COME ON! I haven't even said yes yet!
Now if you meant my wedding, I would pretty much expect to be there. Maybe have a say about the venue, make sure the catering is not 100% vegetarian and that the bar staff know exactly when to cut off various of my relatives.
All the rest - who doesn't get invited, who and how many bridesmaids and what revolting color to dress them in, which caterer, the tantrums, sending out a billion invitations, seating arrangements, the vows - nope, not interested at all. Those things are (and were) a matter of supreme indifference to me.
Can I be a flower girl?