Been there, done that, from the guy's perspective. And yes, it is both depressing and enraging to be single on Valentines Day. There are a couple of things you should try that do help.
Pamper yourself.
Spend some time loving yourself (no, not that way! GAH, you lot have filthy minds!). Long soak, candles, a nice meal, a favorite film. Buy something you like and want. You know, get to know you again. Being nice to the person you live with, day in and day out. It is an acceptable substitute.
Laugh
Have you ever watched Mystery Science Theatre 3000. Of course you have, you are not culturally illiterate. Well, the TV pumps out tons of romantic movies on Valentines. Grab a couple of friends in the same boat and MST3K the crap out of those films. Wine, popcorn and laughter with friends is the best medicine.
Get out there.
With Valentines being on a Monday this year, all the couples that clog up the restaurants with their foolishness and jet off for a romantic break are going to be doing that on the weekend of the 12th/13th. That means most of the guys left in the clubs and bars are definitely single and feeling just as lonely and angry as you. Get yourself out there, strut your stuff and get yourself some. Seriously, Valentines weekend is like shooting fish in a barrel, as far as hooking up is concerned.
And, who knows? Clearing out the taken guys means you take a clearer look at what is left.
I have tried all three. The second works the best.
I recommend sleep. Reading Kafka somewhat helps too, oddly enough. But generally unconsciousness (if you can afford it) is the way to go. If at work just try to hide, ditto with school.
Depressing much? I think "cultivate a positive attitude despite tough circumstances" is better advice than "sleep and hide to forget your problems". I especially don't get the "hide" thing, seeing as being single is not something to be ashamed of.
nothing to be ashamed of. But it's noisy and full of hype and whatever, which I hate. Like most holidays. I hide during those too (alas, CNY is coming...)
MM, if you like MST3K, you should try watching Rifftrax. It's the same guys but they do a lot of modern movies and some really obscure ones too.
Thanks MM, I will definitely try these out!
Sheesh, you are getting nicer.
sheesh, you are getting nicer.
One of my favorite things to do is pick up some chocolates and exchange them with a friend. I've got a standing date with my best friend to either go to a Valentine's showing of The Princess Bride at our local theater or to have a movie/baking night sleepover. Sometimes just having 'girl time' makes you feel happy that you weren't obligated to spend the day with someone else.
MST3K is bitchin. I like that it can be agreed to be a perfectly adequate substitute for a special other person.
On Valentine's DAY send yourself some flowers! You must love yourself before you can expect anyone can. There is nothing wrong with appreciating yourself. Don't send yourself roses; looking at them will make you feel sad that someone else did not send them. I suggest white daisies because they are crisp and just make you feel happy.
On Valentine's NIGHT start a project that will consume all of your time such as... freshly paint your bathroom with a clean, crisp color that makes you happy. You awaken to results that will give you an uplifted spirit the next morning because of your accomplishment and simply because of the way it looks.
The reward will last you longer than one evening.
You may not have a date for Valentine's Day and that only means that your true love is still out there, you haven't settled for anything less. When you do meet your special someone, you can celebrate love on any day - and should. Valentine's Day is a marketing holiday, and sure it's nice to celebrate; however, remember that any day can be special when you share a day with someone and that day feels like it belongs to only you and him. Cherish that feeling in your heart...the best is always worth the wait.
Last year I had a Valentine potluck...invited friends over (married and single) and we ate, laughed, and drank a lot...it was a GREAT time. But then it doesn't bother me a whole lot that I'm single....I haven't found anybody that I can put up with yet....
Am I among the few who truly don't mind being single on Valentine's? In fact, I just broke up with my (now ex) boyfriend two days ago. I think too many of us are caught up in being in relationships for the sake of being in a relationship. I like with someone WHEN IT'S RIGHT, and I dearly miss my independence when it's not. Maybe I just love flirting without ties and being able to do whatever I want, but I embrace my single status!
" I like with someone WHEN IT'S RIGHT I dearly miss my independence when it's not. Maybe I just love flirting without ties and being able to do whatever I want, but I embrace my single status!"
I could not agree more!!