You know, I was just reading an interesting article in The Atlantic about how more and more women are shaving their lady business than ever before. That certainly wasn't the case back in the day, if old pornos and Playboys are any indication. But for whatever reason -- maybe they think men like it, maybe it's part of the eternal quest for youth -- more women are waxing down there than ever before. The article mentions a study that says sexually active women are more likely to shave it all off, which makes me think women think it's something that guys want. To which I say: WE DON'T REALLY CARE. Sure, we all want your vag to look nice. But there's nothing wrong with body hair, pubic or otherwise. Men who are scared off by pubic hair don't get laid very often.
As for you, your sensitive skin should be a priority. Whether that means more often or less often, let your skin be the guide. Because, yes, your guy doesn't want you to break out. It's more important to the guy that you and your lady parts be comfortable. After all, you're the one walking around with them. But I don't think there is, nor should there be, an "accepted time period." So shave as often, or as infrequently, as you feel comfortable with. If shaving too often irritates your skin, then, to paraphrase a popular Christmas song "let it grow, let it grow, let it grow."
Keep the hair. I dont get why women are trying to look like girls down there. Grown women have a full grown pube stash.
I've said it before on a previous question - I prefer trimmed or shaved. I'd prefer to not have a face full of hair while I'm ... engaged down there. BUT, it's not a huge turnoff for me if it isn't and I've never commented or felt weirded out if a lady friend does prefer au natural. It's never factored into whether I'm interested in sexy time or whether I'd consider pursuing a relationship.
Try taking some sharp scissors, pulling the hair away from your body, and trimming it off close to your skin. This gives you a nice neat look without irritating my skin. I've found shaving makes me really itchy, but this is a great way to keep the hair short and manageable. My boyfriend actually commented on how much he likes it.
Heck, go buy yourself some trimmers and use them exclusively for body hair - slap a number 1 or 2 guard on there and you can get a nice, neat, trim without any irritation.
I can't shave my bikini area at all - I break out really badly - so I've been going for waxings for years. I just found a great place that uses organic wax which they heat to just a few degrees above body temperature. Not sure where you live, I'm in NYC, but if you can find a place like this it's worth the extra money. The better the wax, the more it sticks to just the hair and not the skin and it's less irritation. I don't break out at all when I wax. I ask the technician to trim the remaining hair very closely for me and I can get about 4-6 weeks out of one waxing. I also use the same technician each time and tip generously. I find some technicians won't trim for you, or take care of ingrown hairs so when you find a good one keep them happy.
What you do down there is your business! So if you do decide to shave or wax, watch out for ingrown hairs, exfoliating helps.
I was blessed with a small bush, so I don't really feel a need to shave or maintain anything. Just don't bring attention to it, if you ignore it and act like pubic hair isn't a big deal I'm sure most guy won't comment on it. I think guy come to care about that kind off stuff when chicks talk about it all the time and freak out and draw attention to stuff like that.
There are products out there for sensitive skin, to keep the irritation & bumps away. In the meantime.., do what’s comfortable for you.
Good lord, how many times must we answer this question?
I just read an article on The Frisky about why a lot of women aren't removing their pubes, so I guess it depends on who you ask. Some guys do care, though. I've read/heard plenty of women say that their men want them to go bald. I say do what you want--it's your bush. Some of us like it, some don't. Do what feels good to you.
I've met exactly one guy who liked his women bald; everyone else I've been with didn't care. I personally shave because I like to be smooth just for myself, but if you have sensitive skin I really don't recommend that route. Either do as some of the other commenters suggested and trim instead of depilating completely, (I believe there is a product or two out there made specifically for trimming that area,) or wax. You could go au naturel, but if you're like me that would likely result in unpleasantness when your guy goes down on you. Bottom line, it's your body, do what you're comfortable with and any guy who doesn't like it doesn't deserve to see it.
My advice is to keep it neat but not completely shaven. I have the opposite problem -- if I don't I get rashes. If I do shave it off clean it gets... prickly. What I do is use the shaving attachment on the epilaptor -- try to get one of these if you can. It trims everything to about 5mm (length for epilaption), keeping it neat, non-prickly, short and doesn't hurt you....
I had/have the same problem. After shaving practically every day, my skin got really really dry and even started peeling off. I let it rest for a couple months until it was better.
Now I shave every other day or every 2 days. I tried waxing, but it's ridiculously expensive where I live, and DIY waxing left me all bruised up (it was awful...). Still, if you can afford it, I'd recommend the wax. It lasts much longer and you'll avoid the blades against your skin.
If you decide to shave, try using some kind of hydrating cream or something like that on the days you don't shave. I know there are creams that make the hairs thinner/lighter, so maybe you can get one of those and shave less often?
You know being a 27 year old woman...I find this topic confusing still. I do shave every month or two before it grows all the way. I am part mexican and arab...so as you can imagine..very hairy..lol. I have found the way to avoid irritation is to shave with the hair instead of against. kind of how a man shaves his face...that works the best and you don't get the ingrown hairs and discomfort. On a side note I have only had one man care...he stated I will not perform oral..if not completely shaven...turned out he was impotent and didn't know how to satisfy a woman anyway...you don't have to conform to anyone's standards...no man is going to turn you down..and if he does tell him to go wait for the high school girls to get out of school for the day!
Shave it, wax it, epilate it, whatever! Just get rid of it! In my experience, both the woman AND man should be smooth as silk down town... There's nothing like the feeling of bumping two smooth wet uglies. Waxing hurts like all get out, but yields awesome results for a longer time, as where shaving is easier and a LOT cheaper, it can leave you a tad bumpy and itchy when you first start. Yer skin adapts and it'll just become part of you showering routine.