Probably via text, depending of course, on whether or not you contracted it from him. If you didn't have an STD before you started humping him and all of sudden you have one, then I suggest doing it face-to-face so that you can smart him upside the head with a skillet. Then you can force him to go get tested, etc so that you then have papers to use in court as to why you assaulted him.
Of course, if you have been sleeping around on him, and then contracted an STD, well, I'd suggest that you send him an email telling him to go get tested because you made some bad decisions that possibly gave him the gift that keeps on giving.
Thirdly, did you know you had one before you two started dating? If so, you REALLY should have brought that up before you two decided to make it official. Owning an STD is something that really shold be need-to-know information. While it may make it difficult for you to keep a boyfriend, it's really selfish to NOT tell somebody. And you simply MUST tell him before you become intimate.
Really, this all depends on your situation. But if you're dude gave you the disease where you're forced to ride horses and smile forever (those Herpes ads really did a number on me), you should confront him and don't be apologetic about it. He'll probably claim you're some kind of slore or something and swear he didn't pass it along to you. But as long as you have right on your side, unless your Black, the law will probably look the other way if you do him some bodily harm. And then find out how to fix yourself up.
Quite simply, be straight up, don't sugarcoat s*&^, and keep it thorough. Beating around the bush is what got you two in this situation. Now it's time to extinguish the fire.
Um, no pun intended.
It was written.
It's hard not to get herpes since most of the population has it. I thought I had it once (insane itching), but turned out to be a yeast infection.
Otherwise, ew. Hopefully were just dealing with herpes cause the rest tend to be really icky.
Knowingly passing on any STD is irresponsible at the least, cruel at the worst. You need to be up-front about your sexual health if you're going to swap fluids with someone. Tell them BEFORE you do it, use condoms, and do your best to protect your reproductive health and that of the person you (apparently) love enough to sleep with.
Whoops! Sorry Megan. Didn't mean to reply to you, just meant to post a comment.
Most of the population doesnt have herpes.... 1/4 people have either kind (oral or genital) and 1/6 women have genital herpes. Men are less likely to get it because their genitals are less moist.....yuck, thats hopefully enough of an explanation.
This case is why I have my boyfriends get tested WITH me before we sleep together and I dont have casual sex. (If people didnt have gross things I would be having so much more fun lol). Some of these things are for life, its terrible. I just cant wrap my mind around why people dont try to prevent these things froms spreading by using condoms. I mean really, looking at the cost/benefit of using condoms, its crazy people dont use them!
Monogamy, honesty, condoms. They save lives. Or at least your genitals.
the others may have "ickier" symptoms but they r the curable ones. Herpes is forever, just like genital warts.
the others may have "ickier" symptoms but they r the curable ones. Herpes is forever, just like genital warts.
the others may have "ickier" symptoms but they r the curable ones. Herpes is forever, just like genital warts.
Go consult your physician! This is a medical matter, and you need to seek treatment! If he gave it to you, he could be giving it to others as well . Its a stressful situation to be in. Be careful in the future , and if you had it prior to him try to find out what may have happened. Did you sleep with someone in the past , could you have contracted it then? You need to ask yourself those kinds of questions. Also keep in mind, while condom usage is a great means of prevention, many people are contracting STDS orally. We negate to use dental dams because it'll "spoil the mood" but the human mouth is freakin filthy. :( so sorry that had to happen.
In some places it's actually considered a criminal offense to not inform someone you intend to have sex with that you have something that they could contract and have for life from you like AIDS. But that's only if you KNOW you have that before you get intimate. If you had no hint or idea you had it before not much one can do. The only reason it's being looked at as criminal for those life long 'gifts' is because it's a risk to ones health not like pointing a gun but still bad, and it may vary place to place if it is considered as such.
But with some stds like syphilis you can become infected and may not even know you have it. How many people could connect a fever/ painless open sores then 6 months later a rash to one thing that's making you sick? Not many people. And with ALOT of STDs you can have the symptoms for a very short time then it can lay dormant for YEARS before it did anything else to harm you. Within that time it can be passed to so many others that it gets scary. Many clinics will require you to also either give the names of or contact any sexual partners you had in life to let them know to be tested.
All it takes to make an epidemic is 1 person. Person 1 sleeps with 3 people, those 3 each sleep with another 3 and so on and so on til finally it's out among over 100 people REALLY fast. This is why knowing your body is good and getting tested if you even THINK you have a infection like this is even better for your mind and well being. MOST STDs you can fight off if you have a good immune system and it's not a bad case, no worse than a regular cut or scrape. For many people that isn't the case though and will end up needing medicines to keep it in check or cured.
Also knowing your body is a good thing because you learn whats normal for it to react to and how and what not. This is a bit embarassing but I had bumps on my lady parts and got scared all it turned out to be was hives because I was allergic to a guys sperm XD Hasn't happened again as I never had sex with him again. Then with my bf I'm with now our skin on our privates didn't like eachother or something so we constantly had lil red hives but that eventually went away as we stayed active and hasn't appeared since nor do either of us have anything yucky.
If all else fails BEFORE starting a serious relationship you and they go get tested together! It costs very little to nothing to get it done from a local planned parenthood or places like that and if your potential bf/gf won't do it then tell them you can't be intimate plain and simple. Someone who at least cares about well being will have no qualms about doing this or showing you a recently done test for things. There is no reason to risk your health and possible baby making future to just bump uglies with someone who doesn't care enough to be healthy.
What if you have something like HPV? Would that be something you needed to share, even though its supposed to be common? I dunno, I had been diagnosed with mild cervical dysplasia. The doctor never said anything about HPV, but I am assuming that is what causes it. Should that be something I tell my next partner?
HPV is carried by both men and women but sadly only us ladies get the bad side of it. Well as far as I'm aware guys don't suffer from anything HPV related (but who knows they may trace it someday as a risk to guys as well). HPV is quite common indeed every person has a form of it, many don't do much others can cause issues like cancer or dysplasia. It's passed among the body fluids exchange during sex. So it's possibly a good thing to warn him about as if you two don't stay together he can possibly pass the strain you have to his next partner. In the end it's up to you but honestly I'd feel a bit jilted (I think it's the right word, I'm kinda sleepy ATM) if I had to find out the hard way I caught something from one of my bf's exes.
As always ANY woman who is sexually active should be tested with a pap yearly to help keep such things in check. It doesn't matter if you're 15 or 45 it's for your health and is worth it to nip bad things before they become horrors of the flesh.
"But as long as you have right on your side, unless your Black, the law will probably look the other way if you do him some bodily harm"
So funny, so true.
Let The Doctor Tell His Stupid Ass For Fucking With A Slut Like You.
look I have herpes !! and i hate having to tell people im dating but I HAVE TO! for some reason I have been getting positive feed back from men. not that thats a bad thing. Be a woman!! tell him to his face...theyll respect you more for being honest and it probably make him like you even more for having the courage and respect to b honest about it!. Its not easy but you can do it... FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCES IM NOT JUST TALKIN ABOUT OF MY A**........
use condoms b careful and let him kno that you did it because you care ...dont be like the jerk that didnt tell you
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Ummmm, what? Unless your Black? Yeah your very helpful.
Ummmm, what? Unless your Black? Yeah your very helpful.