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How many men do you think would be turned off by a woman who underwent a bilateral mastectomy (breasts were taken off for cancerous purposes) and now sports scars all along the new implants?

First off, bravo. You are a survivor. I cannot imagine what you're going through right now. A friend of mine went through a similar procedure, and it was extremely difficult. But she came out stronger, healthier, and alive. Remember that. You can get through literally anything now.

To answer your question, no, guys won't be turned off. Younger, immature guys might be scared to date someone who went through cancer. That's because they are weak and do not understand how life works. If you're worried, let the guy know before you undress in front of him for the first time. Nice guys who are interested in you won't care. They'll be glad you're healthy. If you're confident and honest about your past, that's all that matters. Scars heal, and even if these don't, no guy is going to care. If they're interested in you, a few scars aren't going to stop them from dating you.

I don't think you need to go into the specifics with a guy until things are getting serious. Once you explain what you went through, guys will understand. If they bail, then you know they were douchebags and not right for you.
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Mike

Perfect answer from NN

Tariana

*big hug*

I just cannot imagine what you've been through, so like CG said, BRAVO.

chrissie1101

there is no better way to say "you can literally get through anything now". wtg nick. you've kicked cancers ass, and kicking the ass of any douchebag who doesnt respect that will be easy peasy for you. nick is right, nice guys wont care, thats what makes them nice guys, and they're the only kind you need. you go girl.

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I really don't think most guys will find it a turn off at all, save for maybe the weak, immature experts in douchebaggery that Nick mentioned. Those guys aren't worth any more time than it takes for you to show them the door. Luckily, with your incredible strength and the life experience you've gained through battling and surviving cancer, you can probably spot that sort from a mile away. Anyone even remotely deserving of your company will admire and respect you for surviving all you've gone through and will probably even find any physical indication of that to be beautiful. Anyone who finds the scars off putting just can't have much of a clue about anything. You didn't survive all that only to put up with some obtuse jerk who doesn't get it. At the same time, if a few scars can be used as a jerk repellant, all the better.

Most importantly, congratulations on winning the battle. Enjoy your life, don't take crap from anyone, and just know that it's a pretty safe bet that the worst is over! :-)

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