The key word in your question is "sometimes." You see, the fact that sometimes you (I mean this gal) orgasm is incredibly validating and rewarding for the guy. It then becomes a benchmark of success. The irony is, it is women who never orgasm in bed with a guy that eventually lets guys off the hook. Sure, This girl enjoys herself, the dude thinks, but she never orgasms. That's how it was 4 months ago, that's how it was tonight, that's how it will be four months from now. And so her orgasm becomes a non issue. A dead issue. You, or the other vagina, are somewhere (or more accurelty "sometimes" in the middle.) Which is of coure an %100 OK place to be. But dudes being who we are - might stress us out.
As for feelings of guilt or worry, those aren't the exact words I would use. Guys, who are tied to their lady's O as proof positive of sexual prowess may feel inadequate and down on themselves. Their ego will live and die by your climax. That's really on them. As you point out pleasure takes many forms, many moans, many turns. Don't worry about him, he will evolve. Worry about nothing. Isn't that always the quickest way anyway?
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How do you guys feel when sometimes your girl doesn't orgasm but she does enjoy herself in bed with you? Do you guys feel guilty? Worried?
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& this is why ive learned after an ex totally gave up on me and did NOTHING for me sooner rather than later because i couldnt orgasm... that even though i STILL havent orgasmed, decided it in my best interest to pretend i do (but not very easily & not SUPER often..so he still has to work hard for it ) with my new beau ;)..so that he wouldnt feel down about it because its not his fault & so he wouldnt give up on me & become a lazy bum! =P
Faking it doesn't help. If he thinks he's doing it right, you will surely never achieve orgasm. Instead, you should be telling him what feels good so that you can work together on achieving it. It will be so much better for you both, even if it takes a while.
I feel a sharp pain on the side of my head, because if I get mine before she gets hers, she starts slapping me.
hahaha of course she will!
Well, I think girls shouldn't worry too much about what a guy feels during sex.
They say sex for guys is like pizza, even when it's bad it's good, am I wrong? And I think all the stress you have in your mind reflects on whether you orgasm or not. So chill & enjoy.
What if it's the other way around? My guy can get me off like 5 times and when I try to bj or hj him it takes a long time and sometimes he doesn't come. Is this a problem? Is he still enjoying it? I thought guys were supposed to be quick?? (We're not having sex yet)