders from my 8 year old boy that the world is fabulous, no matter what.
I recommend that you read "Eat Pray Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. It's a very positive, uplifting novel that hopefully will give you hope for better, more exciting days ahead.
What a lovely day for a 752276! SCK was here
I don't think any of you really know what 'Jaded' really means. Being Jaded and being 'Cynical' are two totally different things. It was a nice try, very positive and wonderful advice, but it did not fit the subject. For the original poster, I would suggest under-indulgence and stop rushing through life. I am quite jaded myself, and that is because I've experienced a lot, and always kept myself ahead of everyone else when it came to music, literature, art, movies, etc. Now, when I hear that someone likes something that I used to like, I roll my eyes and do the whole "been there done that" thing. It really bothers me, because I feel I am running out of passions. Everything I end up liking, I obsess over, collect everything I can from it, and anything associated with it, draining every bit of life from it, and then disposing of it. Jaded people just always need new things, and become bored very easily. We always need change, and that is not at all a bad thing. It is just annoying, because nothing equates to the fast pace in which we live. I suggest that if you find something you like, try not to suck the life out of it. Otherwise, I have no clue how to help you. I am searching for that answer myself, which is what lead me here in the first place. Being jaded is perhaps inevitable with age.