Nice one, Funny Guy. This made me laugh.

I dated a guy who was overweight and I was always too scared to approach the subject, but one day out of the blue, he mentioned he was working out and trying to lose weight because he knew his current weight wasn't healthy. I'm sure the asker's boyfriend is aware of his extra pudge. It's just about when he'll get motivated enough to do something about it, which I feel is best left up to him.

Do you exercise and eat healthy yourself? If not,maybe you could encourage & inspire him by doing so.No one likes to be singled out & have the finger pointed at them.So maybe if you 2 went at it as a team,he'd be alot more motivated:-)

Does he want to lose weight? Even if he's morbidly obese, you can't change people. If he's comfortable with who he is, then you need to either accept that, or realize that maybe he's not the guy for you.
But if he genuinely wants to, then it's probably his New Year's Resolution (and if it's not, perhaps you ccacn suggest it). Maybe you guys can help each other on your resolutions together?

just laughed out loud at my job. Refrigerator line got me...
amazing answer funny guy

Try to do it with him, even if you're not working to lose weight. Invite him to head out to the gym together. Cook healthy meals together. If he resists, gently point out his jiggly bits.

I have total sympathy for this person. I want my boyfriend to lose weight and I feel terrible about it. I noticed he had a bit more on him than I thought when we first got together and it put me off him sexually (I can't help this, before anyone tells me I'm a terrible person!) but I loved his personality so I thought I'd just get used to it. A year later and I haven't got used it. I think he's very handsome and I love looking at him, I'm certainly not sickened by his shape, but I just can't get turned on! Our sex life's not great as a result and I'm when I fantasise about him I imagine he's slimmer. I've seen pictures of him a few years ago before he'd gained weight and he's gorgeous, so I think of them. I feel really, really bad about it because he's not actually overweight, he's just a bit podgy. He wants to lose weight because he doesn't like the fact he's larger than he was and he asked for my help to lose it. I obliged but made sure I told him I loved him at any weight and I didn't think he needed to worry. So I make him healthy meals and make sure they're large so he doesn't get hungry. I've not put him on a diet or anything, I just feed him as I feed myself. But then he goes and drinks loads of beer or eats pizza, bacon and hotdogs, which is fine maybe a couple of times a week, but he does this everyday and he's just gaining more! This is just a hard situation for people like the poster because I'd hate it if someone asked me to lose weight but what should you do if you're losing interest because you just don't find them attractive anymore?

Not helpful AT ALL. Just thought you should know. Now how about some real tips?

I'm running sorta into the same problem cuz my boyfriend is gaining weight. I don't want him to cuz if bad health risks. The problem is that one of my friends told him that I liked bigger guys, and he said he didn't want to lose me. He started gaining weight and I told him that he was mistaking and I had a talk with my friend and him. It helps if u just talk to them about it. Just walk up to him and say we need to talk and talk to him about it. Nowhere public though or it could be embarrassing. Goo luck.

I wish I could offer advice, because I came here looking for advice myself. But I really understand what you all are going through. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and we have been together for years, but for the past couple of years he has been gaining weight. I love his face, he is very handsome, but when it comes to sex, that's where the problem lies. I am very small in every way, and he is very tall and a big boy, so as you can imagine, this can complicate things. So not only am I losing my physical attraction to him (which I am desperately holding on to!!) but when we become intimate, he is too heavy for me. I do not want to embarrass him, but I need to be happy to a certain extent. I imagine what things would be like if he was slimmer, if he could run with me, and I feel very very guilty but I can't push the thoughts out. It's even starting to show in his face. I really really love him...I just want to be as happy with him as ever, because I really feel he is the one. If I can't find a solution, I will just suck it up because he deserves the best from me, but I don't want to lose my attraction to him and have our relationship suffer.

guys no matter what we say, weight is a touchy subject. i'm female, 27 and am not a small person, been with my man for 5 years, and over the years i have gained about 6 kgs. And out of the blue this weekend, he just said " you need to lose weight, the woman i fell in love with didnt weigh this much"
believe me it was the most painful thing to hear, so my advice to you ladies who want to tell your man to lose weigh, i suggest you dont say it straight, but YOU get involved in activities and eating healthy, coz its unfair to tell your man to lose wieght when you both eat pizza everyday. for him to be in the shape you want, you must also participate, but there is no easy way to tell someone they need to lose weight