What? Who gives a flying frak what people think? If you want to wear a bikini, wear a bikini.
Have you been to the beach lately? I was just there, and trust me when I say that no one else seems to care how they look, so why should you? I saw old guys with moobs in Speedos, overweight women in bikinis, men with huge beer guts, people with massive scars, you name it. And you know what? Good for them. They wear what makes them happy. If it grosses anyone out, who cares? Not them.
I'm not exactly waifish myself, so that kind of stuff doesn't bother me. At any beach or pool you'll always see more unfit people than fit. They just look like normal people to me. I don't think too many of us sit around thinking, Oh, she really shouldn't be wearing that. Even if they are, what do you care? Do you know these people? Will you ever see them again? Nope. So f**k 'em!
There are no set rules or guidelines. Wear what makes you comfortable. If you feel like people are staring and it makes you uneasy, then wear a one-piece or tankini or burlap bag. If you want to wear a bikini, do it, and proudly. You're not out there for them, you're out there for you. To have fun. You won't have fun as long as you care so much what other people think.
Right on Cary!.People spend waaay too much time worrying what others think. Go out enjoy the sun and surf. You only have one life.
Oh man, that tag! Cary, you slay me.
Damn right! If they got a problem with it, you tell them to kiss your natural white ass (I apologize if you're not white)!
What Cary said! Wear what YOU like and have a good time...everyone else is:)
"If you knew how little time others spend thinking about you…you wouldn’t worry so much about what others think about you." That's something a friend of mine used to say. Seriously, when you are at the beach, do you spend all your time sitting around staring at everyone there and thinking, "Oh that person shouldn't be wearing a bikini or a speedo or whatever." If you do, you're not having much fun. You should be playing in the water, looking for shells, building a sandcastle with your kid, relaxing and catching some rays, having a picnic lunch, playing volleyball, or whatever else it is you came to the beach for. That's what everyone else is doing. Right? They don't care what you look like or what you're wearing. And if they do, they haven't got much going on in their lives, do they? Who cares what they think? Live your own life. Wear what you like and what you feel comfortable in. Great response, Cary.
Right on, life's too short to obsess! And if it makes you feel better, even many skinny people have cellulite & dimply thighs. ;) Nobody's perfect.
What your boyfriend said.
Ever considered they might be staring because your look HOT in that bikini?
Yet again...amazing answer haha...I actually PURPOSELY stare at people at the beach/pool sometimes, just because I've realized that everyone has their little imperfections and they don't actually make them look bad---sometimes they're actually cute =)
So if I start feeling gross in comparison to all these "perfect" people, I just look a little closer and realize that even the most gorgeous people have flaws and that they give people character and excitement =)
And it's nice to see how different everyone looks--think how boring it'd be if everyone looked the same?
God! This is the reason I haven't worn a bathing suit in close to 10 years. Nobody should have to look at my beached-whale body. I'm afraid people will start breaking out the harpoons. Not that I'm terribly overweight (about 40 lbs), but I won't even wear shorts.
To each her own, however. I don't think anyone will much care what your bathing suit looks like, as long as you're comfortable in it. I think that's the key right there.
Okay. Please stop it everyone. Stop lying to this poor woman. Listen Anonymous, have you ever thought about the fact that it might be an eyesore for people to have to see that? Like for example when middle aged women with saggy titties wear a shirt with no bra, do you know how painful that is to my eyes? Or when a 250 lb woman who's only 5 feet wears a tiny bikini that dissapears into her rolls? It's disgusting and you should think about what your exposing young children to. If your that worried wear some shorts and a tank, but just please don't be one of those women who thinks cellulite and flab is the new "it" thing of 2010.
"you should think about what your exposing young children to."...really R.B. and the fact that your a ignorant ass is a better example for children????
Have you ever considered how "your" exposing children to crappy grammar? It's "you're," dude. A contraction for "you" and "are." Perhaps you can bone up on the dictionary before writing anything, anywhere, for anyone to read.
LoL I love you Cary but as big of a douche as R.B. is, fat people who wear clothing that doesn't fit always get made fun of... I mean muffin tops, droopy belly jowls, cottage cheese legs, the whole nine yards. Having said that, I don't think "20 lbs overweight" is anything to bury yourself in the sand over. But hey anon, if you're really worried about it try out the Master Cleanse or drink lots of (for reals) lemon water throughout the day. That can help shed 5-10lbs in one month.
WHO CARES?! That's the point. Let 'em make fun. What the hell do I care about some stranger's opinion?
Fat looks better when it's tan. Rock the 'kini!
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Dude, she's 20lbs over. So the f*** what?! Get over it, R.B. She ISN'T 250lbs, so your comment was pretty irrelevant. Wear it and love the way you look in it! I have a 2 1/2 month old and I still have about 10 or 15lbs of baby weight to lose, but you know what? No one cares! I'm happy and my husband is happy, so that's all that matters. Be happy with what you have, sug. Don't let anyone make you feel like you need to cover up. In fact, most guys like a girl with meat on their bones (In the South anyway. Can't speak much for the North. But that's probably the reason your boyfriend likes the way you look: curves are nice! :-D)
If I've taught my male friends anything, "Tan fat DOES look better that white fat." Hit the bed, then hit the beach!
Holler at your boy!!!
You're damn right! I need to get laid, and I need to get a tan--in that order, stat!
You know what? Judgmental people are always going to find something to judge. That's their problem, not yours. Life is too short to let people like that occupy too much space in your mind. Wear whatever makes you feel confident and have fun. Confidence always looks good.
if you have a boyfriend you're not too fat. Fat girls don't get boyfriends, like me.
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