For me? 4 times a night is good, 5 is pushing it a bit - I am getting older, sadly, with all the recharge time fuss that entails. A guy has to sleep sometime, and work gets in the way of day time fun too.
This is a very common question, believe it or not, and should be looked at honestly. And, if you ladies will excuse me for a second, I am going to address the guys here first. The ones that read guyspeak either to see what you are asking, or to learn from the masters. The ones that have the full toolkit, but don't know a spanner from a hammer.
Foreplay is king, you idiots!
You want to have sex. Cool. Fine. Go for it. But if you are only concerned with your own pleasure, buy a bloody doll. Your lady should have blasted her brains out at least twice before you even get in the saddle. With a little restraint, and good timing on your part, there should be another couple of orgasms before you finish.
Gals are unfortunate, in some respects. Most of them are at their keenest just after they have had an orgasm. You gonna leave them hanging, or show that you are a proper man? Jesus H, man, have some pride in your skills!
Now, back to the ladies.
Guys get pretty much one shot, and it is complicated. Have you heard the phrase "blue balls?" Holding off for too long, for a guy, is in all honesty, total freaking agony, where having an orgasm is actually so incredible painful you swear off sex for at least a day. Add in stress, tiredness, indigestion; they all have a negative effect on the old sex drive. And the recharge times. Once a week is not good. But sometimes it is understandable.
I am the one who wrote this and need to clarify something as I ran out of room on the question form. What I ment with my bf isn't worried about it, is he is perfectly fine with my high sex drive, but because of my past relationships of the guy not fulfilling me or even getting me to orgasm, I have been called a sex fiened nympho by my ex. So it left me wondering if my sex drive was too demanding. I know age isn't required but for everyones curiosity I am 30 going on 16 with my sexual desire! Lol now the guy I am with bends over backwards to give me as many orgasms as he can to where I tap out and tell him to stop so I can breath and I'm left quivering for a good 5 min. He is the only man who has gone over and beyond his duty in pleasing me.
You have found a real man this time, not a boy.
And no, you are no nympho, just a healthy young woman with a good attitude to the good things in life.
thanks for the reassurment MM! Your answer was awesome as always!
Insightful.
having an orgasm is painful for men?
is having an orgasm really painful for men?
Seriously, for once, if he delays too long, yes, it is total agony, on a par with being booted hard in the jewels. Not having an orgasm is also incredibly painful, but slightly less so.
Most guys just curl up and whimper.
Lil_mamma, I don't think you're 30 going on 16, you're 30 going on 31. I'm not just being a smartass, it's natural that you're just now starting to peak.
If it's painful, why does my guy give up trying to orgasm sometimes? (when he hasn't waited long) Sometimes we will go for 30 minutes and he quits and says "it's not gunna happen".
He is starting to feel the twinges of pain. It happens, and guys only need to have the full blue ball phenomenon once to learn to avoid it like the plague.
Now don't go thinking it is you - it isn't. Stress, tiredness, one drink too many - they all can do this.
OMG! Thank you SO MUCH for explaining this!!!! My ex used to do this all the time and it made me feel like total crap. I thought it was the sex and I would offer to give him head, but he never wanted it. I really thought it was me. Thank you so much for taking this question! You rock!!
So now, when a guy uses "blue balls" as an excuse for guilting a girl into putting out, that's a lie then? Because if he really had blue balls he wouldn't want any?
I think this is my revelation of the week.
I wish I had your problem. I'm the opposite, no sex drive at all. I'm the same age too so I doubt age has anything to do with it. I think the only way your sex drive would become an issue is if you went outside the relationship to find satisfaction.
Okay, I've heard of women hitting their peak at around 30ish. I'm 23, and about a month ago had a huge surge in my sex drive. I want it all the time. It doesn't stop. I've had to start keeping spare panties in my purse, because within a few hours, they'll be soaked through.
I'm not in a formal relationship-- more like a friends with benefits thing. I seriously think I have a problem or something. When I AM having sex, it's extremely satisfying, and I have multiple orgasms, but as soon as it's over, I feel like, "That was it???"
:( Please tell me if this is okay. I'm scared somethng's wrong with me.
I'm the same way and I do t turn 21 for another 20 days. When I first started having sex a few years ago 5 times a day was normal, partially because of him and partially because of me. That ended though and my last serious relationship ended in part because my sex drive is still that high and his was nonexistent, I want it all the time it's almost annoying. One of my guy friends thinks there's something wrong cause In His experience girls just don't have that high a drive
As a male,
I need sex 4 to 5 times a day to be happy!
I have just finished having sex twice, and my wife has just run off to do her hair. She is promising me a blowjob on her return if i promise not to service myself..
This 'Blue balls' phenomenon is a load of crap.
Never heard of it, never experienced it. When a guy says i have blue balls, it just means he is really really randy (horny) and he needs to get a root.