Wow. Frankly, I'm kinda stumped. I have never heard of a tall, curvy gal with gorgeous eyes having trouble finding a guy. You learn something new every day. That said, I have a couple ideas:
1. Find better guys. It doesn't sound like you hang around the highest class of dudes. For one thing, they seem to be shy nerds who stare slack-jawed at you like deer in headlights (no pun intended). Nothing wrong with a shy nerd, but if a guy's staring silently at your chest and not making conversation, that's probably a sign that he's not going to be worth your time. I'm not saying you should seek out alpha male d-bags, but perhaps it's time to find guys who will actually look you in the eyes once in a while while making conversation .
2. Examine your personality. I'm sure you're a very sweet person (all GuySpeak readers are), so we won't worry about that. If guys are friendly to you, but aren't making the move to ask you out, it could be due to the vibe you're giving off. Do you come off as arrogant? Often we can appear to be snotty or disinterested without realizing it. Take a look at the way you act around guys. Are you "one of the guys," and immediately put yourself in the friend zone?
Or are you shy around guys? If so, does your shyness come off as aloof or snooty? You seem to be too focused on your looks. Work to make yourself as well-rounded a person as you can be by exploring new hobbies, reading, traveling, etc. You are more than just a pair of eyes and large breasts!
Maybe try online dating. You can project different aspects of your personality through an online profile; you won't just be "that tall brunette who guys are afraid to talk to." Search out social activities (sports teams, board game groups, karaoke, themed dance nights) that suit your interests. Ask friends to set you up with pals, relatives, and coworkers. Make sure you're going to as many parties and social events as you can.
It's time you took your dating destiny into your own hands. Don't wait around for a guy to ask you out-- walk up to him and ask him to go have coffee. Compliment his Arcade Fire t-shirt. Ask him what Nintendo DS game he's playing. Follow the motto of cheerleaders the world over and be aggressive, be-be aggressive.
1. Find better guys. It doesn't sound like you hang around the highest class of dudes. For one thing, they seem to be shy nerds who stare slack-jawed at you like deer in headlights (no pun intended). Nothing wrong with a shy nerd, but if a guy's staring silently at your chest and not making conversation, that's probably a sign that he's not going to be worth your time. I'm not saying you should seek out alpha male d-bags, but perhaps it's time to find guys who will actually look you in the eyes once in a while while making conversation .
2. Examine your personality. I'm sure you're a very sweet person (all GuySpeak readers are), so we won't worry about that. If guys are friendly to you, but aren't making the move to ask you out, it could be due to the vibe you're giving off. Do you come off as arrogant? Often we can appear to be snotty or disinterested without realizing it. Take a look at the way you act around guys. Are you "one of the guys," and immediately put yourself in the friend zone?
Or are you shy around guys? If so, does your shyness come off as aloof or snooty? You seem to be too focused on your looks. Work to make yourself as well-rounded a person as you can be by exploring new hobbies, reading, traveling, etc. You are more than just a pair of eyes and large breasts!
Maybe try online dating. You can project different aspects of your personality through an online profile; you won't just be "that tall brunette who guys are afraid to talk to." Search out social activities (sports teams, board game groups, karaoke, themed dance nights) that suit your interests. Ask friends to set you up with pals, relatives, and coworkers. Make sure you're going to as many parties and social events as you can.
It's time you took your dating destiny into your own hands. Don't wait around for a guy to ask you out-- walk up to him and ask him to go have coffee. Compliment his Arcade Fire t-shirt. Ask him what Nintendo DS game he's playing. Follow the motto of cheerleaders the world over and be aggressive, be-be aggressive.
I can't say I'm anywhere near being a 40D, but I think I'm in a similar situation. Most guys (alright, all of them) fall into one of these categories:
- shy nerds (I'm around mathematicians all day, no wonder)
- the wrong kind of weird people who have sometimes asked me out
- friends (which means I automatically place them in my friend zone)
By curvy, do you mean fat? Because that could solve the mystery.
Or she's got a butteface.
Wow, I have to say that the last 2 commentators are just total assholes! I am plus sized and I have always had men interested in me and in my body. There are plenty of men interested in plus sized women. Commenter: I would ignore the last two jackass comments if I were you. I suspect that you need to learn the fine art of flirting with men. The more that you do it, the more comfortable and easy it will become. Flirt with anyone you find attractive in your day to day life, talk in a low voice, make eye contact, smile and look away, flip your hair, etc.. Work on your confidence and flirting skills and you will find that men are interested. Good luck.
that is terrible, you need a date!
good luck and don't give up!
men are great fun
also, are you girlfriends helping you out?
if not, time to reexamine your relationships with them.
are they helping you are hurting your efforts in finding a man for you!
just a thought
A lot of guys are intimidated by taller women. I'm definitely not one of them. Some guys have issues with their own masculinity so it's not like they can keep an open mind for the taller ladies. If you're a really tall girl with a strict preference for men just as tall or taller than you, you have nobody to blame but yourself. Tall women who fail to acknowledge shorter guys as potential boyfriends deserve to stay single and lonely. There are short guys who like tall girls with big boobs, long legs and lots of curves. This 5'5 guy is proud to say I one of them. The worst thing you can do as a tall girl is slouch. Stand up straight, accentuate your height, keep your head up and try to stay positive. Not all guys are jerks and you really wouldn't want to date a man who's lacking in confidence would you? He'll have issues just being in public or holding hands with you.