Yes it annoys us for a few reasons:
1) You already know the answer. So why are you asking?
Unless you decide to put on a hot pink Hello Kitty onesie with some hoop earrings and put on a face that only Gene Simmons would love, you know good and doggone well that we're NOT going to say that you look a hot mess. So why are you asking?
2) It always feels like a setup for some insecurity you're having at that moment.
While this is probably men's fault, any time you ask us if you look good, it always seems as if we're going to say "yes" and then you're going to say "really? I think my butt looks like a pancake in this dress" which will force us to have to respond with some set of compliments that will hopefully be good enough for you to feel okay with your fashion choice. Basically, we hate that you're forcing us to compliment and validate you. We hate force unless it comes with a Darth Vader action figure.
3) Your asking means you might decide to change.
Which means we might be late to wherever we're supposed to be going or at the very least, delay our departure by at least 30 minutes. We hate delayed departures at the airport and at home. Even if we say "yes baby, you look like the woman every other woman wishes she could be" you might decide that you don't like how your butt looks. Men get ready quickly. It drives us nuts that you don't.
4) Ninety-five percent of all men are shallow.
So yes, you look good because we wouldn't date you if we felt otherwise.
It was written.
LOL... Because you may be right about us already knowing we look good -- and I'm not confirming that you are, but if you were -- AND because you had the guts to admit that maybe, just maybe, it is men's faults that we are a bit insecure about our appearances.
I mean, we can only watch you drool at Beyonce shaking her stuff for so long before we start to wonder...
And the last time I offered to a guy to start getting ready in 10 minutes every time, he flatly rejected it because he knew I would show up in jeans, a t-shirt, no make-up and whichever shoes were most comfortable and reasonably matched what I was wearing.
In other words, I was going to show up looking like him.
you know, as long as you were going to the movies it would be okay to be dressed down, so to speak. i like it when my woman looks good and is still comfortable.
What if we do get him a Darth Vader action figure? Will you all compliment us then?
Maybe if it talks, we can just get the action figure to tell us we look good.
best.advice.ever.
man, we could make millions with that. action figures that exist to compliment women so we dont have to.
its like everybody wins. how about a dildo that spews (no pun intended) compliments.
lol...wait, then what would you need men for?
To open jelly/peanutbutter/pretty much any kind of jars, and to kill spiders... yeah that's pretty much it!
We can get jar openers for that. It's moving furniture around that gets tricky.
But I'm already the one who takes care of all of that stuff.
This comedian (don't remember off hand which one) was talking about this in a routine, and said "next time your girlfriend says honeeeeyyyy, do these pants make my ass look fat?" you say "no babe, it's your FAT that makes you look fat....don't blame it on the jeans."
"And THAT will be the last time she asks your opinion"...
haha...just thought that was both horrible and delightfully funny.
Lesson to us all, ladies:
Act as though you look freakin amazing in WHATEVER you have on, and he will think the same!
:)
it might be the last time she asks, but it will only be the first of many arguments you'd have about your sensitivity. lol. AVOID THOSE AT ALL COSTS.
Bah, I could never date someone who cared so much about what I was wearing. I'm a jeans and t-shirt gal through and through when it isn't necessary for me to get all dressed up. I don't even own a pair of heels.
Its nice to know, after we put all the work into getting ready, that our man thinks we look hot, that he would be proud to be seen in public with us. And since many men don't just offer up those compliments, sadly, we have to fish for them by asking.
Guys: dont want us to ask? How about just complimenting and reassuring us sometimes?
Not to mention, sometimes, the way something fits changes how we look, and we sincerely would like to know if our mirrors are lying : ). No one wants to walk out of the house looking like an idiot, its your jobs to make sure we look good before we go. So suck it up!
: )
@Nataliesmommy
Don't act like our complimenting and reassuring you is going to change anything. I make it a point to randomly do this whether or not my girlfriend is getting ready or is actually dressed up. Why? Because I genuinely think she looks good. My girlfriend will STILL try on 4 different things and complain that nothing looks right, before we can even consider leaving the house.
@Azure
Really? Ya wanna know how much time we as guys spend being insecure about Taye Diggs? It pretty much amounts to nothing. My girl finds plenty of entertainers and models smoking hot and I'll admit, many are hotter than myself. Somehow though, I can deal. I understand that my girl really does like me for me and that I do have some things going well for myself ; ).
Furthermore Azure, there are ways for you to get ready in under 30, which still allow you to look decent. It really should not take longer to throw on a dress then it should to throw on a shirt and jeans. Really, scientifically speaking, it shouldn't.