You should go and meet a guy who is loud and proud. Loud and proud? Is that right? Someone who is gay and happy to be so. Someone who is comfortable in his skin, knows what he wants, and has made the difficult decision to be open with himself and others about his identity.

Maybe you're drawn to the challenge of a guy on the fence, but the way I see it, that's a formula for drama and heartbreak. Take the first exit off his road to self-discovery. This guy is using you to find himself, and who knows, maybe you like banging him. But right now, he's not relationship material.

Research shows that most people are a little bisexual. We don't all act on it, or ache for it. But very few people are 100% heterosexual. For instance, Alexander Skarsgard, who plays Eric in True Blood? He is a very pretty man. Slap some boobs on him, give him a lady vuvuzela and I'd hit that. But that's as gay as I go. Well, I also love Glee. WHAT?

My point is that sexual preference is about, ultimately, who you can love. Who you want to love, and be with. In my experience, I have found that most people swing one way or the other. I love women. I want to make one miserable for the rest of her life one day.

The guy you're dating/not dating needs to be honest with himself. Sounds like he has a long way to go.