Meeting parents is scary. It just is. Even people with Smirnoff Ice coursing through their veins get a little sh*tty in the pants when confronted with an up and coming visit to Parent's Land. We want our mate's mom and dad to dig us, and think we are as lovable, smart and cute as our mate does.
Chances are they will, if you Step 1: Be yourself, but 2. Modify/adjust ever so slightly and, 3. Remember this is a team effort.
Number 1, you should be all set with. As for Number 2 simply do a little information gathering in the days leading up to that doorbell ringing. The more you 411 these cats the more you'll know what to expect (and prepare for).
Examples:
Are they...
Super conservative? (save your beastiality jokes)
Straight up hippies? (don't wear your pantsuit that day)
New to the country (google Estonia, Taiwan, Ivory Coast, etc.)
Are they first time huggers? Staunch Hand shakers? Obama haters? Orthodox Jews, A Mr. or Mrs. or a please call us Stan and Betsy type? Don't bring a chocolate cake to a diabetic's home; don't bring a hand carved walking stick to a double amputee. Bring your clarinet if he loves jazz. Look him in his right eye if he's missing his left.
Number 3 is most important. You and your man are a team. Whether it be at the supermarket, in bed, a crowded mall or his folk's house. Because he knows his parents and their home, he will likely act as a helpful guide and hype man: Flavor Flav to your Chuck, or if that's too obscure, Sen Dog to your B-Real.
He's not going to set you up to look like an ass. He will do everything in his power to make the meeting sweet, while absorbing the odd moments or occasional misfires on your part.
Good luck and pop some Tic Tacs, anxiety causes bad breath (I am told).
Watch the episode of Friends where Phoebe meets Mike's parents and do the exact opposite of that...jk...sort of.
Just be the wonderful, beautiful self that your boyfriend fell in love with! I have no doubt they will see why he thinks your so amazing and you will be easily welcomed into their home. Just remember to relax (and breathe).
Good luck!!
if you are going to their home you should definitely bring something, and it won't hurt to ask him what his mom's favorite flowers or anything are. even if he says, don't worry about it they will love you anyway, insist that you ARE bringing something and it would be easier if he helped out in that regard. as a mom to a little man, sincerity is tops in my books for anyone that has any interaction with him, thats where being yourself comes in. a little kissing up won't hurt either, tell her what a great job she's done with him, use specific examples "i can't believe i'm dating a guy who does the dishes FOR me" things like that will be a tremendous compliment to her and will wow her. the key is sincerity though, cuz moms have a radar for bullshit, so don't compliment her or do something overly nice if you don't really mean it. and dont say he does dishes (or whatever) for you if he doesn't, cuz she will know that too lol it will make her wonder how sincere you are with her "baby". after the day/evening/dinner/whatever, send a thank you note or e-card or something just as a follow up. and don't be nervous, as hard as it sounds, amit is right, your man WILL be setting you up for success here he wants it to go as well as you do, if not more so. lastly, two drink MAXIMUM, even if you have to make a point of saying "no, that's it for me, thanks i'm driving" it will show them you are responsible. my little guy isnt dating yet, but when he IS, those will be the kinds of things that will make me say "hey, when are you bringing that lovely girl over again?"